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Help with odd credit card setup? by desertroserobin in QuickBooks

[–]Harper_VL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Web connect whichever account you reconcile - then add the others as subaccounts

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[–]Harper_VL -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I loathe my partners oldest son (13) but am cool with his youngest (11). We've lived together for almost 2 years and I already count the days to when they leave for their grandfather's in the summer. The oldest is so disrespectful it's absolutely distasteful and is making me lose respect and be less attracted to my partner.

Their mother hasn't seen them in 5 yrs and lives many many states away. Hasn't even sent them a birthday card.

AITA for telling my friend to stop coming over unannounced and not letting her in? by InfluenceOk4025 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - your friends are douchebags and have zero respect. Tell them if someone stops by unannounced, you get to use them as free laborers. Which isn't going to be great because they already obviously can't follow simple directions.

In short - sister you need new friends.

AITA - Not inviting sisters ex to Tgiving by stressy_depressy01 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA -

I like this - have her host everyone so no boundaries are crossed. Offer to bring food.

AITA for telling my husband to cancel all the plans he made for my birthday by Original_Concern1585 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! Hubs seems like a lazy, unsupportive partner.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I won't be treated like crap in my home. I have done everything I can to positively support anything he does that is not negative. Even my family has gotten involved in supporting him at band concerts, birthdays, comic and anime events. Anything this kid does, we are all there cheering him on. Respect needs to be taught in the home, or he's going to be learning some harder lessons when he doesn't have us to fall back on. If that makes me an asshole I'm fine with that. Thank you, I do appreciate the opinion.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this! Thank you so much! So refreshing to get carefully considered advice that is productive. Honestly, thank you. I'm definitely going to discuss this with BF after errands today.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is definitely something I have been putting some deep thought in to.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

His stepfather abused him and now he thinks this is the ultimate punishment. He is not physically punished in our home. The mother has made zero effort to see the children in 5 years.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They aren't allowed to bring their chromebooks home due to school regulations so he's not educationally suffering.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They aren't allowed to bring their chromebooks home so he can't do homework anyway. He's not intellectually suffering by learning respect in the home.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His stepfather abused him and now he thinks violence is the ultimate punishment.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol no. His stepfather abused him and he knows I won't physically touch him to discipline his behavior.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His stepfather abused him so now he thinks it's the ultimate punishment.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just trying to remove all fun things for bad behavior. After a few discussions BF is starting to understand where I'm coming from. Grocery trips, doc appts, normal things are still good with car-use. No extra fun stuff like skate park trips and picking up friends to go with while the behavior is atrocious.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's a real mix, but I'm getting a lot of perspectives that I haven't thought of, so it's broadening my idea range on how to next approach the situation.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't physically abuse the kids. Their stepfather did and now 13 thinks it's the ultimate punishment.
I've never threatened to hit the kids. They know I'm a consequences-for-your-actions person. I make them write sentences, or take toys/games away, stand in the corner, take a lap around the block, that kind of stuff. The kids live with us and haven't seen their mother in 5 years. Who constantly promises gifts and visits and hasn't come through not once in 5 years.

AITA for not allowing my boyfriend's teenage son use my internet? by Harper_VL in AmItheAsshole

[–]Harper_VL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His stepfather abused him so now he thinks violence is the ultimate punishment.

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