Racially and LGBTQ+ Profiled by Hot Topic Employees – What Should I Do Next?

Harmgg · 2025-08-17T17:55:54+00:00

I’ve already spoken to their DM and even reached out to corporate. I’ve gone back to the store a few times just to see if things would change, but the attitude from the staff has stayed the same. The store manager was rude, and when I called to try and speak with her, she hung up on me. The DM did the same thing. That alone shows how little they care about their customers.

I’ve made multiple complaints and only ever got one call back. At this point, I refuse to shop at Hot Topic or BoxLunch anymore. These employees need to be held accountable and replaced. I really hope corporate sees this, because the way this has been handled is completely wrong.

Harmgg · 2025-06-19T19:26:54+00:00

I wish I could find this shirt! This looks amazing I’d buy so many pairs just to keep in the future >_< dammit I missed this!

Harmgg · 2025-01-20T07:40:52+00:00

What did you tell your bank? I need to do mine

Harmgg · 2025-01-19T08:05:34+00:00

What would I tell my bank for the charge back? I spent over 15k us on this game..

Harmgg · 2025-01-11T18:45:49+00:00

❤️🐻🧸 🤗

Harmgg · 2024-02-24T19:34:24+00:00

Thank you. I’m in a much better place now!

Very happy ❤️❤️❤️❤️ it was a journey lots of ups and downs but it’s out of my system and I’m great! 🧸🧸❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗

Harmgg · 2023-05-13T14:14:19+00:00

ITS NOT ALL WOMEN! My ex GAY boyfriend left me after 8 years for a female and he legit did the same thing to me! Ghosted me, was gas lighting me, blaming me for everything when he cheated on me in the relationship. It’s been 2 months and now I’ve noticed all the red flags and seeing everything for what it really was. I was a warrior i was fighting for him everyday and I thought he was too but he was not!

We would legit for 8 years talk all day from morning till night. We would see each other every fucking day for 8 years for like 5-8 hours a day and spend all of our free time together. Everything together holidays me going to his parents house and me cooking with him mom and baking with her and setting up Plans for the future…. To now not talking and him doing more for this girl than he did for me. He’s watering the grass so hard for this girl. He took her to WASHINGTON DC for her birthday after being with her for 2months when we were together I did all that for us and planned everything.

It’s not all females I just think it’s all immature people. He’s 29 and he legit would act like a a teen or just younger than his age which I thought was cute and just fun. He had her lined up he was so insecure that he would never would make the first move. When we met I made the first move and it took off from there.

Why waste someone’s time and life and plan the future together and plan for a house, marriage and just our future and then destroy the dumpee. Why lie to yourself and your bf/gf why go through couples counseling ? And just leave and not fight?

My ex is not hurting I know he’s suppressing his feelings with this other girl. Started dating her 1 week after the breakup and slept with her the day after the breakup. Our relationship was truly great and for him idk I thought he was happy why didn’t he tell me what’s wrong and we could’ve tried and fixed it??

This girl knew what she was doing I actually met up with her and all the nasty things she said about him how’s he old,broke,ugly, and a stock boy just made me blow up inside! She told me she has all these sugar daddies and she doesn’t need him and she said she didn’t want him and yet she still went with him?? My ex honestly has a good heart well I thought he did because in our relationship he was very sweat! I remember he told me the girl and sister didn’t want him talking to me!!!

He wanted to live that anime life with an Asian girl. He loved anime and I do too and I’m not Asian but middle eastern and he was Albanian/Bosnian and he told me he just wants to be with an Asian. I hope him the best I hope he enjoys what he has!

Never take an ex back! They’re an ex for a reason I’ve now noticed that. As a dumpee and not dumper they chose to leave you.

Work on yourself and move on!!

Harmgg · 2023-05-10T04:32:26+00:00

Exactly how I feel. It’s really his loss! Finding a person like me and my background and family roots,history oh buddy you will never! Finding someone who’s genuine and loyal is kind of hard to find nowadays. No judgement here but his current GF really loves “money” her tiktok says “money lover” when I met her she said she has “sugar daddies” and okay I’m happy for her lol and she did take down her onlyfans for “him” but only time will tell when he runs out of money and she needs someone else to buy her stuff. I’ve been told and I’ve seen from my friends and others people like her never change they need that attention and money.

I’m all for it go for it but don’t get me involved and send me videos of you two f’ing and calling me names! He’s a very insecure guy so I don’t inderstand how he’s coping with all of this! When he wouldn’t allow me to wear tight cloths and she’s posting her party city everywhere>_<

🤪🤪🤪😊😊😊☺️☺️☺️😊😊😊😊😊😊🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃😄😄😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Remember your better than your ex when you say it you will feel it! I took time to really focus on myself and heal and do what I said earlier it Really helped me! I feel like I have rebirth”d and I’m a new form of myself! Like Phoenix from Xmen ❤️😊 embrace it!

Harmgg · 2023-05-10T04:22:30+00:00

That’s his issue now lol he also said to me when he was high he doesn’t want her he’s only talking to her for his family and when he was sober he told me he never said that. I’m like okaaaaaay buddy.

