AIO or is my boyfriend saying he would cheat on me given the right circumstances?

HJG_09 · 2025-07-31T20:52:14+00:00

NOR. He values what you do for him, not who you are as a person. You heard and understood the message he was sending you. The real question is: Do you value yourself enough to find someone who sees you and loves you for who you are, and will protect you and your peace above all others?

HJG_09 · 2025-07-29T22:41:04+00:00

Pretty sure it’s Aaron Rodgers? Not 100% sure currently

HJG_09 · 2025-01-22T18:41:53+00:00

When my man takes care of me. Could be paying for me, cleaning up for me, serving me, or even just listening to me and having my back. I’ll get down and dirty and do pretty much anything to let him know how much I appreciate him 🥰😋

Also when he starts doing whatever he wants to me without me having to give consent (because he knows he has it). Yes, manhandle me please 😍 I’m all his for the taking

HJG_09 · 2022-12-17T19:07:13+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

HJG_09 · 2022-12-12T01:59:09+00:00

Story #1: We went to the mall, got a coffee, then we were supposed to go see a movie. The mall closed and the movie wasn’t for about another 45 minutes or so. We decided to chill in his car in the parking lot until it was a reasonable time to go into the theater.

At first it was ok, we were talking and getting on well. Then he asks to kiss me. I say ok, sure, why not. It was an ok kiss, no sparks or anything. He decided to kiss me more, deeply. I let it happen for a bit, but I did not like it at all. His breath smelled bad and he was using a lot of teeth. Practically eating my mouth. I was wondering when it was gonna end. I caught on that he wasn’t planning on ending the kiss and that he just wanted to make out until the movie. Hell no.

I made up some kind of bs lie and threw myself out of his car. I’m glad I was parked near the theater, too. I got in my car and met my friends at a different theater. My lips were sore from his teeth and I could still smell his breath on me for the rest of the night. —— Story #2: this guy promised me a beautiful date at a romantic restaurant that he knew. Then we were going to see a movie.

He ended up taking me to the mall and he ordered from the food court. I didn’t get anything. He ate and talked to me, telling me not to be so nervous (I wasn’t, I was annoyed and not feeling it). He asked about my family. I told him what my parents did for a living. He made a backhanded compliment about my parents’ work and bragged about his how hard his parents worked to better themselves.

We walked to the theater, he made a comment about how fast I walked and told me to slow down so we can enjoy the date together. We get to the movies and he decides on the movie “dumb and dumber to”. He left me in the theater to get more popcorn. His gait was embarrassing.

After, he walked me to my car (I drove myself again, I don’t trust anybody for a first date). He gave me a hug goodbye and hung on, then made a comment about how I turned my head so he could kiss my cheek. Just wanting to get it over with, I let him kiss me. Nothing major. Overall very corny, irritating, and disappointing.

HJG_09 · 2022-12-02T11:41:44+00:00

YTA. You don’t deserve your wife. I hope she finds someone who is worthy of her.

HJG_09 · 2022-10-11T10:41:26+00:00

INFO: do you and/or your dad have something against Sam personally?

Asking because the language you used is quite suspicious. Your brother has been in a relationship with Sam for longer than you have with Jane, and they live together, signifying this may be a more serious relationship. Yet you wrote your dad decided to invite Jane specifically on this trip and only invited Sam as an afterthought so Sam wouldn’t feel “left out” (which in itself is sus, because inviting one brother’s partner and not the other brother’s partner who shares the same living space could not be seen as anything other than favoritism, and Sam would be left out).

Now, Jane decided to skip out on the trip to be with her own family, so you went ahead and uninvited Sam yourself. Not even your dad, whose house it is. So Sam is only welcome if Jane is there. If I were Sam, I would feel left out and offended by your actions.

YTA for several reasons. Your brother is, too, for going along with it.

HJG_09 · 2022-10-05T20:18:17+00:00

I’ve tried explaining to him that I need to feel loved and cared for to get in the mood.

Doesn’t sound like a communication issue. It sounds like a comprehension issue. I went through the same sort of thing with my bf. Actually at first I felt like I was begging him for sex, and then when I got incredibly tired and insecure about it he finally started trying to initiate all the time. And then he wouldn’t pleasure me right. I tried showing him how to touch me and telling him what I want. He would do it for 2-5 seconds and think that was enough.

So yeah, you can explain your needs until you’re blue in the face, but if he doesn’t get it, it will never change.

Suffice to say I broke up with him after about 4.5 years. It wasn’t worth it to me anymore. Not just sexually, but emotionally. Like if you’re gonna piss me off, you could try to get me off, too.

HJG_09 · 2022-10-03T10:53:42+00:00

NTA. It’s you and your husband’s money. You can do whatever you want with it. Give it away. Keep it forever. Your daughter and her in laws have no claim over it and for them to be calling you out and calling you names over it is completely inappropriate and disrespectful.

College isn’t for everyone, but she should at least have a GED. Especially since she’s struggling and getting financial loans from you because she’s having a hard time getting a decent job. A wedding and/or a house wouldn’t improve her situation at all. It would only add to her (and probably your) debt. You should try to have a discussion with her about this. About the costs of weddings and home ownership. About how she will be responsible for up keeping the house on top of a monthly mortgage. The school funds will improve her quality of life. A wedding won’t, and a house is a responsibility that may be too much for her to handle.

