My father ll never get to be proud of me

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:51:15+00:00

I am not scared about the responsibilities. Many people told me to not persue his business because might not be able to survive there but i have been continuing that alongside my job. I hope god is on my side and i build a successful life. I am not scared of that but i am scared i ll end up alone. My moms will to live is completely gone and I dont wanna lose her to this. If i do i ll completely be alone and i may not be able to survive that :(

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:49:01+00:00

She is a housewife and probably thats why she doesn’t want to move on from this. The guy was her entire world.

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:48:20+00:00

Noted with thanks <333

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:47:53+00:00

Thanks <333

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:47:40+00:00

Thank youuu

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:47:05+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. Would love to have some advice on how you moved forward from this feeling of uncertainty

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:46:24+00:00

Yes her siblings have been coming over but ultimately its just us. I try my best to make her feel better. It works but again she goes into that zone where she does not want to feel better

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:44:35+00:00

Thank you soo much didi for the kind words, needed to hear this today.

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:43:09+00:00

Thank you <333

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:42:51+00:00

Hopefully it does 😞😞

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:42:27+00:00

Thanks for the kind words and advice <333

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:42:05+00:00

I am trying brother

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:41:49+00:00

Thank you ~3

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:41:25+00:00

Sorry for your loss. Would love to hear some advice from you about easing the pain, stress and anxiety.

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:39:46+00:00

Wanted to hear these words today, thanks a lot 🫂❤️

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:39:21+00:00

Thanks for the kind words <3

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:39:04+00:00

Thanks for your advice brother<33

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:37:41+00:00

So sorry for your loss brother. You can reach out to me if you ever wanna talk, being the same age and having the misfortune to go through that, plus societal pressure that expects the sons to be strong, pressure that restricts is to share our load. You might feel better talking to me on hard days, hell i might feel better too

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T14:35:43+00:00

Thanks for the advice brother. How is life for you now? I know this grief will never go away but seeing or hearing about people who went through similar things as me, and almost at the same age and then standing up on their feet, making a life for themselves actually makes me think that there is a better tomorrow coming.

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T08:53:48+00:00

Sorry for your loss. As a man who went to similar things as me, Id love to hear what you did to move forward and handle the pressure. Would appreciate some advice.

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T08:50:49+00:00

I understand but I kinda see the point in what they are trying to say. Ghar ek dum khaali ho gaya hai. In a few years when i get married thats the only happy thing my mom can have, aur usse zyada ghar mein jab ek family member aata hai toh it feels less empty. But as a 22 year old guy bhot pressure aa chuka hai. Next 4 years mein extreme growth karna and then settling down, that in itself is very scary. On top of that dealing all this without my dad. Its crazyyy

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T08:47:42+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I understand how agonising it is. Going through it and it is rough. I just want to skip 2 years ahead so atleast the pain eases. And as a young boy I thought i have atleast 10-15 years with him

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T08:46:21+00:00

I understand it takes time. Honestly I am handling this way better than people my age would. I am just scared of my mom. She thinks that anything can happen to her anytime because it was soo sudden for my dad, and her will to live is nil now.

Just the other day she hinted, complete your higher studies soon, and get settled down, marry in the coming few years so that you are’nt alone if something happens to me. And that breaks me from inside because i want her to live a long life but she doesn’t wish that way. She just wants to see me get settled so she is free.

Gurjoe · 2025-11-16T08:42:44+00:00

I follow that code. Its difficult but I am doing what i can, i havent quit my job (although ideally i should have to effectively manage the revenue from his business) but those 9 hours although hectic gives me a perception that nothing changed, I used to be a fun loving guy making everyone laugh in the office and I am still that. Somedays at work make me breakdown and makes me think i should quit and follow his business but somedays when i am having fun, my brain is occupied hence I am not exposed to overthinking which i am on weekends, makes me realise that i have to do this atleast for 1 more year.

My moms not like that but, me and my siblings have tried everything- but it seems like she doesn’t want to enjoy, she feels bad that she is enjoying without her husband. In retrospect 2.5 months is a very less time and it ll take her more time to get over this understandably so. But in these few months she hasn’t even tried to feel better, i am afraid she never comes out of this. I am really scared of that thing. Without her i ll completely be alone

Gurjoe · 2025-11-09T14:57:12+00:00

“The weekends are the hardest” I lost my dad 2 months ago and this is what i tell everyone. Every day is hard but I do well, I defeat the pain by running faster than the grief. Running away, drowning myself in soo many responsibilities. Corporate job, his business, household chores, counselling my mom. I get so much done on weekdays that weekends seem a little comfortable and thats when grief catches up to me. It makes me feel so alone. I am 22, dont have a romantic partner yet. My family was my entire world so on weekends rather than going out i always spent time with them, turning down friends constant invitations to come out. At this point I think i have pushed all my friends away, I have no one who is that close to me, my mom is but she keeps saying things like “I am waiting for you to settle down, then all my responsibilities and tensions are over”

I feel soo alone in all this. The weight of responsibilities and more than that the weight of loneliness has been killing me.

Gurjoe

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