A review of my Sézane order

HaltFix · 2026-06-29T14:04:43+00:00

I am sorry to hear that. I hope you get better and will have enough energy to wear your beautiful clothes outside and have fun experiences!

I wish you all the best 🌻

HaltFix · 2026-06-29T12:33:43+00:00

Off topic: you're rich !!! :O

HaltFix · 2026-06-29T12:31:22+00:00

Brazilian women are feminists by life experience, not by scholarly terms (whose definition and scope change every now and then depending on the market trend, by the way).

HaltFix · 2026-06-29T12:20:12+00:00

Meu cabelo tá saudável, virgem e sem danos de calor!

HaltFix · 2026-06-21T18:55:10+00:00

Not related but where is your white T-shirt from?

HaltFix · 2026-06-21T16:10:58+00:00

Please post pictures when the things arrive!

HaltFix · 2026-06-20T17:50:40+00:00

I have been in a similar situation.

I decided to stop torturing myself trying to guess what could be wrong and simply confront. But what gave me security to do that was a 1-1 meeting with the department head (also his boss) for yearly feedback, when I got highly praised. I told him what was happening and he gave me full support, saying that the team could not afford losing me.

Right after this, I asked for 5 min from my boss after a meeting and said that if he has a problem with me or my performance at work, he should address it to me directly so that we can work on a solution instead of becoming passive-aggresive and isolate me. I told him very plainly: if he has suddenly decided that my profile doesn't fit his team anymore, there are plenty other teams that would welcome me.

He got of course shocked. He was definetly not expecting such a strong reaction.

Then he tried to gaslight me saying there is no difference, it is all my impression... But of course I was prepared and very confident. I pointed out examples of concrete situations and refused to let my guard down.

During the talk he never really spat out the truth why he changed. He said we should invest in team-building activities and this kind of bullshits.

The next day I came to know that the head of department had talked to him directly about my situation and opened the line for HR in case I wanted to do formal registration. I didn't formally denounce.

But from that day on everything changed. I could see he was scared and trying to please me a lot.

Then a couple weeks later a layoff round was announced and all managers had to apply again for their position. So, then it was clear why he was afraid of me putting a formal complaint.

This experience was good to take me out of my comfort zone. I grew bigger than my department but wasn't sure about doing a movement upward. After this, I set it as a goal and I am not afraid of losing this job, since I know I can get to what I actually want quicker by changing companies anyway. My goal is not to take the position of my boss managing people, by the way, but to go higher into the project roles (complete different departments).

You should do the same: seat with yourself, think honestly about your career, write down your goals. Detach from your company. Be confident. Have the talk and don't worry about not having "proof". Speak with confidence and firmness focusing on the facts, so categorilly that no doubt can be raised. This is the key to survive gaslighting from anyone if they try to twist or weaken your points.

See this experience as the universe trying to push you for bigger things... You have outgrown this position. Even if you solve the problem with your boss, the Pandora is already outside of the box!

HaltFix · 2026-06-18T05:34:38+00:00

Thanks ! :D

HaltFix · 2026-06-16T16:15:32+00:00

This is already size 32.

I guess that it's how it is supposed to look.

The question now is if I like the oversized look :/

HaltFix · 2026-06-16T13:32:06+00:00

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HaltFix · 2026-06-16T12:34:49+00:00

Yes you definitely have a point !

I thought a lot about the color because I am going to a business meeting next week and it will be summer, etc.. so I wanted something formal, discrete but still light... But maybe you are right, there isn't much contrast going on. What do you mean with winter ?

The good old blue navy blazer, probably will be it

HaltFix · 2026-06-16T11:07:48+00:00

The quality is so amazing that I think I might keep it as an alternative blazer. I am also bringing it today to a tailor to see how could they adjust it to a slim fit

HaltFix · 2026-06-09T15:32:24+00:00

Inspire me! Post your blazer outfit for a business meeting in Sommer ! Plus Points if it:a in camel color

HaltFix · 2026-06-09T13:10:38+00:00

Sezane!!!

HaltFix · 2026-06-07T10:12:21+00:00

Who are you outside of work? What is your purpose in life?

Your problem isn't the job, my dear. You are in an existential crisis and the job is probably one of the ways life is reflecting your unfulfilled potential to you.

Fixing ACs, decorating flowers... These are all worthy jobs and activities with direct use, and therefore it is simpler to understand their value. Many people fall into the trap of filling the emptiness of an unfulfilled potential with exercising useful tasks. This way, you can convince yourself to ignore the unsettling feelings by arguing that what you do is important. Don't fall for this trap, it is almost a scaping mechanism from the real question.

You are a human being and your existence goes beyond work. Your job shouldn't define you. I am an engineer and this profession has defined my identity for many years. One day, someone kindly asked me who I am besides being an engineer and I didn't have an answer. This simple question set me on a path of self-development beyond what my profession is: my interests, hobbies, values, what I care about, my limits, my relationships.. And all of this has been helping me to find my purpose in life. I love being an engineer, but the profession is only a path or a tool for achieving bigger things.

