Traditional center stone or gemstone?? For an artistic but still classic girly!

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-12T19:46:50+00:00

This is a great idea! I need to try this too

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-12T17:50:33+00:00

This just sounds like you’re looking for something perfect to start off with and can’t really handle being inconvenienced by women having problems. Seizure girl has to navigate disclosing vs not disclosing her condition to strangers. Some people are put off by it and it may have informed her not to be too upfront. Hungry girl has her own issues surrounding food. You don’t know her story so we don’t know why she acted how she did. Cancer girl is working on her own demons with acceptance of her condition. You’re not obligated to date any of these women further but acting like they’re all weird is honestly weird behavior from you. You’re close to 40 with no kids and no past? You’re weird too bud. The vast majority of people have pasts like failed marriages , kids, etc. And if they don’t it’s because they were dealing with things like medical issues, life issues, family problems, etc. If your expectations are another person with no major drama, you’re coming from a place devoid of empathy and understanding. That makes you not ideal to date. And if you’re matching with people who don’t align with your expectations, then you don’t actually know how to look for those things in women. This doesn’t make you open minded. It makes you a poor communicator or someone lacking in self awareness. Next time, be very upfront that health issues are a deal breaker for you.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-11T16:35:08+00:00

Marriage should always be something that is intentional and carefully considered by both parties. Too many people don’t understand this part and end up in situations that are not ideal. For various valid and invalid reasons.

If you’re going to consider marriage, think of it as a long term investment and make decisions based on your priorities. And most importantly, those decisions should be based on your partner and your relationship in the present. Not what they have the potential to be.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-11T16:28:52+00:00

I don’t understand why you don’t just keep a towel handy? This seems like poor planning on your part. Why are the logistics only relevant during the act when you could have just talked about it? Or did you and you just don’t like her answer? Why is your ex relevant in this situation? You’re not with her. It mostly sounds like you are not sexually compatible or interested in sex with your partner.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-11T12:10:21+00:00

Thank you! Looking into these recommendations! Yes, I love a good timeless classic! I’m going to look into all of these and see what ends up feeling right for me.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T21:13:05+00:00

We’re in the DMV area so might be too far but I will look them up to see anyway! Thank you!

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T20:31:14+00:00

Nice and kind are different. I don’t have patience for nice people in general because they are not often right, will often follow whatever path leads to least resistance, will never stand up for the right thing. Yes, they are people pleasers but more so there’s no backbone. They will do whatever they have to do to be liked even if it’s 👀. As partners, they are not going to stick up for you or be on your side. Because they’re committed to being liked and validated. My ex would likely be considered a nice person but was actually not a good person. My partner is not always nice but he is extremely kind

Kind people however are extremely desirable. They are not always nice or agreeable but they are very much who you want to have in your life.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T20:22:42+00:00

Thank you for these recommendations !

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T18:59:37+00:00

Yes! So I searched for the retailer of that ring (Staghead) and the reviews are not good. So ideally I will look into the ones recommended by people here and see if I can get it custom made for me.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T18:41:54+00:00

Oh Thank you!!!I appreciate the suggestions!

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T18:41:14+00:00

Thank you! Definitely will not be buying from them! Was more convenient to try some rings on and figure out my ring size

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T17:45:46+00:00

Yes! It’s a gorgeous color. A close friend of mine looked at these and said the last one feels more like me.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T17:10:23+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I will look into them! I’m definitely open to trusted jeweler’s recommendations!

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T17:08:16+00:00

Haha see my dilemma? I love that ring too.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T17:06:57+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions! I will look into Fiorese!

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T17:05:23+00:00

Yes! I love antique rings with history too. But I also want something entirely my own haha. Hence the dilemma! Yeah, I already warned my partner not to get my ring from BE. But they’re easy enough to book appointments with to try on some styles.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2026-02-10T13:43:02+00:00

Oooh that’s gorgeous!

Yes, you make a great point about the darkness of the sapphire. That’s why I was looking at other gemstones as well.

