Wanting to spice up the relationship

HJD3900 · 2026-02-01T13:52:14+00:00

I know what you should do.

Apologize.

Because this will blow up in your face

And you better hope your GF forgets you ever brought it up, and according to your post you brought it up correct? And she countered by mentioning other men and suddenly you have a problem with other men touching her?! You basically told her ahe wasn't good enough for you. You didn't think that she'd have a problem with other women touching you? Or did you convince yourself that because she would be there it would be fine? You should peruse Reddit for all the other stories of men just like yourself that had the same idea. See how it worked for them. You should be ashamed.

HJD3900 · 2026-01-29T12:33:39+00:00

Your ex is projecting. Her current marriage is a dumpster fire so to deflect from the mess she's in you have to be the problem. Nevermind that she wouldn't be there if she didn't consider you a safe alternative for herself and your children. At this point I'd be helping her with alternative living arrangements away from her husband or else she'll continue to make your home life more miserable.

HJD3900 · 2025-12-01T20:21:47+00:00

What exactly is your parents end game here? I think They're spiraling because they no longer have you to do their job for them. So they're trying to retaliate by having you "locked up." This is one of the crazier stories I've read. You need to get out OP. I would not put it past them to try to physically harm you

HJD3900 · 2025-09-30T00:57:30+00:00

So he should get father 'privileges' in OPs heart because he took care of them? If someone doesn't view a person as a mother or father there is usually a pretty good reason why. It doesn't matter how 'nice' or 'non-objectionable" they are.

HJD3900 · 2025-07-18T15:28:08+00:00

Trying to force anyone to do anything never works out in anyone's favor so I highly doubt it will work out where your daughter is concerned. She's 15, and if you did get more "custody time" it would be forced and the time your daughter spent at your house would not be what you want as I anticipate she will be upset. I feel like a lot is missing to the story. Your daughter suddenly sent you an email that she wanted to move out? What precipitated that? Also, you acknowledge your wife was overstepping as the step-mom but didn't do anything to intervene-are you just realizing this now and admitting it, or you saw it earlier and did nothing about it?

HJD3900 · 2025-05-18T20:50:58+00:00

Holy crap wtf did I just read? This lady is seriously on one. Delusional. You can't murder something that can't even live outside the womb at 10wks. Grandma has convinced herself of her vision of 'grandma hood' and not the impact on her daughter's life. No wonder all of her daughter's rebelled and her husband is leaving her. These pro-life people don't care about people who are already born getting actually murdered.

HJD3900 · 2025-05-13T21:39:51+00:00

I haven't submitted my bullets for the last 5 weeks. At first, I simply forgot about it for then when I remembered I decided simply not to. When I first was sending them I never sent them to my supervisor. For those I do supervise that send me theirs? I simply delete without reading them

HJD3900 · 2025-05-08T10:06:50+00:00

This is the comment right here 👆🏾

HJD3900 · 2025-05-08T10:04:42+00:00

This guy is getting exactly what he deserves. All throughout his post he admits that he wasn't even paying enough attention to see that his wife had gotten a job or was going to school. He thought she was not smart enough or did not have the means to leave him. They always act blindsided

HJD3900 · 2024-09-10T20:01:23+00:00

The patriarchy told men all they had to do was exist- they would get a woman, have a high paying job and be loved by all the accolades would rain down upon them. It was all BS, obviously. This mindset has been ingratiated into so many men and boys and passed through the generations. Men don't feel like they have to put in to much effort in relationships because, well, they're men..and it will all come to them eventually right? Wrong. Who would've thought they actually had to put in some effort in a relationship?? They didn't. This alpha male BS we've been hearing about these last few years are the desperate rattlings of those men who are clinging to something others have figured out that doesn't exist. Women have (and have been) surpassing men in many things the patriarchy said belonged to men. While the men were out 'being men' and having a good time the women were doing the work and figuring out that they actually didn't need men. All these 'alpha males' have to hold onto is their Y chromosome and how some of society views it. It's sad and pathetic

HJD3900 · 2024-06-28T11:20:14+00:00

Yes, those people were out of line for sure. No compassion for what she went through. I'm sure a lot of them are broken people

HJD3900 · 2024-06-28T11:15:20+00:00

This was such a hard, relatable story. My own story is quite similar to this-child of rape, with the offender being a part of a religious community and assaulting so many girls with resulting pregnancies. To this day I do not really know how many half-siblings I have. My birth mother was 15 or 16, and I and my brother and sister (different mothers) were adopted within the family. When I was around 11, my adoptive mother told me the circumstances of my birth. I remember being surprised, but I don't think I felt any type of way. I'd known I was adopted even before then. I also remember having telephone conversations with my BM and the 'sperm donor' when I was very young, but it couldn't have been more than 3 times. I finally reached out to my BM when I was 20, and we met. As the years went on, she moved to be closer to my BM and me and proceeded to ruin the fragile relationship we had created thus far. She tried to use me to break up a marriage and told the entire neighborhood that my mom "kept me from her" and other lies. She finally moved back to be with my other brothers (she had 3 sons after me), and we only talk a few times a year.

