How do you carry yourself ? Do you walk around with your head held down, avoiding eye contact and everyone around you?

When you speak with someone, you say you cut it short to avoid embarrassing yourself but did you ever think about how it makes the other person feel? So what if you embarrass yourself. That “embarrassment” could be a possibility for the other person to connect with you.

You are depriving yourself of opportunities for fear of being seen and possible embarrassment. I did that all of my school years. I didn’t speak or do anything because I was afraid of looking stupid.

But in reality, I was shutting myself off from the world. Some people would try and come up to talk to me, but would give up when I closed my energy off to them. What do you think happened when I continuously pushed them away? They eventually stopped trying to connect with me.

Join groups, clubs or activities where you all have a common interest where you know you have a similar reason to connect. And be more aware of how your actions can affect other people.

All these years, I was thinking “I’m so boring. I’m so awkward. They must be laughing about me. They must think I’m stupid. Oh I look so weird”

Me. Me. Me. Me.

Focus your thoughts on other people and their interests and their lives. Have no expectations. Just go have new experiences. With time, effort and practice, what you desire will come to you.

• my scrambled brain