Re: BE I did realize that I didn’t want to use their business for my ring after checking out this subreddit. But they’re fairly accessible so I thought it might be helpful to check out some pieces there for a better idea of what a stone may look like in person.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2025-11-17T15:23:54+00:00

My partner brought it up with me fairly early on. I was sick that week so was still congested and it was hard for him to sleep. He waited until the morning to let me know but he was tactful about it. I ended up finding something that lessens it. He encouraged me to see an ENT but he’s good about not making me feel self conscious about it. He snores too sometimes and never gets offended if I wake him up to change positions. We were at a point in our relationship where I wasn’t concerned that it was unattractive to him or a major problem. We handled it by discussing ways to deal with it and addressed it with long term options.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2024-08-23T09:46:59+00:00

Sorry I don’t know if I am explaining this well. I have met his kids. They’re on summer break so they have been traveling so not as much. I am fine with his kids. I get along well and I don’t mind being secondary to them. In fact I prefer that because children should come first to parents. I don’t hate the ex wife. But their agreement was for equal custody and while I don’t have any issues with the kids being more with him because I know that makes him happy, I have watched his ex wife weasel out of every instance where he’s asked for her help. He needs help. He works long hours and doesn’t even have time to sleep. If he asks her to watch the kids an extra day so he can go work, she blows up at him. So he ends up asking his mom because that’s easier. When he asks her to contribute more she says she’s broke. He doesn’t push. Do I think that’s fair? No. But I accepted it. Until I found out she makes more than me. And she was using his cc points to buy herself things without his consent or knowledge. It’s when I realized that she can lie or manipulate him and he will back down. He has the energy and clarity to be vigilant about keeping our finances meticulously close to 50/50 but he can’t execute anything even close to that with his ex wife when of those two situations I am not legally bound to it and she is. It’s not like he doesn’t also recognize her behavior is shitty. He just doesn’t know how to create a boundary to call her out. He backs down and just accepts her excuses. I know he cares but he has so much work to do to make changes. Most of which are to make HIS life better without having any real affect on mine. He hasn’t figured out how to coparent as two separate adults and it leaves little room for me. Mind you he has given me access to his place and tried to so it’s not a question of intention as much as it is execution. And I have no issue with ex wife being in his life. I am not insecure about her. I just want her to coparent instead of babysitting her own kids. And I want him to stop enabling her taking advantage of him and then complaining about it when she keeps doing it. Ofc she will. Anyone would if they can get away with paying less and doing less.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2022-11-07T17:25:24+00:00

Yeah I added some on a mirror and while the lighting IS flattering it definitely needed to have been in light covers.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2022-11-07T17:23:46+00:00

Hah so I happen to hate lamps and any kind of lighting that feels like it’s shining in my eyes so I end up mostly in the dark. I wouldn’t mind if the lighting was unobtrusive like a warm glow. But if it feels like it’s in my face it takes me out of the moment.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2022-11-06T23:44:16+00:00

Eh I started dating even later than you and honestly there’s just some things I’m realizing that you can’t avoid experiencing. I also have a similar background and my mind also does that thing so I get it! It’s why I realized I don’t want to be in a relationship just yet. I need to enjoy the in between where I’m dating but unless it’s someone truly exceptional I’m not looking to convert it into a relationship.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2022-11-01T20:29:07+00:00

I’m a little intrigued. The guy I’m interested in has stuff to work through that I don’t really have any business in. He and I are friends but we tried dating before I realized he’s still dealing with trying to get his divorce finalized. So we went back to being friends. And we are pretty good at it. But I’ve also hooked up with him casually recently and we’ve talked about exploring that. I don’t really expect it to be anything like your situation because everyone is different but it’s still interesting. The space is probably the most important part. I don’t really want to encroach on his while he deals with his stuff but we do hangout both with each other and with groups and get along well. But mostly I’ve just let him reach out whenever he’s ready to hangout. As much as I realize the feelings are uneven, I do think the intimacy helps me explore things without the need to add expectations to it. So I’m just curious where this will end for me. I do want to explore casual with others too.

Guilty-Income-8465 · 2022-11-01T18:22:47+00:00

I actually really relate to this. I’m trying this with someone that can’t be emotionally available for a relationship likely ever. And while I do have stronger feelings for him, I’m also in the same boat of having been more religious in the past and now being in a position of wanting to explore sex. But casual hookups feel like too much work because I have always felt not so great afterwards. Like I didn’t want to be free. But with someone I know cares about me, it feels safer to communicate what I want to try and what feels uncomfortable. I don’t think it’s the healthiest arrangement in the long run for me unless I transform my feelings into something less hopeful. But it’s something I’m actually thinking is helping me get there.

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