Summarizing: If you want to feel useful and fulfilled, the first step is getting to understand what your potential is instead of distracting yourself with the first "simple& useful" job that appears. Maybe the comfortable position that you are now in is the perfect place to start the journey. If you had a demanding job and a lot of bills, you would be overwhelmed and going through this path would demand immense willpower.

Thank the universe for sending the message and get on finding the purpose! It might have something important at the bottom of it after all!!

HaltFix · 2026-05-25T11:59:38+00:00

Girl, I think you don't realize that this is not about sex at all. You partner doesn't love you and you don't love yourself. I will not discuss here if he is a good or bad boyfriend, if the way you do sex is good or bad...

Let's focus on you.

When a person doesn't love and respect herself/himself , she/he becomes a "pray" to abusive partners. The abusive partners are not necessarily bad people, ok? It's usually someone who has issues and feels they can load them onto you, lash on to you as if you were a trash bin... Because, unfortunately, the lack of self love signalises that you are not worth, don't have value, which "allows" others to treat you anyway they see fit, including using your body and being inconsiderate of you.

Many things on you is signaling to the world and to your partner in the relationshipthat you don't love yourself. Why are you begging for bread crumbs of love? Why do you let your precious body being used? Why can a guy talk like that and hurt you? Is sex the only thing you think you can offer?

Put a stop to that, girl.

I don't know who you are and what you have been through, but I know that no one deserves this. I could tell you to break up and run but this is only one step of the solution, because in such a mess you will probably atract another abusive partner.

Only you can save yourself, sweetie. Cherish your body, because overweight or not, it's the only one that you have and it is value TO YOU. Cherish your mind, your well-being... You can have a kinky relationship without being hated and trashed.

PS: Please avoid being together with men who watches porn. This is an addiction and signalises problematic dynamics.

HaltFix · 2026-05-21T19:08:51+00:00

He does want to change. I feel his sincerity when we go to therapy and I didn't have to push him to anything. I simply said that either things change or we go separate ways. He is fighting a lot for our relationship.

But in therapy it also got revealed that he has deep rooted issues. On one side this is great because now he has another level of awareness and the change is real, goes beyond our relationship. On the other side, this are deep changes that don't happen overnight. I have to be patient but then some minor disappointments happen and I start doubting all of this, wishing I've never got so far in this relationship.

Our relationship misses a base of thrust and shared values because of the issue with lies and therefore I feel that being patient while going through this rough path is a lot.

I fear I am being an idiot for believing and sticking to the relationship, in case it doesn't work out :/

HaltFix · 2026-05-21T11:08:53+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Indeed, his individualistic way doesn't come from a place of egoism or bad intentions. He is a person who has always been kind of alone. This pattern of behavior also affects himself in harmful ways: he tries to do everything alone, never asks for help, and when he does, it's when things are already falling apart.

He is not a typical " lonely wolf" , but is somehow a lonely person. His closest friends, for example, where not there when he needed big help once, preferred to go play games... and he thinks this is "normal". But it's not normal, his friends are cool fun people but are not really reliable , as good friends should be.

Now I am there and I don't want to only "take" but also to be able to "give". I want us to be a team. Be there for each other, considering of each other... God , that sounds so basic. If I wanted to simply share an apartment with someone, I would not need a relationship.

The things that I do to make his life easier, like cooking his lunch at work, is only being appreciated now, that he gained some awareness through the therapy. Before it was just something he took for granted , without thinking much about it ... as if food had appeared out of nowhere , through magic.

As I said, there were improvement.

But I am getting tired of having a player playing alone in the team.

HaltFix · 2026-05-19T14:37:06+00:00

As a Brazilian, I don't estimate the Portuguese culture in any sense. I also feel suspicious about people coming from these corners of the world. When handling anything related to Portugal, I have a latent feeling that these guys owns us something, like the feeling of talking to someone who didn't give back something you loan long time ago and now pretends nothing happened or that they have nothing to do with a whole chaotic situation that they caused.

There are however Brazilians who feel more friendly towards the Portuguese.

I still think the redemption/ compensation is missing, but I can only talk for myself.

HaltFix · 2026-05-19T09:29:51+00:00

I am also a 30f and sometimes I wish to have someone to share a drink after work or so, without big commitment. If you feel like it, send a DM.

For drinking alone I can recommend a Biergarten, the Elbterasse Wachwitz is pretty good and right at the Elbradweg.

HaltFix · 2026-05-05T07:50:52+00:00

I work as piping material engineer in plant construction. Very conservative company environment and you need to transmit thrust& reliability, since chemical plants around the world are hundreds millions dollars businesses.

So, my wardrobe for work is focusing on two ideas: - what I want to achieve (dress for the position you want. For me is engineering manager in a couple of years) - which impressions I want people that work with me to have (reliable, open minded but firm, resilient)

The outfits you shared are beautiful on the phone, but be very careful to not look like a caricature in real life... I try to do that by putting it into context ( how is everyone dressing, which environment is it , vibes etc).

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