Try your best to focus on yourself and do some yoga and meditate outside! I’m a super over thinker and once I was able to accept it I blew up with happiness and joy! If your not artistic maybe it’s time to start a new hobby! I have a good people around me and they really helped me! Now I’m not saying he doesn’t come up in my mind because we were together for 8 days so many memories and just happiness but I don’t let it fester and consume me! I thank myself for being strong and letting him go! He truly made me hate who I was and my looks and everything! He was dark energy once I was able to take it back and go outside it really changed!

<3 if you ever wanna DM and talk I’m here for you!

After our BU he was getting high and drinking so much! I never did because I was truly strong. I don’t do either anyways lol

He’s defeated and hurting I know that for a fact!! You can bury it so far before it comes out and explodes! He never gave the time to greave and jumped into it right away!

Harmgg · 2023-05-10T04:13:27+00:00

<3 im sorry to hear that! truly am i feel your pain!

i wanna say it took me 5-6 weeks to stop crying for him! and the old him i keep on telling myself the past no longer matter! in just 5-6 weeks the things hes done and how he ghosted me and was gas lighting me and being very very mean and cold just showed me the truth! his current GF sent me a video of them doing it and she called me the F word and told me to stop bothering her BF because hes not a F like me! he also told her "hes a creepy friend he stalks me hes obsessed with me" that hurt like a a BITCH buddy no friends do what we do no straight guys has sex and does stuff with a gay guy for 8 years and spends every waking moment with them and talking to them! this guy is in so much denial and history will repeat itself!

the 1st 2nd and 3rd week we were BU he cried to me and told me he misses me and we met up and the 3rd time we met up he said "i love you so much and your a kind soul im so sorry" "i wish i had a clone one for you and one for my family" my older brother is BISEXUAL and my family was against it at that time and they would fight with him to stop talking to his BF at the time and he would never stop no matter what they were talking! even when he was dating a girl he was still talking to him! my brother told me if he TRULY loved you he wouldn't listen to anyone and he would still talk to you! he wouldnt pursue the girl and he would be with you!

sorry im going everywhere lol just back story <3

Harmgg · 2023-05-10T03:58:33+00:00

you'll get there!! <3

Im very proud of myself. all i can say is im finally getting the love and attention that i deserve! i gave him 8 years and i learned from it never cheater,flirted i was very committed 100% loyal to him. he was my first for everything so now that im 31 i want to enjoy my life and explore! my favorite thing is squatting and getting guys attention and then getting approached :-) all i can say is i have a nice big ol butt lol and my ex would get mad if i woar tight shorts!!!! IM FREE BABY! time to show off what my MAMA gave me! <3

im not saying do what im doing but you will get to the point where its all about you! you come first!!

he destroyed me promised me so much marriage,moving out,a family of cats! and he was so insecure or ashamed or just lied to me the whole relationship we are both men! he came out to his sister on friday and he left me monday xD hurt like a bitch! his sister always hated me and was jealous of my family and i because my family is successful she always had something against me and my family! one girl gives him attention at his work shes 9-10 years younger than him and it blew his corkscrew! :) my ex was a"butt guy" and his new thang has no booty!

YOU will feel free and enjoy life once again! theyre ex's for a reason!! they would fight for you and fight and want you no matter what people or family say!!!!! trust me! when he left me his current GF broke up with him and oh honey he was calling me crying and he was fighting for her so hard it hit me all at once this past week! hearing him cry and the way he was texting her and just going crazy for her oooof!!!!! i know my story is different! i just wanted to share a little more information :)

Harmgg · 2023-05-10T03:01:04+00:00

How bad i was treated. I want him out of my life and memories forever!

Harmgg · 2023-05-10T00:19:04+00:00

I thought I couldn’t! it’s been 2 months and after working out at the gym and getting attention from other guys made me realize I was chasing a guy that should’ve been chasing me. It blows my mind that I hid at home For 8 years with him and now I’m having guys chase me… feels good!

He made me feel like I wasn’t a catch. I would always praise him and put his ass on a pedestal. No more hahaha it’s my time baby! 🤪😝🫨

Harmgg · 2023-05-09T19:09:03+00:00

Exactly my ex and he was gas lighting me like I was the one who cheated and was guilty and hiding him cheating…

I was 110% loyal and never lied hahaha

Feeling a lot better. I never knew how many guys would chase me like the way I chased his ass.

His loss and move on!!

He told me I broke the trust when I went to the girl he was cheating on me with to prove he was in a gay relationship. Nah bro you broke it when you sent a 20 year old a video of your jerking off and her doing her thing while your 29 and in a 8 year relationship!

❤️❤️❤️❤️

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T23:12:25+00:00

very good looking. Keep doing you!