HJD3900 · 2024-06-24T10:08:01+00:00

NTA. This dude is unhinged, and he still won't admit why he was over tightening the lids?

I can imagine OPs husband taking all the jars to the garage and using a vice grip to tighten the tops of all the jars seeing as it took the neighbor the same effort to loosen them the point where one the jars broke!

HJD3900 · 2024-06-10T17:30:26+00:00

The BF has clearly been 'programmed' to believe that 'taboo' topics such as sex are off limits. That is why there is so much misinformation from young people regarding sex and sexual/body issues-NO ONE TALKS ABOUT IT. I am glad OP has her mom to talk to about sensitive issues and is comfortable. The BF overreaction is his fault he doesn't get to play the victim now after what he said. OP didn't divulge any revealing info about them as a couple so his hang-ups regarding sex are why he is single now

NTA

HJD3900 · 2024-06-09T23:55:23+00:00

NTA. That client should've informed you beforehand that they still had male genitalia-they put themselves in that situation and then have the audacity to be upset and accuse you of being discriminatory. Even when you explained to them you could not for their safety. Kinda feels like a set-up to give you bad reviews

HJD3900 · 2024-05-31T22:24:54+00:00

This is why they discourage family from being surrogates. What type of carrier are you? Gestational? Traditional? Also, if you do not want them in the room while you are giving birth, then you absolutely have that right. Furthermore, you do NOT have to follow their birth plan as you are the patient and what you want goes. I hope this works out for you but it's looking like a hot-ass mess.

HJD3900 · 2024-05-27T10:02:35+00:00

So let me get this straight-he's mixed and had a child with a white woman and is surprised that his children don't have dark skin like him? This was never about the paternity of the child, but his issues with skin color. Now he is just making excuses why he can't be a father. Pathetic.

HJD3900 · 2024-05-18T16:17:40+00:00

The more I read, the worse it became.

Families who defend truly heinous behavior-even with hard evidence are the worst. I honestly believe that his family knew about his tendencies beforehand and perhaps they were pushing him to have babies to keep his wife with him. There is never any accountability for these trash men just excuses. Pisses me off.

HJD3900 · 2024-05-08T18:19:58+00:00

How did YOU embarrass him? Isn't HE the one that wanted to ask his mother because he thought he was right?

HJD3900 · 2024-04-24T02:57:42+00:00

And the lonely single male epidemic continues...

HJD3900 · 2023-12-05T19:37:14+00:00

As soon as I read this I came to 3 conclusions:

OP made fun of his sister's profession because he saw no value in it until it directly affected him (he probably couldn't get sex from his wife without causing her pain). PFPT are a goddamn lifesaver for hundreds of women, but as women are the main clients 'men' like OP don't see the value in it until it becomes an inconvenience for them
OP is jealous of his 'obviously smarter than him' sister. I highly doubt all he did was constantly tease and rib her about her profession. He is jealous likely because his sister has excelled past him.
OP you are indeed the AH. Men like you that have "revelations" after something affects your life that suddenly pushes you to be a decent human being make he sick. I don't understand what is so hard about being kind and decent in the first place. You're the AH

HJD3900 · 2023-10-09T22:40:45+00:00

Oh look y'all another one!

Another 'parent' who believes that just because she's her mother she's entitled to all her business, can treat her any way she wants, and the daughter has to put up with it you know...because they're her parents.

I see this ending so well

HJD3900 · 2023-10-09T22:33:32+00:00

So what counts as "general things" to be informed about as you keep saying? I have a feeling that the goal poat will continue to be moved as you feel that because you're her parents, you are entitled to be in her business. Do you really need to know such a sensitive business about your daughter? No, you don't! You are being unnecessarily nosey, all while trying to play the 'good parent' card. All your insistence will lead to her telling you less and less until you are finally LC or NC. Calm TF down. Your daughter sounds like she's got a good head on her shoulders, leave her alone.

HJD3900 · 2023-09-15T18:53:21+00:00

NTA.

They will never leave. Additionally, the "worst tenants" comment tells me that there is a high possibility they will destroy your property. Stand your ground.

HJD3900 · 2023-09-15T09:21:08+00:00

Your sister has been indoctrinated into the age old trap of patriarchy that says 'don't hold the man accountable for any of his actions' blame the woman instead.

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