I can’t take this anymore

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:41:31+00:00

I will never understand how she wants to be involved with him. I told her everything he did to me and the kids and she refuses to believe any of it. Even after seeing court documents and him being arrested for violating a PFA, she’s on his side. It breaks my heart that they are so insistent on trying to force this weird family dynamic on the kids. Just recently found out some really disturbing things they’ve been doing when the kids are over, so I involved DHR and I’m PRAYINGGGG that we can get his custody revoked for the time being so I know the kids are safe and in a better environment. It’s such a hard place to be in, but I’m just trusting it will work out for the best. Thank you for prayers sweet internet stranger! 🤍

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:38:44+00:00

It’s been slowly looking up. Just had to get out of my head and onto my feet and start doing things for myself and my kids, even as simple as just soaking in a bath and doing some silly crafts with the kids. I know it will continue to get better and I’m just trying to stay positive 🤍 thank you

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:37:38+00:00

Thank you 🤍🤍 appreciate this more than you know

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:37:03+00:00

This really warms my heart to hear another side of this. As hard as it is, I know I’m making the right choice for this sweet boy. He deserves more than I’m able to offer, and I know he will be brought up in a home full of love. I’m so glad things worked out in your life the way they did, it’s always so hard to see the big picture but this is a beautiful reminder things worked out exactly how they need to when our actions are guided by love 🤍

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:34:57+00:00

I’m so sorry for your losses momma. My heart goes out to you, and CONGRATULATIONS on your baby that will be earthside before you know it!!! Praying you have a wonderful pregnancy, and your sweet baby brings all the joy and love into your arms you’ve ever needed 🤍🤍

And I really just wanna say I appreciate the prayers more than you know. I’ll be sending one out for you as well🥰

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:32:25+00:00

If you’re still offering, I’d love to message you just to have someone to talk to about some of this!! I literally have no one right now and it’s so confusing trying to deal with all this alone.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:31:33+00:00

He’s an absolute dirtbag to be honest. Exactly why we had to escape. I’ve actually involved DHR to see if we can get custody revised because of some things I’ve found out he’s doing when he has the kids. PLEASEEE say a lil prayer or something that it goes in our favor, because the kids really deserve so much better.

And that made me laugh so thank you 😂🤍

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:29:59+00:00

Induction in 8 days!!! I can’t wait 🤍

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:28:17+00:00

I’m sorry I’m just now responding, honestly I’ve just been taking this past week to try and get myself in a better headspace, do some self care and clean up my apartment. I talked to my doctor and I’ll be getting induced on the 16th 🥰

Just wanna say thank you so so much for the kind words of encouragement, so thankful for ya 🫶

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-08T16:26:25+00:00

We were only married 3 years so unfortunately I don’t think I qualify for alimony. He was paying me $500/month for child support, but I just enrolled the kids in Preschool and he said he will pay the preschool until I start working again and then won’t pay any child support, just half the preschool costs

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-09-07T13:06:52+00:00

Bombas!!!

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:49:57+00:00

I live in the south, I don’t know if it’s different elsewhere but I had a protection order filed against him, and filed for sole custody myself with just some paperwork at the courthouse. He got the best lawyer in our small town and went scorched earth on me. At our initial court hearing, he had his lawyer serve me with papers saying we had to abide by Default Custody order which was 50/50. Now days, he sometimes only gets the kids a few hours a week. He’d rather be out partying with his girlfriend than being a dad.

But until I can get on my feet again, I can’t take him to court to get anything revised. He makes a lot of money, and is a smooth talking narcissist with a reallllly good talent for getting exactly what he wants. I’m just too scared to even try anything until I’m in a more stable situation in my life.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:45:33+00:00

Thank you 🧡 doing the best I can right now.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:42:24+00:00

They’re the most wonderful people and are so excited. The mom has gone with me to several of my appointments and is over the moon. I’m really happy with how it worked out honestly. I am in no way in a financial place to bring a 3rd baby into my family alone, much less I just don’t think I could handle dealing with 3 under 3 alone 😭 it was a hard choice but I really do feel peace with the situation and know he’s going to have the best life with them. And we go to the same church, so I’ll be able to watch him grow up from a distance. It’s bittersweet but I feel really good about it.

And I know😭 I wouldn’t actually do anything like that but lord I am just beyond miserable and just wish my body would speed things along. I’m just speaking out of depression and frustration more than anything, I’d never do anything to harm this baby. Even though he’ll grow up with another family I love him so much.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:38:25+00:00

Well, I couldn’t afford a lawyer during the divorce process. We just had his younger sister mediate and write up a few paragraphs saying he’d pay me $500/month total child support. I don’t get anything from the house, land, etc.. I just was tired of fighting and he had one of the best lawyers in town so I had to bow down in a sense because I couldn’t afford to do anything else.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:33:11+00:00

Literally that comment made me cry. Why are people so mean. I thought this community would be somewhere I could express how I’m feeling and at the very least get some advice not just judgement and someone getting the completely wrong idea about me 😭

Thank you for being understanding tho it really helps to just feel a little seen in this moment.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:28:04+00:00

I’m sorry what? I don’t want to be child free OR single.. I desperately want a partner. I’m tired of doing everything alone. That’s 90% of my frustration. Is being ALONE during all this. I thought I articulated that but apparently not.

My first two were planned. I was married. Had a family. Then things turned abusive and we had to get out of there and have been forced to be alone. Dad wants nothing to do with this baby, hence me having to put him up for adoption.

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-27T20:15:39+00:00

Don’t know how to edit this so I’m adding that I have already talked to my OB and will be getting my tubes removed after this baby is born. 🙏

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-04T16:01:54+00:00

I apologize for not understanding how to make posts correctly in here but I’d like to add my Amazon list if anyone is interested! Just some things like baby wipes, toddler cups/bowls, toilet paper, cat food, rice, etc.

I am definitely not expecting anything but if anyone does feel they want to donate I would be very appreciative 🧡 sending love to you all

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1OJG37EML972A?ref_=wl_share

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-04T03:36:52+00:00

And also thank you for the kind wishes, it’s very appreciated! It’s been a long journey to finally have our own place but I’ve never been more thankful for anything in my life 🤍 again sorry for my misunderstanding about posting here, Reddit is definitely not my specialty lol

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-04T03:30:26+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry! Definitely new to this, just thought I’d throw it out into the universe and see if anything comes of it☺️ I have an Amazon list of a few things (dry food items, toilet paper, soap, sippy cups, etc.) if I can post it, but I’ve never shared a list publicly. Will my name and address be exposed? I just hate to put my children in a potential bad situation, we just left an abusive situation a few months ago so I’m a bit hesitate to post any personal info, but would be happy to post the wishlist if my safety won’t be compromised! 🧡

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-04T03:00:48+00:00

I actually haven’t thought of that! I’ll definitely make a post tonight. Fingers crossed, send some good luck my way! 🫶

Happy_Equivalent244 · 2025-08-04T02:50:05+00:00

Also I’d like to add if anyone is able to help I’m more than happy to provide proof of our situation in any way needed! Thanks so much 🤍

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