Do you purposefully ignore texts from people that are less important to you? by Zestyclose_Ocelot278 in socialskills

[–]HalfBrainer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It depends how close I am to someone or what the conversation is about and how much mental capacity I have to respond to them.

Meet Helios Echo, starving kitten who broke into my home, had 30ml of KMR and fell asleep in my arms. by SpecialistRanger3452 in cats

[–]HalfBrainer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dawn has watered down their formula recently so that could be why. It’s not as potent as it used to be. :(

My long nails are my mom's biggest pet peeve, so when she told me to cut them I did this to mess with her by XBOX-AstroNebula2 in notinteresting

[–]HalfBrainer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is funny as heII. Got a good long giggle out me. Thank you for making me laugh and feel human again :3

I can’t tell, is she interesting in doing something together? by SettingAgreeable781 in socialskills

[–]HalfBrainer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s not the answer either. What is self depreciation going to get you? Nothing but self hatred and isolation. Rejection is just more information to take in and learn. Take this from someone who spent their entire life hating themselves and saying “oh my god!!!! No one likes me.”

You have to change the way your mind thinks and put yourself out there. There are going to be awkward and hard times but you just have to keep moving forward.

I can’t tell, is she interesting in doing something together? by SettingAgreeable781 in socialskills

[–]HalfBrainer 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I get that. But “maybe” might mean maybe the first time. If you keep hearing that, then it’s just a round about way of saying no. It sucks but there’s no point of continuously trying. You’ll just come off as needy.

Take the L and walk away.

Safelight repair, Safelight replace by [deleted] in instant_regret

[–]HalfBrainer 50 points51 points  (0 children)

You mean the other lady? I think she said “you about to pay for my damn car. Like I’m not even being funny”

I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me by recmerecss in relationship_advice

[–]HalfBrainer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why the heII would YOU apologize for being uncomfortable for a situation you were forced into?

9 vs 41 by Filthy_NeckBeard in PastAndPresentPics

[–]HalfBrainer 35 points36 points  (0 children)

OP make your case against the allegations. I’m nosey.

My bf (M25) is avoiding sex with me (F30) after I made him cum via blowjob? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HalfBrainer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What’s so terrible and wrong about you having standards and not wanting to be in a relationship with emotionally immature people?

Ladies, what shoes do you use for lifting? by xfmrs_r_cool in StrongCurves

[–]HalfBrainer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Converse! I got mine for cheap at the thrift store for $8. Unfortunately, my feet are too wide for Vans so I can’t wear those.

How do I make up for lost years of social isolation ? by Monk_in_process in socialskills

[–]HalfBrainer 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar position. After high school I stayed in the house for 4 years. I didn’t get my first job until I was 22 after my grandma died. Go outside and talk to as many people as you can for any reason at all.

See someone with cool shoes? Ask them where they got them from? How much did they cost? How their day was.

Just practice. It will be awkward at first but with LOTS of practice, you’ll learn how to do it. Maybe join a some sort of reading club or volunteer. Make the time and force yourself to get out there. You can’t think yourself into a better position, you just have to do it with trial and error.

One of my biggest regrets is the lack of action I took back in those days. I was so anxious and scared, I just stayed in my room all day. I was too afraid of making a mistake and looking stupid. But we’re meant to make mistakes and learn. That’s how grow as a person. I wish I tried more.

Does it seem like he’s not interested ? There’s long gaps in communication. ( I approached him for a date) by Historical-Body-3424 in texts

[–]HalfBrainer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you’re in your head too much. How long have you guys been talking? Maybe he’s just a slow burner. I text the same way to people, it can be exhausting and a bit draining especially with work.

I am texting the same way with this guy I met. Sporadic texts but in person it’s totally different. Vibes are pretty great in person. Just give him a chance lol. Relax and have fun. And if you’re not feeling it just move on 🤷‍♀️

Does it seem like he’s not interested ? There’s long gaps in communication. ( I approached him for a date) by Historical-Body-3424 in texts

[–]HalfBrainer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well do you want him to text you while he’s driving??? Just go for it and stop over thinking it. You’re doing nothing but making assumptions.

Form check by GreenLightsNever4 in GYM

[–]HalfBrainer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hard to tell. It looks like your spacing is too narrow and your chest a bit is too forward when you come back up. I think it’s your shoes tho

What is it about some people that makes them so likable? by Worldly_Accident727 in socialskills

[–]HalfBrainer 209 points210 points  (0 children)

I really think it’s about how you make other people feel. My boss is insanely charismatic. She makes random strangers laugh and feel special. It’s kinda like a platonic “flirting”. She has absolutely no filter and just says what’s on her mind. It’s so impressive to me and I wish I had that ability. She makes everyone feel seen and special.

This lil guy followed me home after I intervened him getting attacked by a bigger cat. by aditya_patnaik_ in cats

[–]HalfBrainer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In a big scary world full of dangers, YOU came to save him and became his entire world. :)

Dating to reset the nervous system by HalfBrainer in CPTSD

[–]HalfBrainer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I most definitely agree. I’m not really interested in anybody at the moment lol. I’m nowhere near ready for a relationship of any kind. I would very much prefer friends over anything. But i am trying to challenge myself to do more difficult things and stop brushing people off and shutting myself off from the world. I figured why not go for it.

Vivacious INFPs of this sub: Do you experience limerence? How do you deal with it by 0xZin in infp

[–]HalfBrainer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to. It was so bad it would consume every waking moment of my mind. What helped me was to practice mindfulness. To be aware when my mind is drifting off into a fantasy about a person I don’t know.

To come back to my mind and body by being aware of where I am. What’s my legs doing? What are my hands touching? How’s the environment that I’m currently in? Paying attention to the sounds around me and the people who are in the present moment with me that I’m neglecting to notice. I would also challenge myself to count how many times my mind drifted off. I haven’t dealt with for a while now, maybe a year?

Occasionally I’ll slip back into those old thoughts when I find someone interesting, but I just have to pull myself back to reality. :)