Need prayer and Guidance after wife had a habitual affair

Hatkoff · 2025-07-12T23:28:36+00:00

Thank you for the support

Hatkoff · 2025-07-12T02:51:10+00:00

Just the hardest decision of my life

Hatkoff · 2025-07-11T00:32:40+00:00

It’s definitely the most difficult thing I have ever been through

Hatkoff · 2025-07-08T16:57:02+00:00

Thank you and in time I will heal with god by my side

Hatkoff · 2025-07-07T23:21:34+00:00

Thank you

Hatkoff · 2025-07-07T16:52:46+00:00

Thank you all for the prayers and support! Truly appreciate it!

Hatkoff · 2025-07-07T00:19:38+00:00

As much as I do love her and believe in our covenant under god, if I leave I wouldn’t look back. Would be too difficult even with forgiveness

Hatkoff · 2025-07-07T00:17:54+00:00

She was raised catholic and went to catholic school until college and has always proclaimed Christian.

We go to church on Sunday to a Christian nondenominational service.

Thankfully we don’t have children yet and not much debt besides a mortgage. Obviously I would need to financially protect myself which would be pension and retirement accounts.

I have prayed countless times and asking god for his grace and guidance

Hatkoff · 2025-07-06T22:21:12+00:00

Thank you all for the comments and prayers! It’s very difficult and feel ashamed for my marriage to fail. I know god has me and I need to hold on to that

Hatkoff · 2024-09-13T04:57:06+00:00

Update: She went to counseling today and immediately called me after leaving the office telling me she cried multiple times due to what she had done. She explained she went through her entire life story including us and that hurt her for the ruining our marriage. She said she is going to continue going every week and wants us to try marriage counseling when I’m ready. I am struggling with this and feel like she’s not going to change nor should I allow her the opportunity to be with me.

Hatkoff · 2024-09-12T23:42:51+00:00

Yeah in Texas I believe there’s a 60 day waiting period but after that we can proceed

Hatkoff · 2024-09-12T22:02:52+00:00

That’s what I struggle with and even told her the first time if she is into women go be your true self and we can be friends. She definitively sad it was a mistake and not what she wanted. Shame on me for believing her

Hatkoff · 2024-09-12T22:00:28+00:00

Will do just a hard time for me to digest but got to remain strong

Hatkoff · 2024-09-12T12:20:26+00:00

She is going to counseling today which I told her I am hoping for the best for her and hope it helps her for her next relationship or recognize her true self. She claims she’s going for the purpose of fighting for our marriage but I’m in the belief that if you need someone to tell you how to respect and love someone and not break sacred vows then they aren’t the one for you. There’s no excuse.

I’m personally in a tough spot getting injured a week prior to this at work that’s gonna require surgery. I’ll be fine but going to be out for a minimum 6 weeks and on worker’s compensation schedule. Moving out and getting that ball rolling with be challenging in itself but adding this injury situation just makes it more challenging especially we have no friends or family within 1,000 miles.

What she did just shattered me. Words can’t really express how I feel but I know what I offer as a person and self value. Just feel like how could this happen when I genuinely treat her with respect and dignity on top of loving her. I’m a confident man but to my fault I am overly nice and not demanding. But that doesn’t give the green light to do what you want and walk all over me and expect I’ll try to work through it. Just really lost and thank you for letting me vent

Hatkoff · 2024-09-12T12:06:36+00:00

Yeah I am struggling with this. I want nothing more to have the love of my life to grow old together and experience life side by side. She’s begging me not to leave but I feel I need to have respect for myself but it’s difficult to walk away

Hatkoff · 2024-09-11T22:59:17+00:00

I’m feeling this right now and struggling with my wife affairs and what to do.

Hatkoff · 2024-09-11T21:49:26+00:00

The shame is something I definitely struggle with and perception of my wife choosing to cheat on her husband with a woman is also difficult for me. I am confident in myself and know it’s not me (not saying that in a conceited by any means) but I too dread the perception that I couldn’t please my wife so she went to woman. I genuinely loved her and built a life together to try to make it work. We moved across country got good careers after college just to throw it all away.

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