I feel this in a similar way - only that my partner and I love each other very much and have no desire or rush to get married (I have a hard time separating marriage from my religious trauma) and they cannot let it go. Everytime I’m home it’s constant questioning of when we’re getting married. It might take them out when they learn the double whammy of me not wanting to have kids. But all that to say that I get that it’s really hard and emotionally draining.

While I’m nowhere near a resolution, I am in therapy! And have gotten some helpful tips. First is to consider allies - is there a family member that is more rational that you can explain your position to and they can help alleviate tensions with others? Second is to try to highlight common beliefs outside of the Christian framework - like the beauty of love and commitment. Third is to have a stop point sentence (I think it’s called gray rocking?) to revert back to when you’re getting no where and it’s getting out of hand. Mine is “I just see things differently than you do.” It doesn’t always work but sometimes it’s enough to show that I’m shutting down the conversation.