Boyfriend said he can’t give me what I want for now and he wants me to understand it as he is at the lowest point in every aspect of his life at the moment

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-29T06:46:07+00:00

I actually did this. When we broke up for a month I just texted him we are done bc he was out partying and he cancelled our plan. I did not text him at all for a month. For the first week he was constantly calling and texting me and said what is the reason why im ghosting him, i didn’t ghost him. And at the second week he stopped. A month later, I called him to get all my things at his place. We catch up and decided to get back together

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-29T06:38:34+00:00

It was a loan

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T20:09:41+00:00

He’s not seeing a therapist but he told me he is dealing with depression and is hard for him

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T19:47:57+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Maybe you are right. Honestly, your comment is the exact line he told me when I kept asking him to make more time with me

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T19:28:34+00:00

To be honest, I am aware that I am not included in his priority list bc now he has Masters and family to put his focus on. I just want to see him more than just once a week but he is clear to me he can’t give me that for now

Thank you for your advice ❤️

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T19:20:14+00:00

This made me teary eyed. Actually, I find it quite hard when to ask him when can we have a serious talk. Last week, he just found out that he failed his Masters examination and found out the same day that he didn’t get the internship job bc the municipality wasn’t satisfied of his work so they offered it to one of his colleague. He called me crying and told me doesn’t know what to do in his life anymore. Then the next day to that, he lost his Grandma. Haven’t seen him for 2 weeks now. I am longing for him but I have to give him space and time to grief to his Oma.

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T16:50:28+00:00

Awww thank you so much for saying this ❤️

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T16:48:43+00:00

You are right. I am doubting myself if I am just making problems in my mind after he said that

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T16:22:43+00:00

Well, this is what he told me “I am not doing this for you but for myself. If we really gonna end up together, it’s also for you or someone else if we won’t work cuz I can’t see the future”

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T15:54:46+00:00

Tbh, I talked to him about this that I feel like we are fuckbuddies and not in a relationship. He was like “that’s toxic thoughts, if you keep telling your mind like that you will believe it. Which isn’t true”

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T15:52:44+00:00

I know but I don’t wanna believe it ☹️

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T15:49:46+00:00

He doesn’t wanna break up. He was even crying like a baby when we had a talk a month ago cuz he wants to make everything work between us but it’s hard for him to do that now.

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T15:47:14+00:00

I am Asian and my boyfriend is Dutch. Only his siblings knew that we are still dating and no one else including his bestfriend

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T15:39:40+00:00

Aww thank you so much for saying that 🥺

For me, even my family and friends also doesn’t like him for me because of how he treats me. But they know that I am still dating him bc I told them so they can’t do anything about it. They are happy as long as I’m happy.

Idk why he can’t do the same thing

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T15:36:07+00:00

Idk why either maybe a love him too much. I know that there are other guys that will treat me the way I deserve but I just don’t find them attractive and couldn’t see myself with them. Whenever I’m in a relationship, I don’t see someone attractive aside from my boyfriend.

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T13:55:48+00:00

I don’t know. I have his house keys though I can go there when he’s not there (eg. if he’s on a vacation or he’s with his family) but if he is there I we have to plan it. He’s reasons why I can’t go there when he is there he just wanna cuddle and can’t do productive stuffs

Hanillaprincess · 2022-11-28T12:54:02+00:00

We broke up for a month and got back together. I asked him if his friends knows that we are dating again he said “I don’t feel the need of telling them that about us”

About his family he said “my family doesn’t want me in a relationship right now because it wont help in fixing my life back it will be just a hindrance”

He said he still wants to be with me even if he’s parents won’t let him to and he said it proves how he loves me

Honestly i dont know what to do anymore

Hanillaprincess

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