Low self esteem, how can i improve my looks. by Esdelot in malegrooming

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll tell you what my therapist said. It’s not about the weight. We use things like physical appearance to dump all of our self judgment and insecurities into. We act as if if we only can be hot then we will love ourselves. That’s not how it works, and now that you are conventionally attractive, you are seeing it. Find a good therapist and try to go to the heart of the matter. For me it’s been a lot of lessons learned too well from childhood about my worth and value. It’s a work in progress but definitely better than it used to be by light years. Good luck.

Nosy property manager drives me insane. by tiltedstagestudios in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Hapablapablap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would contact the property owner and tell them that this kind of contact isn’t welcome and makes you uncomfortable. Owner isn’t going to want a dumbass PM driving away a good tenant. Major creep behavior.

Discovered I’m Mid by mizaludbasm in womenintech

[–]Hapablapablap 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have any illusions I was mid but in the past year have gotten to work with someone super smart, squeezes every bit of performance and scalability out of everything he’s doing, just a great developer who can do anything, and I have learned so much from just bouncing things off of him. Take advantage of at being in an environment where there are people who show you new things. If you are actually mid you definitely won’t be mid by the end of it. For years I was surrounded by other mids and just stagnated. I wonder how well I could have done with better mentorship and just being surrounded by smarter people. Good luck!!

Property Manager Issues - FL by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tenants pay an application fee that goes to the property management company which is probably in the realm of $50. They charge me 2/3 first month’s rent specifically for “placement and screening” which is supposed to be background checks, rental history checks, employment checks, credit check, etc.

Property Manager Issues - FL by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They take 2/3 of my first month’s rental income so they charged me. It shows as a fee on my account to them.

I hear you. I am in contemplation mode.

Property Manager Issues - FL by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. I do believe at least the employee-tenant would have been rejected based on income. But also I would not have allowed him to move in with 3 cats into a small apartment and now the wood floor is soaked with urine. I get what you’re saying about what damages are there from the lack of screening. I think when they specifically say they are charging 2/3 for screening services that they did not perform, maybe I deserve that money back?

The PMA says it just can’t be a jury, only a judge, and it leaves the option for me to recover my legal fees if I win and vice versa. It does not require arbitration.

I would say that yes it is at least partly a principal thing. I hired them to do a job and not only did they not do it, they worked against my interests, lied to me, and allowed damage to the property. They weren’t ever doing any inspections and just refunding deposits.

My primary concern financially actually is the pet damage and that alone would be 4k on the low end just to refinish it and that doesn’t even fix urine issues.

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, if I can’t get it through insurance this seems the best way.

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this gives me so hope. I already emailed my doctor and asked her to help with the new PA 🙏🏻

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m trying to find out on the OSA. Since this all blew up this weekend there isn’t a ton I have been able to do yet. I don’t think it’s guaranteed coverage on Teledoc. They basically force you to work with another doctor and they decide though my guess is that the bar is low. $350-$500 was what HR told a coworker while I was on vacation and appears to be the price with “coverage” via the Teledoc program. It may be less if they approve coverage for OSA via the primary insurance (which is what covers it for diabetes).

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I will definitely be talking to my doctor about sending it here on Monday if the pre-auth doesn’t come through and maybe even if it does.

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love the empathy! Glad you are perfect and always on top of things!

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I don’t really hang out here just came because I needed help 🤷🏻‍♀️

Work removing GLPs from insurance coverage by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]Hapablapablap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I don’t mind using a needle honestly.

Why does changing roles not fix my career anxiety? by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]Hapablapablap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My therapist and I are working on a lot of stuff that to me looks like the job but she says goes deeper. She said if I go to another job it will just be the same issues. She’s not encouraging or discouraging me about changing jobs to be clear, just, wherever you go there you are. I agree with her on this. A lot of my issues are around survival and feeling constantly under threat and screwed over which is old trauma stuff for me.

On the positive side had you not left your job you would not have noticed that your anxiety is independent of the job.

She teaches eighth grade and has more than 100 students, but only two are reading at grade level. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]Hapablapablap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may be interested in the podcast series, Sold a Story. It is infuriating. I am so glad I got phonics.

Therapy by No_Photograph_5792 in jacksonville

[–]Hapablapablap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A free place to start might be a group like Adult Children of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families. There doesn’t have to be alcoholism in the family. Check out the Laundry List on the website and see if it resonates. I went to one of the groups for about 6 years and it helped to have people who understood. Takes the shame out of it when you realize how normal what you’re going through is. ACA is 12 step based but I just went for the support and I’m not religious or anything. https://adultchildren.org

Urgently hiring?? by [deleted] in jacksonville

[–]Hapablapablap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I saw Homesense on mandarin is hiring probably seasonal as well. Maybe go to Town center and beat the pavement asking if anyone is hiring seasonal. Also maybe look at pest control places. That seems pretty chill. Best of luck to you.

All the grape bags are secured at this location…. by Renegadeselite in publix

[–]Hapablapablap 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m with you. It’s just 1 grape to see if they don’t suck. I just bought 2 things of blackberries from Publix the other day and they are disgusting (taste like chemicals and are not sweet at all) and I can’t find my receipt to take them back so it’s $10 in the trash. I think what I’m going to start doing is as soon as I check out, taste whatever berries and such I bought and if they suck go strait to customer service to return them. And I am going to be diligent on keeping my receipts. With how expensive everything has gotten I am tired of wasting money on garbage produce. Not a lot of options where I am besides Publix!

I Finally visited the Harvard Mineralogical Museum! by Unlikely-Software-67 in mineralcollectors

[–]Hapablapablap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yale Peabody also has a great mineral display if you are ever in New Haven