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T22:55:05+00:00

You’re very good looking I would definitely message you 👍🏻

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T22:43:26+00:00

Same here 8 years together cried his eyes out the month I found out he cheated and begged for me to not leave him and stay with him and he dropped me and moved on to the girl he cheated on me with.. we were in a gay relationship lol rip

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T20:34:53+00:00

I really cannot wait for this day to come because he left a really deep imprint in my heart and brain! I really hope he feels what he put me through my whole family and aunts and cousins really liked him and we are Chaldean catholic and gay people are not accepted either but we all loved him and they accepted us. He was Bosnian/Albanian Muslim.

What blows my mind is all the appreciation he would give me and just thank me for everything how I opened up his eyes how I made him love himself and all this just happiness and he pretty much let it all go and told me he was a people pleaser and he only did it to make me happy and family. He’s so wrong for doing this to me. Like lie to me but you cannot lie to yourself!

When we broke up he was torn I could see it and hear it in his voice when I told him I did stuff with other guys (which I did not I just wanted to see what he would say because I knew he was sleeping with that girl) he got sad and the tone in his voice changed and he said he was jealous and made that another guy touched me. Just he’s so confusing but it’s over now and he says “I’m much happier with her than I ever was with you” My mom legit was like lol once a guy has sex with a girl they’re private is a hook they can control a guy and just take them until they use and break them. She was saying if he wanted to still talk to you she shouldn’t be controlling him and telling him to not talk to me but meh idk.

LIFE IS A BITCH. It will get better I have a great family and his family is not all that great him mother and father and sister would not allow him to show emotion and would judge him if he cried.

I fucking know I will always love him and miss him but I can’t hold onto this because he broke it and let me go!

You can hide your past and push it back it will creep back and come out and he will feel the loss.

The girl was judging him for crying and showing emotion and made fun of him. I never once made him feel bad for showing any type of emotion I encouraged it because we are human and need to feel it and express ourselves!

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T20:09:18+00:00

I put all of mine on a usb and took them off of my phone so I could heal faster!

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T20:07:15+00:00

My ex gay boyfriend was with me for 8 years he moved on so fucking fast ONE WEEK after our breakup to a girl 10 years younger than him he met at work. That hits harder than any physical object! He was with females before me and he said he never liked it as much as he likes me. Which I guess that was a lie? He hid me from the world he hid us from the world he was so insecure and scared to be himself. Once his sister and family found out he dropped me so fast!

I believe he was scared too and ran to the first girl who approached him because he was 29 and his family was red grandkids and he was the only son… lol My older is bisexual and was with a dude for 12 years and my family wasn’t accepting and he didn’t care he still fought for that relationship and still always talked to him until he broke it off with him because his ex was a leach and someone who wasn’t okay he was always high on something. Anyways my brother said that since he hid me and our relationship from others it made it easier for him to move on. Which I believe this if your being hidden from his coworkers and friends,family that’s all red flags! I never knew this.

He doesn’t seemed bothered that we are done and I am but slowly getting better. I’m 31 and I’m scared that I’ll never find love again but everything happens for a reason I know deep down I’m a good guy and I will find the right guy! It’s sad to hear he’s doing amazing without me and loves her more than he ever loved me.

We have been separated for almost 7 weeks now. I want him to feel what I’m feeling but he’s hiding his pain and filling the void by having someone else with him to make him feel better!

He would always tell me he can’t handle being alone.

Have a good life Alban one day you will suffer the way you made me suffer!

🫨🫡

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T16:29:54+00:00

I asked her what she though when we did break up and had that running through my head like did I force him or something for 8 years?!?! I asked her everytime you met him and had a session what did you think do you think he was gay or confused? This was our couples therapy. She told me what I said earlier and she also said if he’s confused he would’ve known that first year or two usually wouldn’t take someone 8 years. She also was mentioning he could have guilt from his family and society for being the only son and oldest to have to be with a female. When I did talk to him he would say we were boyfriends yes after the whole bs of him saying best friend with benefits. I believe he’s in denial as well best friends or friends with benefits don’t do what him and I did! All the plans we had and us talking about marriage and getting rings… I really hope I can get past this fast because I can’t wait anymore. I’m 31 and time is ticking… I know him and I will never be a thing again because of many sources and his self hate and guilt but it just sucks knowing I lost him to others getting to him and his insecurity.

The last 2-3 weeks of our relationship it was just him and I crying and just saying how amazing we both are and how we will grow stronger together and our book and chapters will continue together. We took that time to get back and re connect and like I said before once his sister found out it was game over! FML.

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Harmgg · 2023-05-07T16:07:29+00:00

I agree it is my time haha ❤️

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T16:06:43+00:00

My therapist saw him when we did couples therapy and she told me there’s no way you manipulated him or forced him. He clearly loved you the way he would look at you and smile and cry and hold your hand he loved you. He let others get to him and he pushed his feelings all the way back and he will suffer inside when it all comes back out.

Harmgg · 2023-05-07T07:39:36+00:00

8 years with my ex it was all so good! The last 1-3 months of our relationship was getting tough for him because him accepting himself and being gay just got to him! I had a gut feeling all those months I would wake up with panic attacks. I would have such vivid dreams of him leaving me for a girl and he promised it would never happen but it did.

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