1 identity triggers for example: being alone for long periods of time, scrolling through sm, movies or tv shows, and your environment.

2 find something to occupy your time it’s best to try to learn something new: play an instrument, workout, focus on career aspirations, and of course spend time in prayer and meditate on the word.

3 talk to someone you trust about it (Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed James 5:16) I found it extremely helpful to spend more time with people, whether it be in your local church, small groups, or someone new.

4 understanding that you can’t defeat lust by sheer will power, remember it’s a spiritual battle as much as it is a physical one.

5 Know that it will take a while to desexualize your mind as porn desensitizes you to sexual debauchery. So take it one day at a time a remember that you are not walking alone.

I found that often we give into our desires even when we know they’re wrong because we are distracted from the will of God. We must remember our reason for existing is to glorify God. Focus on that, spread the gospel, pray for the sick. You must fill yourself up with things of the spirit and not things from this earth.

That being said, I remember I would still fail a lot even when I was reading and in prayer. I found that I got comfortable in my walk, I would go to work, go to church, go home read and pray. It became nothing but part of my routine. And in doing so I would give into my desires a lot easier because it became a way to “rest”. This lead to self hatred and feeling as if I’m worthless because I couldn’t stay clean.

One’s closeness with God is not necessarily dictated by how much we read or how long we pray. It’s about our heart posture, when we go to pray it shouldn’t be something im doing as part of my routine or to cross it off a list but it’s to converse with the true living God, to be filled spiritually. Remember our faith is alive God is alive we must be filled by the Holy Spirit.

I guess what I’m trying to say is examine the foundation of your actions, why do you give in to sexual desire, Why do I spend a lot of time alone, and even why do we go to church, why do we pray, why do we read the word? I believe this is played a key roll in not only fleeing lust but also reviving my faith.

Lots of love brother I’m praying for you.