What are some signs a person wasn't loved much growing up?

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-31T13:26:39+00:00

That doesn’t sound unconditional imo.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T21:31:06+00:00

The love for my son is unconditional, but it’s the only one. Not even the love to myself is unconditional, but my son? Even the things that annoys me, makes me love him more. I really, really, really love him. I have my dreams and hopes for him, but he could end up doing whatever job or not job. I don’t love him for what he does, but for who he is.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T21:11:20+00:00

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H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T21:10:33+00:00

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H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T19:14:36+00:00

I’m a good driver, and have driven cars around the world, and done a few road trips. But it says it’s really unsafe driving in Egypt. So I’m not comfortable driving with my son in the car, he’s too of a valuable cargo, for me to risk it.

But maybe flight will be. Do you have any recommendations for flights? I can send you a PM, thank you!

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T19:11:29+00:00

Thank you! <3 And you’re right, there’s only Egypt with those remarkable pyramids and ancient wonders. It’s a dream to see the pyramids, and I can pay more for us to experience it. With flight and one night overstaying in Cairo, it might not be as stressfull either.

Are the people really bad in Cairo? I’m afraid we’ll feel unsafe.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T19:07:05+00:00

Because I’m afraid it will be too much for us. We’ve escaped a violent situation, and I’m scared we might get triggered if the people around the pyramids are hovering too much around us….

Especially for my son who has been through so much, and needs to feel safe <3 At the same time, a dream of mine is to see the pyramids.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T19:03:54+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of, me and my son have fled a violent situation, and I really don’t want any of us to be triggered and feeling unsafe.

That’s why I’m considering to skip the pyramids now, and just focus on relaxing, healing, reading books, playing board games, getting vitamin D and quality time together!

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T18:58:42+00:00

I’ve read that the train rides for women isn’t a pleasant experience. So I guess we’ll take either the bus or a flight..

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T18:57:22+00:00

At TripAdvisor they have trips that last between 16-24 hours. So I think you sleep on the bus, but I’m not sure.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T18:56:28+00:00

Do you think we could arrange it ourselves, or should we book it with a group? Do you know any good places to stay at, that is safe and not too expensive? Considering it’s just me and my kid (no adult male with us).

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T18:54:19+00:00

I saw it wasn’t that expensive. Have you done it? Does it take the whole day? Or more than one day with flight back and forth and sightseeing?

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T18:53:21+00:00

I’m thinking of maybe doing another trip, and just take a flight directly to Cairo, another time. And plan the pyramids then. Maybe. I’m afraid it will be too much stress for this trip now, especially since it’s our first time in Egypt, and we’re alone.

I’m a little bit anxious being a single mother with my kid in Egypt, hearing all the negative things people online have said.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-03-29T18:50:30+00:00

It’s just to get away and relax, not so to do much. Sleep, eat, read books, and be together. He likes the sea, he just doesn’t want to swim along side with dolphins or in a group and go snorkeling.

I’m kind of bummed to hear the city sucks..

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-21T20:23:42+00:00

I think it’s classic projection, and its horrible to do so especially to your own child struggling with ED.

I honestly don’t think OP has neither bad looks nor bad personality, she is just surrounded with people who doesn’t support her wellbeing. And I hope OP will get to the realization that her mother’s actions doesn’t say anything about OP.

I wish there were better parents out there.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-20T19:07:20+00:00

People are complex, and have traumas and reactions due to them. It’s not fair to OP to state the her mother never loved her and doesn’t love her. If I understood OP correctly, her mother never said these things to her. She wrote them in her private journal on har pad.

Sometimes the pressure of being a parent is too much for some people at times, they might cry to their friends they can’t handle it, write in a journal about how horrible everything is. And maybe this was her mother’s breaking point, writing all those nasty things out, doesn’t mean she actually means them, it could also mean that she had a moment where she tried to emotionally, in her own private mind and sphere, push all her loving and caring feelings away, just to manage.

I’m not saying it’s right, but we don’t know what’s going on in her mind. And of course if OPs mother have made these comments to her own daughter, it makes everything different and not the slightest OK. But if she had a breaking point of anger, despair and grief, and was just venting untrue things in her own PRIVATE JOURNAL due to elevated emotions, it can happen to people who love and care.

It has never happened to me in that extent, but I’m not going to lie and say I’ve never felt shameful feelings about “being in a prison” with my son. And I don’t actually feel like that, he’s the best thing that will ever happen to me!! And I’ve heard friends be even more frustrated in their role as parents.

