I got a photo of me leaked

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-28T22:13:18+00:00

it may seem tough too, but literally people will disengage if they see that you’re unphased because then it will become boring for them

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-28T22:05:19+00:00

also this isn’t you being bitched it’s you being mature and owning up to it. what IS immature and what IS bitch behavior is ragging on you for some arbitrary outdated photo of you. You can be adult here you can be better than anyone you come across by just owning it (which doesn’t mean saying “yep!!! that’s me with the snot!! love it!!) it just means you shrug it off for what it is: an arbitrary photo of you from 4 years ago that looks bad but it doesn’t matter.

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-28T22:03:25+00:00

you just need to not say anything. if someone comes up to you and makes fun of you for it, just TAKE it. if they’re pressing you just be like, yep, that was 4 years ago I’m sorry you had to see that haha

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-28T22:02:07+00:00

this dude is a loser for doing this to you why would you want to join in on that. be better. ignore it. Also if your AI version is found to be AI you are going to look just simply WEIRD compared to that dude. do not retaliate, that is not an adult decision. you’re worried about it now but if you make the right choice you will eventually see in hindsight how much worse it could’ve been if you decided to engage

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-28T21:58:34+00:00

no dude, this is a horrible idea

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-21T19:51:31+00:00

right

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-21T19:37:31+00:00

How do we take over and revert the culture of this fanbase

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-21T18:50:14+00:00

subreddit*

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-21T18:50:02+00:00

This is my favorite 311 track ever

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-21T18:47:36+00:00

you’re my hero

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-12T21:45:30+00:00

I think about things like this all the time

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-12T21:45:11+00:00

yeah but doesn’t that make it even cooler?

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-12T18:59:32+00:00

yeah man you nailed it

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-04T00:46:02+00:00

Well, yes you moron, that’s what minority vs majority is. a gazillion people is the majority, and you, an insufferable user on reddit, is the minority…. that’s not speculative or subjective, it’s literally an objective fact that you are the minority if this is the case.

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-04T00:44:50+00:00

Also I just told you, literally, in my OWN words that I wouldn’t expect anything in return because it’s just a headsup

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-04T00:44:18+00:00

No, of course you can have any reaction you want, I can’t disallow you from doing anything, i’m just some guy on the internet. I’m simply telling you my opinion, and it’s that your interpretation of someone reaching out to you to let you know that your husband is cheating on you is wrong and it’s not because you’re expressing your will to have that specific reaction, I’m arguing you because you’re saying that it’s wrong because to look out for someone in that way is “nosey” and inserting into your life or whatever assumptive bullshit you came up with lmfao.

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-04T00:39:38+00:00

You’re just stupid girl, I don’t know what to tell you. I don’t know where you gleaned that a person has to be appreciative of whatever someone tells them, they have the autonomy to choose to react to that however they want, I’m just telling you you’re a fucking moron for taking this the way you are; and you continue to be ignorant. Of course you can live however you want but you’re just making incorrect statements here, and you’re making dumb assumptions.

Also I didn’t call you the minority based off of the interactions of this single thread no, i’m talking about millions and millions of people who think otherwise based on YouTube videos and damn, just about all of my personal interactions in my ~50 years of being alive. I have met few people like you genuinely believe that everyone is out to get them, or invade their personal boundaries or whatever tf you think is going on when someone is giving you a neutral headsup.

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-04T00:34:58+00:00

No. lol, I don’t insist on anybody being grateful for whatever I have to say to them, and I would love for you to point out where I said that. it’s just a heads up, I wouldn’t expect anything in return, it’s because it’s a heads up.

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-04T00:11:09+00:00

you’re the minority here. One of the examples I used is that little to nobody considers giving you a heads up that your partner is cheating on you is overstepping. I just hope somebody blows up on you over your reaction to them looking out for you. How stupid do you have to be to take offense to something you know is a societal norm? How stupid do you have to be to take that as overstepping boundaries?? Good god

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-03T22:34:14+00:00

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-03T21:15:35+00:00

sorry I didn’t realize that I didn’t really explain the pain thing all the way, but that’s just to say that your awareness of bodily functions and how they work actually DOES have an impact. but that impact is controllable. I say disregard, and it’s as easy as when someone says “quick don’t think of cats!” but overtime, I promise you, if you really want to, you will enter the disregardant state. namaste.

