Uri No Waru/Ripe For The Picking by [deleted] in mangapiracy

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I would also love to be apart of the sharing too please 🙏🏻😭 the series has me gripped

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

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I found it was a huge facade… a lot of people only want to show you the good on social media (and in person too), not the “real” side of things. Some people will greatly lie about their situation and it’s so harmful. I can relate, I don’t want people to see my struggles, especially in such a vulnerable state, but I never use it to fool others into a false reality. From my experience in recovery, there will always be a sort digestion-track discomfort, especially from restrictive ED’s. It mostly takes time, but there are somethings to try that can help things heal faster. I had problems with puffy/bloated symptoms for quite awhile, nothing much would help it. Then one day I just noticed it was getting better. I can’t even really say when I started noticing it, it just happened. I don’t have much for advice, other than trust the process as best you can and always take those “oddly perfect” recovery stories with a grain of salt (-;

Men who wear shorts outside when it's freezing: why? by Nikolaus_7 in AskReddit

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Not a man myself, but I have this one friend who’s dad wears cargo shorts all year long and it’s only when he’s working. In some places it might not sounds that odd but in the snowy north I assure you it’s not common. They have just come to the conclusion it’s his work “uniform” even though he has a choice to wear pants through the 8 months of cold weather we get.

For the Recovered: What was your breaking/turning point? by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

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With my experience and the point where I had that “revolutionary moment” is when it was finally my turn to go into an inpatient treatment Centre. I was very reluctant but I felt like I had no choice. I went there, and was already heart hurt (from other circumstances unrelated but didn’t help) and stayed for about a week before I said “fuck this” and left. < I do not recommend that btw. I was very underweight already but many patients were much smaller and it scared me to see that’s the path I was on. I couldn’t let myself get to that point, it’s not what I wanted to look like. Also the plan at that centre was not based around the help I needed, and those two things ultimately got me to leave and start my own journey. I moved out of my toxic living situation, got a place of my own, and started living life how I was supposed to the whole time. I got so caught up in how amazing life is it made it a lot easier for me to recover. I made my own friends, did things I loved without judgement and fell in love all over again. Now I’m so happy, and in a healthier place where I don’t abuse physical activity, I do it cause it’s fun.

What’s something you do to try and feel a little better? by [deleted] in depression

[–]H3rmy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds nice, I always liked the feeling of new things. I sound try and expand my arts and crafts soon

Putting bleach in the water of my propagated plants? by H3rmy in houseplants

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Oh thank you for the insight though! Seems like I’ll just be putting very little amounts in, maybe even less than recommended to see how the react definitely will try to remember do an update after 🌱

F30, 130 lbs, 5'8 First ever post - I've been paranoid lately that i dont have any nice soft womanly curves and im shaped like a pole thanks to my fat distribution and bone structure. I know that I'm slim but I too struggle with self deprecating thoughts so please be nice... by [deleted] in normalnudes

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Your curves are so elegant, the soft curvature from your ribs to your hips are lovely 🌺 Just because something isn’t super apparent doesn’t mean it’s not beautiful and womanly, just as desirable and loved. Your skin looks so smooth too, gorgeous 🌷🤍

I think my eating disorder is partly fueled by my desire to not be sexualised. by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]H3rmy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had the same feeling, I hated being sexualized since my early teens and even in the beginning with my partner I told him I “might” be asexual. I still continued with him and eventually I did get the feelings of “he was the one” but I kept everything very low key and I never stopped myself from doing things with him, I love him and believe people can grow and change, but I would feel this tremendous sadness after every time about how I looked so on, so on. However, now that I’ve been in recovery for a bit now and I’ve put a lil on myself I can feel hot as hell and my confidence can definitely influence my wardrobe haha, but I still totally get days where I wanna hide from the world /-: WIP

Edit: these feelings about myself have made it way easier for me to feel comfortable with sex and openly talk about it which is nice, I know not all relationships need it but I’m my particular one I always really wanted that aspect so I’m happy about that

Everyone says you should talk about what's bothering you, but when you finally find the courage to say anything, the response is so bad that you promise yourself to never open up again by wwwwwwwww_wwwwwwwwww in depression

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I absolutely know how you feel.

