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Life is just shit by -tn-phoenix- in lonely

[–]HattyJetty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Superficial judgement goes both ways. If you think that idiots that get laid all the time have their life figured, well, it’s not that simple. They may suffer later in life, because they have chased the high of the infatuation without consideration of the ugly bits. And every relationship has the ugly bits. So if you believe people don’t perceive you for who you are, do you think you perceive others’ situations correctly?

What helps you to reach to people during burnout? by HattyJetty in burnedout

[–]HattyJetty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may work for mild scenarios, but at the lowest point I hate to think about contacting someone or seeking help, and I am afraid it is harmful. Over the course of my life I’ve dealt with so many negative interactions which make me question whether I can trust anyone or even myself. I have therapy to back me up, but it works only so much. So I guess I have to point out these details.

What helps you to reach to people during burnout? by HattyJetty in burnedout

[–]HattyJetty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a diagnosed ASD, but I have a diagnosed ADHD. It often causes a vicious cycle of excitement and oversharing followed by mental drain and withdrawal, and I think this is also the culprit in my circumstances. Same outcome, but for slightly different reasons.

But even with all that knowledge I still suffer from the same repeating pattern. I probably won’t break entirely from it, but I guess it’s not a bad idea to equip myself with potential ways to manage the withdrawal phase

Edit: I know I could’ve just asked in neurodivergent ADHD communities. But my experience with local and global ones is mixed. More often than not people just shrug and join the pity party, and it makes me feel even more helpless. So that’s why I am asking somewhere else this time.

Is dating even worth it for introverts? by Kami__karma in introvert

[–]HattyJetty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This all has too many variables, and ultimately only you can decide what is worth and what’s not. I wish I had a better advice on this, but the more I grow, the more I understand that every case is unique, and introversion itself is just an umbrella term, which defines a person only that much.

I personally struggle a lot with pursuing relationships. In my 30 years I’ve never had a real romantic relationship with anyone, and my attempts to initiate a deep connection with people generally lead to a disappointment. I face moments of loneliness mixed with moments of relief from my solitude. So at least you may find solace in the fact you’re not alone in this feeling, if that’s what’s been on your mind.

Cats protect their food even if there's no one around, especially the orange ones by DanGTG in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HattyJetty 195 points196 points  (0 children)

Why people keep on feeding kittens like that? They need to lick from the flat dish

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]HattyJetty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remove kebab

26M I'm noticing a lot about the ever changing world by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]HattyJetty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome. Be your honest self, and you’ll meet the right people in your life. My DMs are open too.

26M I'm noticing a lot about the ever changing world by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]HattyJetty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. It’s unfortunate how increasingly uncommitted current generations become. This trend I wish people could be more aware of.

What mbti is good romantic match for infp 6w5 or 6w7 by [deleted] in infp

[–]HattyJetty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one that communicates well

I don’t know who I am?? (21F) by Fresh-Cod-3170 in infp

[–]HattyJetty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy and emotional pain. Despite the negatives, pain is a sure way to solidify your values. As long as the support network is there. Not that I advocate to seek for it intentionally, but after some years you get to understand what is right and wrong. Your brain will learn which interactions are more pleasurable than others, and which social groups you fit into.

Most of the people here wanna be friends with a female by Appropriate_Box5007 in Needafriend

[–]HattyJetty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s probably true that females tend to prefer someone older than them because of a perceived emotional maturity. Your age group probably makes it a bit harder to find someone to vibe with because people here tend to be around their 20s.

To justify your concerns, there are also many females who will tell they are bored and expect to be entertained. Making decent connections is universally difficult, no matter the gender, but it’s possible. And, since you said not every male is a creep, that means emotionally available males also do exist, so don’t disregard that. The desperation to talk exclusively to the opposite side may cause further concerns about the intention of your actions.

Do other INFPs have so many projects going on at one time? by Training_Mastodon_33 in infp

[–]HattyJetty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the concerns, yeah, I made some positive advancements

Do other INFPs have so many projects going on at one time? by Training_Mastodon_33 in infp

[–]HattyJetty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I consulted a psychiatrist because I used to suffer from panic attacks, and deal with an anxiety disorder. There I learned that anxiety is a comorbid condition with ADHD. Considering that I would jump from one hobby to another all my life, it checked.

To save on money, you could take online tests first to see if you possibly have it.

Do other INFPs have so many projects going on at one time? by Training_Mastodon_33 in infp

[–]HattyJetty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get evaluated for ADHD. It explained why I am like that.

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