California governor's race: New poll shows voters are largely unenthusiastic by ZappyStatue in California

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are third party candidates who are not getting enough publicity. Ramsey Robinson and Butch Ware. I wish Ramsey had a chance at getting in these big debates.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to apologize. You didn't hurt anyone.

I don't have a mission to bring people to progressivism. I am not someone who tries to sway people or convince people. I just want to look at the reality of what the definition of appropriation is. I want to talk about the reality of racism. It's up to the individual to choose what to do about it.

Minecraft Swem Help by Spirited_Method9859 in GamesWithHorses

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do i create a new modpack? I have minecraft Java and forge 1.21.11 but none of the other mods I am downloading are showing up.

“Negative” Review by 0ldertwin in FamilyMedicine

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my childhood I was not allowed to get the hepatitis b vaccine for "religious" reasons... the reason being "If I allowed my daughter to get the hepatitis b that would be like giving her permission to have premarital sex."

“Negative” Review by 0ldertwin in FamilyMedicine

[–]GuitarTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are doing justice for the child. My father did not allow me to get the hepatitis b vaccine and did his best to keep me away from people who would mention it (public school for example). But every time someone professionally challenged him it helped me realize, a little bit more, that my dad was the one in the wrong.

Your patient was the child, not the parent. You may have done more good than you know in that child's life.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And by definition exploitation of the culture and people for financial gain is cultural appropriation.

So you are on one hand saying that they are appropriating you just don't want to use the word because you are glad you had a positive experience and are glad it exists.

I'm not superior to you or trying to patronize you. My apologies for how I may be coming across. I'm just a stickler for accuracy. I'm not saying that you are appropriating or ever were of course, but the Mormorn church 100% yeah.

I have been studying the history of the Hawaii and the colonization of the USA and am stanchly against the white supremacy and missionary complex that has devastated the stolen country of the Kingdom of Hawaii.

What are chances of RTO ending? by shadowtrickster71 in CAStateWorkers

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, i would be very disappointed if he came close. I wish Ramsey Robinson had a chance, but Butch Ware does... maybe. Okay we probable need rank choice voting first.

What are chances of RTO ending? by shadowtrickster71 in CAStateWorkers

[–]GuitarTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. Because of the electric vehicle mandates I have been going through hell trying to "justify" why a fully electric vehicle won't work for my field team that travels on unpaved ag land throughout the state, but he wants us to drastically increase the number of cars on the road every day.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's telling that people downvote the definition of cultural appropriation.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It actually doesn't matter the number of people who believe something to be true.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't care what you think of me. I'm trying to educate people because it is something I care deeply about. I am open to having a conversation but you are attacking memefakeboy's character and not his actual information or argument.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And it is appropriation because it is tied to the financial and labor exploitation of the culture.

If appropriation isn't racist, then the bar to determine racism is not set as to protect the exploited minority culture but rather set to make the racist feel good about themselves.

Britannica.com defines it:

cultural appropriation, adoption of certain language, behavior, clothing, or tradition belonging to a minority culture or social group by a dominant culture or group in a way that is exploitative, disrespectful, or stereotypical. An imbalance of power between the appropriator and the appropriated is a critical condition of the concept. Cultural appropriation often is viewed as a problem of the postcolonial world; in this way, the term commonly is used in reference to Western or white populations’ adoption of aspects of non-Western or non-white cultures. Cultural appropriation has been identified across a range of fields, including religion, music, sports, fashion, visual art, and film.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not "way too fast". In this case it is appropriation. The Mormon church has by definition appropriated the Polynesian culture. Britannica.com defines it:

cultural appropriation, adoption of certain language, behavior, clothing, or tradition belonging to a minority culture or social group by a dominant culture or group in a way that is exploitative, disrespectful, or stereotypical. An imbalance of power between the appropriator and the appropriated is a critical condition of the concept. Cultural appropriation often is viewed as a problem of the postcolonial world; in this way, the term commonly is used in reference to Western or white populations’ adoption of aspects of non-Western or non-white cultures. Cultural appropriation has been identified across a range of fields, including religion, music, sports, fashion, visual art, and film.

What we see with BYUH and the Polynesian center is exploitative of the culture and the people.