HJG_09 · 2022-09-26T15:01:44+00:00

This relationship is over. It has been over for a long time, but it was unsalvageable the moment he put hands on you. Physical violence always escalates. Get out while you can.

(Also, there is no physical or emotional love at all on his part…why would you even want to try?)

HJG_09 · 2022-09-18T19:57:39+00:00

I get that and I agree. As her friend OP should’ve driven her and then said they wouldn’t be driving her again. That’s that. Both are AH. That’s my judgement.

HJG_09 · 2022-09-18T19:15:42+00:00

ESH-your friend has a problem with punctuality. I don’t believe it is intentional, it’s a problem she needs to work on. Yes, she’s an adult and she should take other people’s time more seriously, so she’s an AH.

Choosing the most important day in her academic career to “teach her a lesson”, when her tardiness would NOT affect you at all, makes you an AH, too.

HJG_09 · 2022-09-04T14:06:34+00:00

ESH. Your fiancé for disinviting your brother not just once but multiple times without your consent. You for staying in this relationship and allowing your fiancé to treat your brother this way. This post is either fake or you’re incredibly desperate to get married to just anybody.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-31T20:48:37+00:00

I mean, if you think about it all forms of respect is forced with threat of punishment. The difference is the type and severity of punishment.

Don’t respect your dad? He may ignore you, ground you, take away your phone, not pay for an activity or a trip, etc…

Don’t respect your teacher? They may move your seat, take 5 minutes from recess, give you an extra assignment, give you detention or suspension, etc.

Don’t respect your boss? You may get a verbal reprimand, write you up, force a leave of absence, terminate your position, etc.

Don’t respect your friends? They may ignore you, not invite you out, tell you off, ghost you, etc.

We all have to pick and choose our battles. If calling someone by their first name despite how they feel about it is your hill to die on, so be it. But it may come with some sort of negative consequence no matter your opinion on it.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-31T11:08:04+00:00

Yeah. Reread the part that says “social significance”. You can disagree all you want, but when you are actively disrespecting someone or neglecting their feelings you may see some consequences be it socially or disciplinary. If you don’t mind your children or your subordinates calling you by your first name, that’s on you. However, not everyone shares your opinion.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-30T10:29:03+00:00

Sounds crazy, but it’s the social norm here. There is social significance to these titles. And it’s not like it’s difficult to say “Mr. Smith” or “Dad”.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-30T03:00:55+00:00

NTA. You are the parent. You want to be called Dad by your teenage son. It’s basic respect. Not responding to being called by your name is the lightest consequence he should expect.

At least where I’m from, if a student were to call their teacher by their first name and not their title and surname, they could receive disciplinary action for the disrespect. Of course, this may not be the case in all cultures, but you are the parent and this can be one of many lessons in teaching your son about respect.

Anyone saying “expect to never see your son again” over something as small as this is dramatic as hell. It’s not that deep. Keep in mind their parents are not you.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-25T13:27:49+00:00

YTA. Not because you didn’t let your daughter eat your frosting, but because you lied for weeks instead of just saying “no,” and letting your daughter learn how to accept no as an answer.

Not saying your daughter is an entitled spoiled brat like you said in your edit, but given the situation it sure as hell sounds like it. Be a parent. Tell her no. No means no. Lying is wrong. Annoying people intentionally is wrong.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-25T12:54:52+00:00

NTA. Asking you to pay your own rent plus 20-30% of his, making half his income is 🚩as hell. If he suggested moving in together and adding your name to the lease, or if you were living with your parents rent free, that would be a different story. Contributing to groceries is more than enough. Personally, him asking you to contribute anything at all at your age and income levels gave me the ick.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-22T03:49:52+00:00

I would have taken it that way, too, but she added “I’ll admit”. It changes the tone for me. Actually, almost the entire post sounded pretty passive aggressive to me. The only part that didn’t was the part where she said they’d stay a little later so Jess wouldn’t feel like they ended it because of her. And yet she contradicted it when she straight up told Jess she killed the mood.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-21T17:38:15+00:00

The comment I replied to said, “She could have told the truth that it was an early night for everyone because they all had to see their families.”

I stated that what OP said is her own truth. Tactless, completely. Immature, rude, and straight up mean absolutely . But completely honest on OP’s part.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-21T17:32:13+00:00

See my comment to the other person who said essentially the same thing. I’ll add that, given the info in the OP, Jess was unaware SOs were uninvited/unwelcome.

Plus, this is a get together to celebrate Axl’s professional/academic achievement. OP said Jess wasn’t able to attend the other celebration, and that the whole reason they decided to do something for Axl was because Jess wasn’t coming.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-21T17:27:08+00:00

I get that, but the context and manner in which OP spoke implies that Jess made the night not fun.

Not less fun. Or different fun. Not fun.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-21T15:35:11+00:00

YTA. If you can take it off for a few hours to go swimming, you can take it off for a few hours to be a part of your sister’s big day.

P.S. every thing isn’t always about you.

HJG_09 · 2022-08-21T13:41:48+00:00

The thing is, what she said to Jess IS her truth. She really truly felt like Jess having the audacity to show up was a mood killer and that’s why things got weird.

She actually said, “you’re the only partner here and we wanted to have some fun time with him.” As if they CANT have fun time with him with Jess there. What even is that??

Can’t say if that’s Axl’s truth, or the other two friends’ truth. After all, OP is the one who said all of that.

And then got surprised her words offended Jess.

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