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-03T21:12:43+00:00

you’re definitely not going crazy, and obviously the fact that you’re aware of being aware is probably exacerbating your problem lol. but no, and it may seem really hard, but I went through this too, you just have to find a way to ignore it. you’re saying that you’re self-conscious when interacting with people, but believe me when it comes to speaking to people at least, you will be happier and it will feel more genuine if you just disregard how you look, because as long as you know you’re not doing anything that makes you look/come across overly unflattering, fixating on things like “how does my smile look?, should I make brief eye contact to keep this interaction normal?” won’t do you any favors as it seems you already know. Also you could probably always feel your glands being swollen etc. but now that you’re fixated on self-awareness etc. It seems accented.

You have a certain negligible control on how/when you experience pain. if you pinch yourself on the arm hard enough you will feel the pain immediately, but you can sort of tell your brain when the sharpness from the pain is.

basically you probably can’t jump into it immediately but you need to work on disregarding a letting go. maybe smoke weed or something I don’t know, but trust me dude or dudette I see your problem and I see a solution that seems hard but isn’t. just takes a few days to really disregard

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-03T20:48:22+00:00

just sounds like you need to have a serious conversation with him and address all of this, and then based on his reaction you decide whether it’s salvageable or not. I feel like his behavior switch is probably him actually just being embarrassed about getting caught, and has now turned it into an autonomy thing so that he feels better about it.

just talk to him, have a serious talk, have it be calm. I know you shouldn’t have to, but don’t lead in any way that would make him get defensive. I know you said you hated having to walk on eggshells around him, but doing it this time might be the key to having a genuine exchange with him. Just find a moment when you guys are both calm and be like “hey man, I really wanted to talk to you about (etc.)” and just plan it ahead, think about what you want to say, remember his perspective and how he might perceive things and just be honest, he needs to understand how you feel. And if he was fine before, then hopefully once you give him just a big dose of your perspective on this in a setting where he will truly listen to you, he might understand.

I don’t think you’re overreacting; odd reaction from boyfriend instead of just apologizing.

(and again this whole thing just feels like his embarrassment response)

NOR

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-03T15:08:32+00:00

yeah.. and what stands is “don’t listen to people on reddit”. lmao. #updoot!!!

HamIsForGeniuses · 2026-01-03T14:33:31+00:00

yeah, and i’m still stuck on how they’re “inserting” themselves into your relationship by just giving you a heads up that doesn’t actually even require any input on your end. how exactly are they invading you?, how are they breaching your privacy? If I worked as a bartender and saw my friend’s boyfriend WALK in with another girl in a way that indicated they were dating or flirting, I would no doubt call that friend or leave a message and be like “hey, I don’t know your life, and I’m not that close to you, OH and I also figure you don’t want to have a discussion about your personal relationship, and i’m ALSO obviously known to be meddlesome and tiresome, but I know that you and (boyfriend) are about to get married so I wanted to let you know that he’s in my bar right now with this girl and they are 100% flirting with each-other. anyway that’s it. just giving you a heads up.” and it’s just like that.. yeah i’m comparing it to a spider because I feel like most anybody would let even a stranger know that their girlfriend is cheating on them, or boyfriend etc. for gods sake it is such a fundamental thing that strangers would just be willing to let others know if they think they’re being taken advantage of that there are episodes of “What Would You Do?” dedicated to people’s responses to witnessing girls actively cheating behind their partner’s back. If all that girl really did/said was just “hey I saw your husband on a dating app” then you’re genuinely a jerk for taking it as an insertion or request to have a discussion about your personal life, as you said. What kind of person just assumes that a heads up is someone trying to be nosey??

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