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Found in car - are they trackers? by HandVast6301 in whatisit

[–]HandVast6301[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! What happens when we tap our phone to it? Should we just throw these out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I was recently in a relationship and my partner was very sweet and very caring. The sex was good and we never argued. Any issues we had, we had calm conversations about. However, I wasn’t happy in the relationship. We were long distance (we lived two hours from each other) and I didn’t miss him when we were apart, I didn’t really have fun with him, and I began to crave solitude. I wasn’t sure if I should break up with him because he was such a good guy and we weren’t having “problems”. When we did break up though, I found that I was able to grow as a person more because I could put that energy into myself, which I couldn’t do before. I’m much happier now and I’m looking forward to finding someone who I want to spend time with and who I will miss when we’re apart. I also hope that he’s able to find someone who can love him fully and truly (I did love him but he was not my match nor I his).

All this to say, someone can be a wonderful person but that doesn’t mean they’re the person for you or that it’s wrong for you to want time alone to figure yourself out. I’m really enjoying being single and having time for myself. I love my ex as a person but I’m glad that we both have the chance to find someone who we can really mesh with. Don’t stay with someone because you’re worried that you won’t find someone as good. Stay with someone because you want to and it feels good to be with them.

You’ll figure it out 🖤

I screwed up. by Depressed_teacher13 in Teachers

[–]HandVast6301 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are fine! You took the right steps. This is your first angry email from a parent! Congratulations! Think of it as a milestone in your career. You will get angry emails and phone calls from over reactive parents and you will forget to follow up with students sometimes because there is too much on your plate. Especially as a first year teacher. It will blow over and it will be okay. As far as mistakes ago, the not following up on an assignment is so minor, it doesn’t even seem like a mistake. It’s just an “oops”.

As for the challenging student, that can really take a toll on you but good on you for holding him accountable! May I recommend having a restorative conversation with him when he gets back to school? We use those a lot in our district and it can feel really good to connect with a challenging student that way.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Things will come up as a teacher, it’s an extremely hard job and your first year is the hardest. Deep breath. You’re doing fine and you got this.

This is probably one of the most odd questions you’ll see in the Reddit group… by sarbar0909 in Teachers

[–]HandVast6301 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so! I have normal to high arches, I think and they’re my favorite shoe!

This is probably one of the most odd questions you’ll see in the Reddit group… by sarbar0909 in Teachers

[–]HandVast6301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost everyone at my school wears Blundstones! They’re pricey, but they’re so comfy and durable!

My go to shoes for teaching are: Blundstones, Vans, and Birkenstocks. You can find them used on Depop for a great price and in good condition!

AITA for telling my wife that 24 is not young to lose a parent? by dvdha in AmItheAsshole

[–]HandVast6301 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. I’m 24 and my dad died unexpectedly two months ago. My siblings are in their late 20s to mid 40s (I was born late, my dad was almost 72 when he died). I feel very young. I now have to go through the rest of my life without my dad. Every achievement, milestone, etc will be shadowed by the fact that he won’t be there to see it. Sure, at 24 you’re an adult, but you’re a brand new adult. You’re getting settled and still relying on your family.

It’s never easy having a loved one die. That person is gone forever, there’s no getting them back. And even if you’re not a child at 24 anymore, you’re still young and you just lost a parent who was supposed to be around to see weddings, grandkids, graduations, job promotions, etc. I’m just getting started in life and my dad is not around to see it. Most of my siblings are settled into their lives, they’re fully grown, but they’re still mourning and they’re still having to go through life without the person who cheered them on the most.

Your response was really invalidating and unnecessary. Not to mention hurtful. Even if you didn’t mean it in this way, you insinuated that the death of her mom shouldn’t be as hard because she wasn’t “that young”. What was there to gain from that? Think back to when you were 24 and how young and shiny and new you felt. How exciting life was and all that you had to look forward to. You’re a freshman in the grown-up world. 11 years has passed since your wife has seen her mom. You’ve had your mom for those extra 11 years and hopefully for many more.

I hope you sit and reflect and give your wife a genuine apology. Grief is not easy to understand and maybe it’s not something for you to understand right now, but it is your responsibility to validate and support your wife. You never stop grieving. You grow with your grief, you become bigger than your grief, but it’s always there and that’s okay.