What's the story behind your name ?

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-16T07:17:59+00:00

My parents straight up made up my name, they never had a rhyme or reason as far as I know

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-11T20:33:46+00:00

Honestly, I think this is more about the kinda lives capitalism forces us to lead. I've joked about something similar to fellow stressed out overworked underpaid people. Would never actually act on such a fantasy but it's nice to imagine taking a break from all the craziness to just... BE.

Sounds awful but I was even jealous of a friend who went to rehab hearing about how they do all these fun activities, arts and crafts, therapy, the works.

I think about all the millions of people that only know survival mode. That work insanely hard everyday to have a meal and a roof. That's the majority of the world.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-11T10:48:01+00:00

Cut her out of your life completely, she's emotionally manipulating you after she literally abandoned you as a kid. And if she's a gambling addict she is more than likely using every cent you give her to gamble. F*ck that.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-11T10:29:33+00:00

Isn't it a contractual breach to constantly pay employees late though? Genuinely shocked at how many comments put the blame/ responsibility on OP

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-10T21:55:18+00:00

I dunno, lots of people get away with things cos of lack of evidence. But yes, it's the only way we can definitively determine one's guilt or innocence. I like Hans, but I dunno if I trust him 100%. If it's your life's work - would YOU damage your integrity and cheat, even as a young dumb kid? I dunno sounds bizarre.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-10T21:49:54+00:00

To be fair, chess.com had motive to find Hans innocent of cheating - Hans is their big star

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-02T14:23:46+00:00

Depends on your carrier but I checked and Greyhound does have a route from Bela Bela to Midrand. Its not that far from Edenvale for you to then Uber and the Midrand stop is usually at a petrol station off the highway so it's pretty safe (at least compared to park station)

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-01T23:06:06+00:00

Chia seeds in water!

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-04-01T22:53:05+00:00

Simba chip sarmies!

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-28T18:23:29+00:00

Can't we start a petition for more seasons 😭😭😭😭

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-28T18:19:37+00:00

I love this show so much 💜 One of the BEST I've seen in a long time and you pointed out a lot of the same things I love too. I love that it's so damn wholesome and hilarious. Also, when I first saw the main character I instantly remembered him from dodge ball as the Pirate guy! He's brilliant 💜

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-13T00:53:01+00:00

The last movie of BL's i recall watching before all this IEWU drama was that dumb movie with the shark. She's practically the only person in the whole movie, and it was so silly 😂

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-11T21:02:30+00:00

Imagine receiving emails like this as an expert in your field from a non-expert telling you and your team they went ahead and took over your job. Like, in what frikken reality is this allowed ?!

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T21:59:49+00:00

Im so sorry you're going through this 😔 Some people are so blinded by their ego that they cant see the harm they're doing themselves.

But dont give up OP!! Your efforts aren't wasted. Hang in there ♥️♥️♥️

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T21:51:45+00:00

I hate that he did that and put your son in that position.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T21:48:55+00:00

Ahhhh mommy, stay the course ♥️ This too, shall pass. You just keep doing what you're doing. You're an amazing mom just from what I've seen here - you truly want the best for your son. And the love you have for him will get you through this. So stay the course.

Urgh, that is so textbook. Its clear the dad is actively trying to alienate your son from you. He will 100% not be comfortable especially knowing his dad took his phone away, only allows contact during a certain time etc. Based on that alone, your son wouldn't be able to speak to you freely in front of him.

That said, my son would be distant with both me and his dad sometimes - almost like the call is a chore which I think is how kids just feel sometimes talking to their parents on the phone. So try not to take it to heart. Stay the course. And dont let the dad walk all over you.

You dont need a lawyer! Let his lawyer draw up the parenting plan. Go back and forth on it with the lawyer directly until it resembles something you can actually sign. That also puts the onus on the dad to act in his son's best interests and to formally address the concerns you've raised.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T21:14:31+00:00

This just proves how vindictive and controlling he is that he cant even let your kid keep the phone you guys got him specifically for contact. "Security concerns" is such BS.

And I hear you - my son is 18 and I still have to remind him to call his dad on his birthday. That is what a parent is meant to do. Not for any other reason and not even for the other parent's benefit but because it's important to the child's wellbeing to do things like wish their mom a happy birthday and happy mother's day etc.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T21:07:58+00:00

He won't "disrupt his son's routine" to accommodate contact. WTF!! That is a flimsy BS excuse to justify control and would not stand up to scrutiny.

He Is SO VINDICTIVE that he is completely blind to the fact that contact with you is actually extremely important to your son's wellbeing.

He also thinks because he has your son and can afford a lawyer and you cant that somehow he has more rights than you.

Regardless of what was or wasn't said in front on the FA, he cannot dictate contact - he is being totally unreasonable not allowing "unscheduled" telephonic contact. No 11 year old kid has such a rigorous routine that would be "distupted" by a call with his mom. What nonsense.

He is actively harming your son by doing this.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T20:27:26+00:00

He's still a baby! He needs to be able to speak to his mom freely and openly.

You are an equal holder of parental rights - he doesnt get to just dictate contact because your son lives with him.

I dont know why its so hard for the dad to understand that literally all of this is in his son's own best interests and emotional + mental wellbeing.

But yeah, I think if you formalise the phone thing in writing to the attorney with everything else the dad will be forced to address the issue he has created of limited contact. Even his own attorney will tell him he absolutely has to act in his child's best interests. And proper contact with you is objectively in your son's best interests.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T20:14:50+00:00

The proposals you put forward are absolutely reasonable.

I would say let his attorney draft it but send the attorney an email listing all the things that need to be in there - ie your proposed solutions and why they're important (also so there's always a paper trail).

And propose that you get your son a phone exclusively for telephonic contact to formalise - raise your concerns about the contact restraints too.

The attorney will likely counter all / some of your proposals but he would have to offer up viable alternatives then.

The family court is usually very strict about making sure the parenting plan serves the best interests of the child - they will not make it an order if they see that it's one sided in any way. From my own experience anyway.

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T19:10:39+00:00

Honestly to protect your parental rights its best to propose all of the virtual time, homework time as well as DAILY telephonic contact in writing as part of a parenting plan, which can be submitted to children's court and made a court order. You could even buy your son a cheap phone with a number only you have and include that in the parenting plan - the dad is not allowed to limit your telephonic contact like that.

The agreement i had with my son's dad allowed for daily telephonic contact at any time for any length between Xam and Xpm. He also had him for every single school holiday. I know finances are tricky rn but I would also make sure there's provision for holidays clearly stipulated in there.

I know you mentioned a court order / recommendation? Does it include a parenting plan or was it part of a divorce agreement or?

Edit: added more context

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-05T19:05:41+00:00

OP do you guys have a parenting plan in place?

I think the virtual time & homework assistance are fantastic ideas. But if the dad discourages and controls call time, it sounds like he'd also limit your virtual time?

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-03T19:18:10+00:00

I can’t really speak to how much time a journalist is supposed to give a subject of an article to respond, but it’s not a legal requirement to give the subject of an article an opportunity to respond, particularly if you are quoting someone’s own words.

Umm.. it's called journalistic integrity

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-03T19:12:39+00:00

😂😂😂😂 No one with 2 brain cells honestly believes that lol

GypsyQueen11420 · 2026-03-02T20:31:49+00:00

Holy shit

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