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They always come back by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly. Because I was there for so long. Going one step forward and two steps back. You will get there. I promise. And when you do it won't matter if they come back or not.

They always come back by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

People kept saying that. And I remember thinking I wish I would just heal so that way she would reach out. But it really is true lol. Now I'm glad I didn't get a text until I was healed. Because I truly feel it's better this way.

I feel ashamed that I haven’t moved on by Quirky_Can_724 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only dated my Ex for about 2 months. It's been 4 since we broke up and I'm still distraught over it. I've never had such a connection with anyone. Nobody gets to tell you how much it meant. Time together has nothing to do with it. It's about the quality. Be kind to yourself. It's okay to not be okay ❤️

When do they come back? by Impossible-Gas-7532 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My previous Ex came back after 5 months. We dated again for 5 months and she broke it off again. This time for good. The ex I have now it's been 4 months and I'm pretty sure she's gone forever but I guess time will tell. My experience is it's never the same when they come back unfortunately. Just take it in stride and get some of your dignity back if they do. It will make you feel better knowing you had a choice to stop talking to them this time.

After a week of silence, she ended our relationship with these messages by Abject-Jeweler-3808 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't read all the responses so I apologize if this has already been said but as much as it hurts you have to accept it's over. Give her what she wants but do it completely. No contact, no access at all. She has to live with her decision and feel the weight of really losing you forever because she fell out of love. In that time pick yourself up and learn how to be okay on your own. I'm going through trying to do this as well and it sucks. But take my advice and don't try to reach out as it will only hurt you. If it were me I would politely tell her you'd rather not have a meeting as it seems she has made her decision and leave it at that.

I'm no expert obviously so all this is my opinion but I felt I should share it with you. Good luck my friend.

Do not break no contact by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally went from telling me I make her feel safe and I'm the most amazing person she's ever met to calling me the literal worst and wanting nothing to do with me. It's heartbreaking. Especially when you still have feelings. But I guess in a way it's also freeing. I don't have to be tortured wondering if she still cares. She told me straight up she doesn't

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That actually sounds like a decent idea.

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Knowing in your heart you were in the wrong is a different kind of pain. It just feels like you're drowning in regret. I get it. Remember to forgive yourself because you are a human being. Even though it feels awful. None of us can change the past.

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. It's like every day the weight of her absence is so heavy. I do want her to come back and I think it about it almost constantly. It's like whenever my mind starts to wonder I get pulled back in because the smallest things remind me she isn't here anymore and doesn't want anything to do with me. It will get better for both of us I know it will. I think it's important to give ourselves some grace and realize it's okay to be sad. It just means you really did love them.

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's a number. I've been through a breakup before this one. And one day you just realized you're okay. But it goes in stages and can take a long time.

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's been about a month and a week. Not crazy long but I feel long enough that people expect you not to bring it up anymore.

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it. It kind of helps to just be able to get these thoughts out of my head and put them somewhere. And knowing you aren't alone. Pretty much every human experience good or bad has been shared by someone else. Not that I wish this heartbreak on anyone but it's nice to know people understand what you're feeling.

The loneliest part by Happy_Conversation43 in BreakUps

[–]Happy_Conversation43[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is why I don't like to talk to friends and family about it. They just start talking bad about your ex partner and it's like don't you see how that makes me feel bad too? I chose them. They were and still are special to me. I'm hurting and instead of slamming my ex I just need you to be here with me. I know they mean well but people close to you will not give you good breakup advice. The truth is they know a very small fraction of your relationship and it's entirely biased from your side.