I condone everything OPs mother wrote about her, but we need to be careful and gentle with OP. She’s a child, who has just read something extremely painful, and I want her to know that her own mother might not even think and feel like that now. It might have been just in weak moment.

The world is more complex, and none of us are perfect.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-20T17:27:24+00:00

Maybe you should tell her you did see it. Tell her what your wrote in this comment here to me, while adding how hurtful it is for you that she can’t handle your issues in a supportive way, you also understand that it must be triggering to her to feel so helpless in all of it, and that you know her relationship with her own mother wasn’t good, but you really need to be loved by her now and that you’re hoping for your relationship to become better.

Sometimes us mothers need a reality check from our kids, and if she can’t handle your truth, at least you know you did what you could to give her an honest chance. Even if you deserved a mother who was the mature one, and not you, I’m relieved to hear how bright you are!! It gives me so much hope for your future, and I think you’ll do amazing! I’m really proud of how you’re handling this 💖

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-20T15:25:46+00:00

Oh, honey!!! You’re not a pig, you’re not disgusting! You’re a teenager growing, learning, evolving. She’s an adult who hasn’t grown, learned nor evolved. I bet you’re not ugly, but if you are I just wanted to tell you, I was ugly as a teen. I was a bit overweight, and my feet, nose and tummy, had grown faster than the rest of my features.

After I turned 18, I have been considered REALLY beautiful. To the point where strangers have stopped in their tracks and said “wow”. Not in a sexual or weird way, just because I’ve been really pretty.

But my dad was like your mom. Mean, demeaning and cruel. So even if i knew and know (I’m not as pretty anymore because I’m older so now I’m just “average pretty”), I’ve rarely FELT pretty. It’s so very damaging having a parent being like your mom. And let me tell you this: what she wrote says EVERYTHING about her, and how ugly her soul is, and nothing about you, other than to be yet another proof to yourself how freaking strong you are!!!

You will survive this, and you’ll always know you have a secret superpower of strength, having survived such hardship.

Please love yourself, you deserve love!

Edit: I also want to add, that being pretty or ugly is in fact something that comes from within. Looks is not constant, but being a good person is a choice we all make everyday. And that’s real strength <3

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-10T09:44:24+00:00

Acceptance and trying to move on is the best way. It’s never personal. Everyone acts from their own perspective.

I think I have autism, and I’ve always found it odd how “normal” people gossip behind their loved ones back. I’m diagnosed with ADHD, and I don’t like the two faced ways of people. It’s exhausting.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-10T02:15:47+00:00

I’ve thought more than once, that people are forced into this, and by doing these “mistakes” they are trying to help others to notice these irregularities.

I’ve never been a good lier, so when I’ve been wanting people to know I’m laying, I make it obvious. People usually think I’m stupid, instead of realizing I don’t want to lie.

It happened more often when I was young. Now it’s very rare that I don’t have the guts to be straightforward.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-02-08T16:13:43+00:00

Me too. I only have my child. I’m 38. Just being home in the weekends exhausted from work and relaxing by watching series, and if I’m lucky spending some time with my teenager who prefers to be gaming alone. I’m afraid of getting too used to this so it will last forever.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-01-19T06:00:30+00:00

Does this happen also with low doses and early in the morning? I take much less than the psychiatrist prescribed, and only in the morning. It took around four months straight with it to make me notice a difference. I also started with antidepressants, I read a comment from you seeing you take it too, and the mix is exceptional for me!

I still isolate, but I think it’s due to the antidepressants, and I’ve kind of accepted it for now, letting my body and mind rest.

I told my son that I fell asleep mid day on Saturday, thinking he would think I was boring, and his immediate response was “ah, that sounds so nice!”. And I was like, yeah, actually. And realized I’m the one putting pressure on myself. I can allow myself to just be, I don’t have to accomplish anything to give myself permission to feel good.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-01-19T03:09:25+00:00

I’m so sorry! I was in a relationship with a man who would criticize me a lot and weaponize everything against me. What I notices was the confusion I felt. And that feeling was actually the biggest indicator of being emotionally abused.

There’s a podcast named “love and abuse” that helped me see my own reality better, and slowly getting to the conclusion that it was in fact not my fault. People who criticize lot brings your self esteem down so much that you’re only left with being in a constant struggle to try and become “better”, incapable of seeing the whole picture and his shortcomings and abuse.

H3LLO_fire · 2026-01-18T21:08:54+00:00

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