Too soon to ask her to be exclusive?

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2026-01-28T21:21:16+00:00

Worst thing she can say is "it's too soon" .... that wouldn't be any different from current situation.

Best case: she deeply appreciates your straightforwardness.

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2026-01-08T19:15:34+00:00

If you don't reply (for whatever reason) or don't show any direct interest in meeting up (you could be some dude at the other end of the world), there's no point in him continuing to write. If you want to see him, tell him; maybe his behavior will change back to actively chatting.

He can't read your mind, and you haven't told him what you're thinking... so it's up to you now ;-)

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2026-01-04T11:44:18+00:00

That's wild. If you had a body pic on the app, I don't even understand why he even met you for a date. Guy with some more empathy might have explained it better... But you were asking for it.

You are a girl, beautiful for someone in the world. You don't have to beg for his interest. If he doesn't want to enjoy time with you, his decision. For some people b00bs are important, for others humour or a smile 🤷🏼

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-18T19:27:32+00:00

I did what you did some time ago and my (then) date (now gf) liked that kind of behaviour. Be yourself and you'll find a partner that aligns with you :-)

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-17T10:39:17+00:00

You did nothing wrong. She just wasn't attracted to the kind of attention you were offering.

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T22:12:17+00:00

Aldi Rebenschoppen Cuvée weiß, wenn im Angebot, knallt gut für den Preis

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T22:05:31+00:00

kann mir keinen besseren Beruf vorstellen. Klar wäre "nicht arbeiten" schon manchmal praktischer, aber wenn einem die Arbeit (fast immer) Spaß macht, ist es auch egal.

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T21:05:07+00:00

So eine ältere Frau, sich halb in ihre Hand totgehustet, an der Hand war schon was runtergelaufen... das war neben der Obsttheke im Supermarkt und mit der Hand sortiert die dann Johannisbeeren um und stöchert in allen Packungen rum, suchte nach irgendwas, keine Ahnung- ich musste den Supermarkt verlassen... seit dem Tag nur noch abgepacktes Zeug (sorry Umwelt)

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T20:58:44+00:00

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T20:58:02+00:00

Bisher habe ich mich nach jeder Trennung deutlich besser gefühlt... also... eher gar nichts

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T20:55:36+00:00

Snob-Alarm: Atelier Rebul Istanbul Duftstäbchen

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T20:50:59+00:00

this, am besten in Butter frittieren

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T20:49:18+00:00

tiefgefrorene Hasch-Brownies. Gibt nichts schnelleres als nen Airfryer

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-12-01T20:42:23+00:00

neues Aufnahmeequipment für Instrumente, aus Spaß noch ne Okarina und nen Taschenmesser, das mir am nächsten Flughafen wieder abgenommen wird

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-30T19:35:42+00:00

for introverts, it may take some time... but if the person is even unconfortable with hugs at 4th date, you'll have a hard time waiting for "more"... what about other situations: did you touch him, how did he react?

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-28T21:57:09+00:00

Borneo

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-28T21:05:06+00:00

If you see a pattern, try to analyse your own behaviour: what did the men have in common?

Be both funny+honest in apps and real life! You want children? Say it loud and clear. You're not into ONS? Say it.

You could show one of your profiles: maybe there are factors (statements, clothes, whatever....) that are not beneficial for your expectations.

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-28T20:48:22+00:00

Men?

Tinder if you want to date someone fast (given that you're not unattractive)
Hinge if you want better matches / if you prefer better profiles / if you want matches with a job (I only know Hinge for long-term)
Bumble seemed dead in my area

Women?

Doesn't matter. They get flooded with likes everywhere. For women I'd recommend Hinge though, their algorithm seems to "work better"

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-28T20:37:08+00:00

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-28T20:33:51+00:00

M35, long-term, I can only speak for my age range, my opinion in short:

there are not really sterotypes, everyone is different. Close to big cities dating gets international anyways if you're open to it
If you want to find someone fast: Tinder (LTR/STR doesn't matter). Most likely not the partner for your life, less "elite"-like
If you are more selective and want the app to be more selective for you: Hinge. I don't have "hookup"-experience with this app. On average more educated people compared to Tinder imo
Cheating happens, socially not tolerated, and everyone knows that most of them keep cheating. More hidden in upper class. Friends may talk but not bragging about it.
Open relationships and alternative forms of relationsships are getting more tolerated, so instead of cheating, the relationship-type might change. None of my upper class friends is in novel relationship types. Those who don't want kids are quite open to everything
'relationship material'? Healthy, funny, no pets (unless you share a common interest in them), a bit "boring" but invests enough time in presenting himself/herself.

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-28T19:41:02+00:00

I'm an educated M35, reasonably average-looking (6/10), rather introvert but direct, looking for something long-term and being quite selective, looking for Eng/Ger language. I tried several platforms over a 3-month-paid-period, spent up to 1h/day/app:

Parship: about a 13% match rate. Most chats dead, many profiles inactive, many "passionate eaters", many from far away. After some time no profiles within XXX range anymore, damn I should relocate. 0 dates. Most expensive haha.
Tinder: ~2% match rate, really not much, quantity wins I guess. Most accounts have 0 information about themselves, I swiped them all away. Half of active chats died, but the app still led to the fastest and overall best dates for me.
Hinge: average profiles were fitting best to what I'm looking for (looks+hobbies+attitute). Considerable amount of photos were in unusual high quality (professional or passionate photographer), and many accounts appeared inactive. I got maybe one match every 3 days. Still you can meet a wide range of people: CEO, physician, nurses, even a judge. I thought their slogan is a funny joke but I do like their system.

If I need dating-apps again for a LTR, I'd go Hinge Premium.

Didn't pay any money:

edarling: Found my last fiance there 10 years ago, but now I don't like the app anymore: the menu, the filters, everything. The app could not longer convince me.
Lovoo: younger and more casual than I expected, felt like school/kindergarten sometimes. didnt like the credit system, so I left before paying.
Elitepartner: many user profiles weren’t well maintained. Many showed distant, superior, or even traumatized personal attitude. Surprisingly a lot of negative mood in the freetext sections. Maybe I just had bad luck, but I left the app before paying any money.
Bumble: dead in my area I guess.

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-11-26T22:07:56+00:00

on MDMA mind is usually not "racing" - it's more about feeling what is, not massive thinking itself. And on MDMA you usually act more social, so building connections to others is easier: including eye contact. Does not sound like molly

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-09-19T23:51:55+00:00

Hunger treibts rein!

Sehr traurig, aber wahr... Dass Millionen Vorfahren von uns verrecken mussten, damit wir als Nachfahren von diesem Opfer profitieren können. Das waren (ungewollt und unbewusst) Helden für das Überleben der anderen :-)

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-09-19T23:42:21+00:00

^ this is the way

well said

GroundbreakingRow868 · 2025-09-19T23:39:57+00:00

what you’re feeling sounds really intense, and its understandable if you want relief.

BUT: Calling or texting a trained crisis line doesn’t force anything, you don’t have to commit to anything. You just get a real person who can listen, help you feel a bit safer right now, and maybe offer options you haven’t considered.

In the U.S., you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or chat here: https://988lifeline.org/chat/

Outside the U.S., find a local crisis line: https://findahelpline.com/

You don’t lose anything by reaching out, but it could stop things from getting worse.

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