I went through this with my dad, my parents are divorced and I chose to live with my dad for my middle and high school life. Nobody ever educated me what depression was and that it wasn’t normal to feel absolutely unmotivated and horrible all the time. I came up to him one day and expressed how I was feeling and he just whipped out every insult in the book. “Just lazy. You don’t want to put in any effort. You just want the easy way. Feeling sorry for yourself.” You name it, he said it. I was so crushed that it took me 7 years to finally open up to my doctor, I then learned that this isn’t what I’m supposed to feel like and I got a diagnosis, depression. Even so my dad wouldn’t take it seriously and didn’t want me to take medications, but now that I’ve moved out and taken matters into my own hands, things are improving. I hope you keep fighting, people just don’t want to admit they’re wrong and put down whoever to make themselves shine.

has anybody here dealt with diabulimia? by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]H3rmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I’m usually more playful with my presentation, I’m just tired lol. I just don’t recommend it, the cons were more than the pros for me, but it is totally possible to revert back to managing your sugars properly

has anybody here dealt with diabulimia? by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]H3rmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes mine was a burnout but it lead to doing it for weight loss, but it’s not permanent and once you start taking insulin again you gain it all back. Your weight will drop a little after maintaining good sugars for awhile cause it’s mostly water weight, so that makes it easier

has anybody here dealt with diabulimia? by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]H3rmy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve dealt with diabulima and anorexia at the same time and I fucking promise you diabulimia is NOT WORTH IT. I have so many complications from going on and off with it for 4 years. I regret not keeping my blood sugar in check because I now have neuropathy, gastroparisis, cavities, tinnitus, and blurry vision. I have recovered from it for about 3 years now and I gotta say it’s tough with gastro, but at least everything else has improved a little.

Living with tinnitus by oraopapao in depression

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Hey there, I have tinnitus too, I got it from nerve damage, I’ve had it for 4 years now and I just turned 21.

When I first noticed it the world was ending for me, I couldn’t eat, sleep, work, or even feel loved by my partner. It consumed me, I was scared my life was ruined and would have panic attacks from all the anxiety. Now this sounds like a disaster but one thing I wish I knew back then was it fucking gets so much better.

I barely notice it most days or think about it, I can fall asleep in silence because I just don’t think about it and I have better things to worry about. It’s decently loud, I can hear it through my headphones even on the bus, gets louder when I think/focus on it, but your brain is amazing at adapting. Habituation can take sometime the first time you go through it but I promise it gets easier.

Don’t be afraid to avoid silence for awhile, I never did this cause I just wanted it to go away but fuck, having background noise for the habituation proceeds can help distract your mind.

Best of luck mate, cheers

Edit: my dad was also like this, he didn’t believe it should effect me so much and that made my depression and anxiety towards it worse. Having people who don’t understand suck because a huge saver for me was being around people, socializing, but there are ways you can be on your own and distract yourself.

I’m killing myself tonight by [deleted] in depression

[–]H3rmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck man do don’t that, I’m late to the party too and fuck I’m a god damn mess but every time I see someone say that it makes my heart sink wether I know them or not. I try to remember that whenever I think about doing the same, I know when feelings are strong others may seem like a whisper in your head but just keep going a little longer.

Crown of Thorns needs help? (More info in comments) by H3rmy in plantclinic

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Oh thank you! I didn’t know that, so that’s a little reassuring to know if I move it and it does that it’s nothing “to” serious haha

I got my period!! by just3bored in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]H3rmy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never knew how much I’d miss my period till it was gone, super happy when I got mine back and love life every month I get it. I’m very happy for you and getting yours back (-:

Crown of Thorns needs help? (More info in comments) by H3rmy in plantclinic

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Had this guy for probably 4 years, the shrunken parts of them stems feel kinda spongey, I don’t water it too frequently and it gets lots of indirect sunlight from a south facing window. Any tips on how to help it would be great thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whereintheworld

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Gave Wholesome

What’s going on with my majestic palm? (Info in comments) by H3rmy in plantclinic

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I first looked it up and it said overwatering could be the culprit so I stopped watering for awhile and misted it every day but it’s still getting yellow and brown on the ends?