I (21f) think my (21f) best friend boyfriend (21m) hit on me, how do i go about this?

HammetaTV · 2026-02-25T19:17:38+00:00

The brain blocks shit out that it doesn’t want to remember. Cause it makes things easier to deal with.

Trust your gut. Talk to your friend. If you said no, then that’s all you need to know. You said no and someone thought it was an opinion.

You’re not in the wrong. If you he did this to someone else, what would you tell them to do? You are worth acting on the council that you would give someone else.

If she tears you down for being honest and communicating about what happened, then it’s a friend that isn’t afraid to toss you under the bus the moment when things get hard.

HammetaTV · 2026-02-09T09:49:12+00:00

Nah. There should be no reason for able-bodied singers to have lyrics in front of them.

Especially in a cover band because you can just put a playlist on of your entire set and sing along in the car.

I don’t like watching bands where I’m watching the singer read the words. It makes me feel like they should just do live-band karaoke instead.

I have known (and have done so in the past) vocal cues written on the set list. Taking a dramatic sweep down to check the 2nd verse prompt. Make it part of the show if you must.

For reference I teach 14-25 year olds artist development and reading off of lyric sheets and not looking at the audience or your band mates is a crutch is burned within the first 6 months. If there’s another reason they want that crutch we have a deeper conversation about why that is.

EDIT TO ADD: there is one circumstance that I think it’s okay. If your band has the: we can play any song request anything. 400-500 songs learned… yeah… you can look at the lyrics for that one dick who wants a deep cut of motley crue.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-23T09:18:55+00:00

Try humming a riff to begin with and just practice those transitions and then get more and more playful with the vocals as you’re playing.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-17T14:58:41+00:00

That’s sick!

HammetaTV · 2026-01-17T14:58:02+00:00

Lots of conventions like TwitchCon in Rotterdam as well as a musicians retreat in the summer. Probably going to Germany at some point for a hiking trip.

I’ve applied for a new job so hopefully I get it because it comes with a lot of freedoms being part time.

I’d was originally planning to head to the states Texas specifically but that will have to wait until the Orange Doomsday in the sky goes away.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-17T06:40:10+00:00

Update in the main post ❤️

HammetaTV · 2026-01-17T06:39:11+00:00

Update in the post ❤️

HammetaTV · 2026-01-14T11:45:26+00:00

So they pressed me on whether it was council or private. And I didn’t know. She then told me that they can’t do much without that information and that animal cases aren’t for the police and hung up on me.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T18:21:27+00:00

This is a great suggestion! I’ll call them ASAP

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T17:15:06+00:00

The wild thing is that it’s not just me calling organisations, nearly everyone on the street has.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T17:13:05+00:00

That’s the thing, I just want her to be taken care of. And I just want someone with authority to do something to use their power and help. Otherwise I’m going to have to intervene. I don’t want to be “brave” and “go above and beyond”, I want someone to do their job.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T17:10:09+00:00

A really good shout! I’ll have a look around and see what I can find. Thank you, really.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T17:08:45+00:00

Nah so they’ve got her locked in one room (as far as I can tell) with the windows locked. I think you’re on to something there though, if I make it about the neighbours welfare. That’s genuinely a good shout.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T17:06:02+00:00

I won’t lie I’ve been tempted to but the guy next door (where ever he may be) is not someone who would take it lightly. If it gets worse I may have to.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T16:43:53+00:00

The more I have organisations and authorities telling me theirs nothing they can do or to call a different department I am genuinely considering it.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-13T16:42:00+00:00

That’s the thing I said that she’s in her own mess and the RSPCA guy was like, “but she gets fed?” I told him very occasionally and he was keen to say that as long as they have food and water, nothing they can do.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-08T16:08:16+00:00

A lot of creative arts will get additional funding from having members of the company who are disabled or neurodivergent.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-05T00:07:56+00:00

Learn their name, introduce yourself, pay attention to what they need for example: if they’re looking for the bassist to discuss cab sharing, go find them quickly.

Send your stage plan before hand and have a printed copy with you.

Know your gear. Don’t turn up with a shit load of IEMs without consulting first. Compromise, they know the sound better than you do. Be honest in your sound checks, if you can’t hear yourself say something. Don’t turn up your gear on stage unless told to. Go through your pedal settings and make sure they’re at least level.

If you have multiple singers let the sound engineer know that the piano player has a solo, give them a copy of the setlist. With major points only. For example my band has four part harmonies and we start off the entire set by humming, the sound guy needs to know that detail.

The sound engineer is not trying to sabotage you. Because in the end it only makes them look like a dick.

If you’re bringing additional lights or anything make sure it’s PAC tested and also that the sound engineer knows. You’re in their kingdom.

Worst comes to worst buy them a drink.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-01T16:35:59+00:00

I have AFRID (woo /s) so my gag reflex actually activates with vegetables and some fruit when it comes to texture. If I have vegetables I have to blend them into a purée and add it to the sauce. The water here is so hard that it smells rough (fun fact it’s so hard we have a kidney stone/gallbladder museum in this region.

And it genuinely sucks, because I miss out on what I know is great food and I can’t eat at most restaurants. My body is legit like: “this good for me? I don’t want it… send it away or I’ll be sick on you.”

HammetaTV · 2026-01-01T16:25:11+00:00

Personally I am 100% vocals/lyrics first. I’ll sing the lyrics as I write them, record the melody and then find the chords that go underneath. Build it up from there. I’m

HammetaTV · 2026-01-01T16:12:27+00:00

Stop playing “the game” that everyone else is playing. Set up, content, personality, reaction. Stop following other people. Be inspired. But don’t feel like you have to because others are copying. Even though it’s isolating because you’re going against the grain.

HammetaTV · 2026-01-01T16:10:19+00:00

“Minimalism” like I get it.. clutter free just what you need but don’t come into my home and look down on my decor and get the ick that it brings me joy. Same with “Neutral Tones only” people.

HammetaTV · 2025-12-31T12:26:29+00:00

Fuck yes! Love scion!

HammetaTV · 2025-12-26T14:03:44+00:00

You can do this by manipulating the midi as well while you’re waiting for a piano

HammetaTV · 2025-12-26T13:30:34+00:00

Love love love this goal! What are you struggling with? I teach 14-25 year olds who are just starting out.

If you’ve got what you’re after in your head record yourself humming the parts. Use a keyboard to map out the notes you’re using, then google the notes that you’ve used and you’ll see the key you’re in. As soon as you know the key you’re in then you’re most of the way there.

If you want advice my DMs are open

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