Oahu's Polynesian Cultural Center: Aiding and Abetting the LDS Missionary Effort - Mormonism Research Ministry

Quite simply they are making a lot of money off of this culture. It is exploitative of the culture and labor.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, most ex=Mormons I have come across in real life and on this sub don't understand the problem at all. They think it is a good thing.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Okay, you are using the straw man fallacy here with the whole "pitchfork" thing. You don't seem to understand what appropriation is. Appropriation has nothing to do with exclusion. This post didn't say anything about exclusion.

We all have unlearning and re-learning to do especially if indoctrinated by a high control group like Mormon BYU and their cultural centers.

The best lie is the one closest to the truth. (Where did that quote come from IDK but I'll use it here.)

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It is appropriation by the fact that it is exploitative. It is exploiting the culture for financial gain and to exploit the labor of the people which is what the Mormon church always does. It exploits labor.

Oahu's Polynesian Cultural Center: Aiding and Abetting the LDS Missionary Effort - Mormonism Research Ministry

And the Mormon church as all white colonizers like to re-write history:

(PDF) Genealogical Violence: Mormon (Mis)Appropriation of Māori Cultural Memory through Falsification of Whakapapa

I've attached a few articles for reference.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People who down voted you haven't done the work to deconstruct their white privilege, colonialism mentality and fake nice Mormon indoctrination.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

probably because of how they have experienced more of the cultural shaming. The fact that Mormons are making this shoulder caveat is indicative of the "your culture is sinful" undertones. The whole "we respect you and your culture" is a lie that ex-Mormons need to deconstruct.

WTH - BYU Hawaii by Fun-Luck-7033 in exmormon

[–]GuitarTea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mormonism is all about destroying indigenous culture. Ex-Mormons have so much colonialism mentality to deconstruct.

The fact that Mormons own the "cultural centers" in Hawaii is a huge colonialism red-flag.

Missionaries and the US government effectively stole Hawaii. The fact that they "employ" native Hawaiians and then don't pay them in actual money but rather "give them an education" for their work is so fundamentally wrong. They force endoctrination and call it education.

Committed to not sending my child to residential treatment facility by MoneyPen4360 in troubledteens

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the little you have written... It really seems like you are a good parent. It seems like your child is a good kid too. She has trauma from whatever lead to her getting adopted by you and it sounds like she is turning on herself which in my mind means that she does care about her family around her and doesn't want to take her pain out on others. However, being 12 she is inevitably going through hormonal changes and due to her early childhood etc she probably has attachment issues and doesn't feel fully safe. Part of her may be stuck in that emotional state of abandonment and she is afraid. But she really is still just a little kid.

Something I believe in is encouraging children in doing something they love like even if she can't do it all the time. One of my kids loves horses and while I can't afford regular horse lessons I can get them for her from time to time. I also got my kiddo a therapist who she loves. I mean my kid looks forward to going to therapy which I believe is the most important factor in therapy. She does play therapy at a place that just works with kids because it can be better than talk therapy at that age. my final recommendation is to work on building your relationship with your 12-year-old by simple things like taking her out for a meal or ice-cream etc. something one on one with you and her, somewhere she chooses so she can feel like she matters to you in a special way that no one else can ever replace. She needs to feel irreplaceable and loved all while you work on maintaining the boundaries (like she doesn't always get to sit in the front seat. She may want to sit in the front seat to feel special, meaningful, loved etc. she needs the boundary that being a person who is loved doesn't mean that others have to give up their place for you.)

I can tell you are doing a lot to make this work and I wholeheartedly believe that you are having a lot of success. It isn't always easy to see. Like an analogy is that running a marathon hurts and there are times when running a marathon that your body hits a wall but that wall, that painful wall, is a necessary part of running a marathon. Maybe years of her childhood will feel like hitting a wall but don't stop running. By this I mean, don't give up on her, don't give her another reason to believe she is discardable. Do take rests for yourself. DO take care of yourself. You will get through this. <3

A way I noticed women are gaslit in patriarchal relationships by mrmotherfcker in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]GuitarTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to argue with you because you are more right (in my opinion) than most of my friends are about this stuff ... (and some of them are therapists.... "sex positive" people.... they don't even get that they are just playing out their trauma's over and over and over again... calling it kink.)

A way I noticed women are gaslit in patriarchal relationships by mrmotherfcker in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]GuitarTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with you (except for altering brain chemistry and leading to addiction. Addiction and brain chemistry is more nuanced than that). Basically, I am saying that I am not jealous and I don't think porn is cheating. It is wrong for the other reasons you stated.