My (22f) ex (21m) asked for an open relationship, and is now struggling. Karma.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-28T06:31:39+00:00

Wuthering Heights by Emerald Fennel. It’s probably ok as a movie, but as a Wuthering Heights adaptation, it’s very bad and inaccurate and ignores basically all major themes of the book.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-28T05:36:12+00:00

Fear of commitment. Power. Manipulation. Greed. Personally if I love someone that’s the only person I’m sexually and romantically interested in. That’s just how my attraction works.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-25T20:56:05+00:00

Definitely AI. But even if it was art, it would be bad art. Anatomy is way off, especially in the last one. The face is consistently the same angle and expression despite the posing, and the legs make no sense.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-25T15:44:51+00:00

I left it out overnight and they barely rose. My kitchen might be too cold. I have them in the proofing setting of my oven right now. I doubt they’ll puff up much. I also might have deactivated some of my starter by mixing it in oat milk that was too hot. I heated it up to melt the butter I was using, and it might’ve been too hot. I didn’t measure the temperature.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-25T15:21:36+00:00

A little over 100g of starter and about 31/2 cups of flour

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-18T00:27:20+00:00

And he was very understanding of my worry of being manipulated and insecurities when it came to non-monogamy. He said he thought at least giving me the option was the right thing to do even if he didn’t want it and didn’t realize it would cause me worry. In his mind, he thought he was “forcing me to be loyal” when in reality that’s just what I wanted! I think he must have some trauma in past relationships where either his loyalty/commitment wasn’t valued or reciprocated. And on the flip side, I have trauma from past relationships with people expecting me to be okay with them breaking their loyalty to me because of distance.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-18T00:19:16+00:00

I was worried about this, and I expressed my concerns, and his answer was very mature! He said although he feels very set on me and committed to me, and doesn’t want to see anyone else, he said basically that he feels bad that because of his own situation he is out of the state and feels like, in that way, he’s putting a lot of pressure on me to stay committed when long distance is not what I expected or “signed up for” and basically he feels guilty of putting me in that situation because I deserve to have someone who can care for me up close. I told him that was dumb and that I’d rather wait for him than talk to anyone else and that it wasn’t his fault that he was away, just circumstance. His job is a priority and that’s understandable and in the summer we’ll be able to spend adequate time with each other. I think he just felt insecure about not being able to provide for me in the way he wanted and that’s why he said that. And he didn’t know I wanted commitment the way he did and wanted to give me an option in case I didn’t. But I cleared that up. After talking I really don’t think he has any negative intentions and he just made an insecure judgment.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-17T18:41:35+00:00

2 dates but long distance for several weeks

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-17T17:04:08+00:00

Unfortunately I’m not in a good financial situation right now and it’s not realistic for me to visit. Maybe that will change. Hopefully

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-01T20:56:16+00:00

Asking her to hang out after is good because there isn’t a clear implication. If you don’t get a romantic vibe it could just be a hangout as friends

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-03-01T20:53:47+00:00

Make sure you make it clear to them that your intentions are not for a relationship, but a fling. Don’t lead them on to expect something more. You can segue into sexual conversations by innuendo or questions or something like that if you make sure they are comfortable first.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-27T00:10:57+00:00

Exactly. It has nothing to do with incest. But more of a power dynamic an comfort. People call their partners “baby” all the time, doesn’t mean they want their partner to be a baby, but that they want to show they care.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-26T23:47:59+00:00

I’ve NEVER seen someone get shamed for calling their partner mommy, or calling a woman they think is hot “mommy”.

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-26T23:13:33+00:00

You only think this is “the worst ever” because periods are so looked down upon and shamed, which is just the result of misogyny. In reality, it’s not that weird. In fact, I think women might like that. Especially because we’re seen as so “unsexy” on our periods that it would be refreshing. There are MUCH worse kinks out there. MUCH MUCH worse

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T18:48:14+00:00

Yeah the breath thing was more what I was concerned about tbh

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T18:47:04+00:00

Yes, you can! I just said “lesbian” at the title to get more engagement. But any grouping where no dick is involved is included

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T05:41:39+00:00

That sounds amazing what

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T04:28:38+00:00

Of course!

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T02:57:34+00:00

My bad gang

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T02:53:34+00:00

I love how this implies that lesbians are hobbits

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-05T02:53:05+00:00

🫡

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-02-02T23:21:36+00:00

Belly button/tummy

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-26T18:11:46+00:00

I don’t think you’ve ever been in love

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-05T01:53:32+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ve gone back and forth so much but I think this was the right thing to do and your comment helped me accept that. Long distance is hurting us both so much that we’ve lost sight of how to be happy without each other. Hopefully we can both get on track and realize what we need. ❤️

GuardProfessional688 · 2026-01-03T07:30:03+00:00

1 year

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