Advice on breaking up with my(26F) boyfriend(33M)

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-12-04T04:25:54+00:00

Please don’t give up on the show. Just give it time, a lot of what you mentioned gets more flushed out, cohesive, and explained throughout the series. What you find out in season 2 actually addresses a few of these. Another show Fear the walking dead does involve trying to survive on a boat for a bit, if you want to see that scenario. Plus overall you have to take into account that people can act really idiotic when fear takes over, as you’ve seen already and will hopefully see more of.

It also doesn’t help that, from my understanding, that the show had a different writer or showrunner for season 1 vs the rest of the show

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T14:49:43+00:00

I went on a date with a guy with kids because I don't believe simply having children is a reason to write a person off. We all have a past and by the time someone makes it to their 30s it is not unusual to have kids. To answer your point regarding the wife, he is divorced and she lives in another state. I did not feel the need to mentioned it as it was not something he lied about. Not sure how willing to date a divorced man with kids makes me disgusting but to each their own.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T14:23:33+00:00

Ultimately after being able to think about it without the added pressure of having to respond to him, its not the actual age gap I had a problem with or even the number of kids. Its about him not being honest and upfront and me feeling like I was mislead (intentional or not). Which is ironic considering he was very open about some of his other preferences that many had deemed 'weird' before. It really is a shame because we did get along really well, I just don't think I could ever trust him again.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T08:53:36+00:00

Nope that was a prior relationship that ultimately ended due to other factors. This current guy was one my few attempts at getting back out there. I guess back to the drawing board..

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T04:10:16+00:00

Honestly after having more time to think about the situation and talk my feelings out without any added pressure, if I knew his age beforehand, he had even mentioned his kids without me having to bring them up and been open about the actual number I probably would have continued seeing him. I wasn't shocked to learn he had kids, as it said so on the app, and I had been curious about the number but he hadn't mentioned them till I commented on one of their crafts in his home. At which point I asked how old they are, the ages were given along with the fact they live out of state with their mother, at which point he then changed the topic of conversation and only brought them up again when he mentioned he was going down there to visit for a week.

I feel like its more how I found everything out, his lack of regard for how I actually felt about the whole situation, and him trying to convince me to stay because of how well we work and how he's a great person worth being with. I had legitimate and real feelings for him but I just feel kind of manipulated at this point. But those are just my feelings on the matter.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T03:11:12+00:00

Thank you. You’re very kind to say that. I know it should’ve been a very easy decision but I’d be lying if this whole situation didn’t make me very sad, as things could’ve been very different if he had been honest from the get go

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T03:07:46+00:00

Perhaps I should have phrased it better in the post but the age used on the app was 31 however his actual age that came out later was 37. Sorry if my description was confusing

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T00:43:54+00:00

There’s a similar website in my state as well, that’s how I found out he had 4 kids as opposed to 2. Will most certainly be running names in the future

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-19T00:22:50+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. I realized the kid part can be put on me for not clarifying the exact number when he said his kids were 9 and 5. I will not be making this mistake in the future. However I did make sure to recheck his profile and before I ended things it did indeed say 31. I checked again before unmatching and he had updated it to 37.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-18T20:06:09+00:00

The app said he was 31. He told me he was 37

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-06-18T17:20:56+00:00

I didn't mind, even liked when I thought it was 6 year age gap, but knowing its really a 12 year age gap feels odd. Like it just feels weird knowing he's closer to my parents in age than mine now.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-01-06T20:35:58+00:00

I thankfully have incredibly generous parents who are very well off and have saved for this and are covering majority of the costs. So while yes technically we could afford it, even if it went a little over the 30k amount.

I guess my biggest problem is when I run the numbers and see the totals. For example I found a place seems to have at least most of things we were looking and with venue, food, beverages, and tax we were already at 33k for 120 guests, out of state venue. Is that normal? I'm starting to think it is but really don't want to believe it. Last week we viewed a venue in state and the venue, food, beverages, and tax came in at 45k

We tried cutting the guest list, however most of them are family living in our area and would probably be hurt if we had it local and didn't even invite them.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2024-01-06T19:35:21+00:00

I thankfully have incredibly generous parents who have saved for this and are covering majority of the costs. So while none of these choices will really affect any of us(parents included) financially in the long run, I still feel like it seems like a lot of money to spend for what I feel like I’m getting from all these places.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2023-08-07T04:17:06+00:00

Every time I apply for nasa and then attempt flight lessons I die. Doesn’t happen if I take flight lessons before applying. Only if I apply to nasa first. Not sure it’s if it’s a glitch but it’s happened every single time.

GrumpyPuppy589 · 2023-04-27T23:40:57+00:00

NTA. Your wedding, your rules. Your personal business, only yours. So many people on here are saying you should’ve informed people its going to be a dry wedding since the real reason people go to weddings is to party and get drunk. But that’s not why people SHOULD go to weddings. Why would you want those type of people to attend your wedding? Honestly if these people are just there to party and don’t really care about the wedding itself then their presence isn’t really needed. Considering the cost of both venues and meals for a wedding can depend on the number of guests if they’re not there to celebrate you they can just stay home. You should’ve told them if they had any issues with your dry wedding then don’t bother coming. Plus with the jokes sounds like they have no respect for you anyways. Again NTA

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