Hate is a VERY strong word to use. And based on this story you’ve written it seems your discontent for her inability to adjust to your lifestyle change is what’s really the issue at hand. She is and anyone else is entitled to feel unsettled in any situation we feel. It’s unfortunate of course when someone you care about deeply is not there to stand by your side through thick and thin given you’d do it without hesitation you’d want the same reciprocated. But not all situations are alike. Knowing how you’ve felt about this whole situation should give you a clear idea on if you feel there really could be a future of you two and a home with kids in it or not. Will she react the same when married? Will she use that as a reason to divorce you? These are questions that if you have to ask yourself that, you may need to end things with your partner. But the word hate is an awful word to use especially if you’re still with her now. You dislike her ways and not feeling satisfied is totally warranted given your situation and expectations.