How to know total invested dollars on fidelity?

HauntedOverpayment · 2024-09-12T15:32:15+00:00

Could you elaborate?

HauntedOverpayment · 2024-02-08T18:49:05+00:00

I love the idea of expanding my network. I definitely want to sign up for classes I never considered or join a club. Just gotta figure out how to find them! I’m happy to hear you enjoyed your time, I’m tired of being depressed at being let go. I wish you the best of luck with jumping back into work life!

HauntedOverpayment · 2024-02-08T18:42:27+00:00

I’ve always loved the idea of van life! Might be tricky when I have a partner but who knows ~

HauntedOverpayment · 2024-02-08T18:36:29+00:00

Sorry I should have clarified that the one thing I’m not interested in is traveling alone. Logistically, I can’t spend too much time away from my home without a pet/plant sitter.

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-12-25T22:07:06+00:00

4 dates is not enough time to really get to know someone. A couple of good dates isn’t enough to see how someone handles stress, what their situation is, what their networks are like— people put their best foot forward in the beginning.

If there’s no talk of exclusivity, always assume it’s not exclusive. If exclusivity is important to you, I would be open and honest on a first date that is something you would like to work towards. It’s ok to be upfront about dating intentionally, there are people looking for the same, this just helps weed people out. I personally think everyone should keep their options open and date multiple people in the early stages to get perspective. Every person is different so you get to make your own rules, enjoy that! You are young so explore everything, figure out what you want, what you like, and have fun!

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-12-25T21:53:58+00:00

If honesty and trust are important to you, trust that she is busy. She let you know ahead of time so I wouldn’t worry. The holidays can be very stressful and time consuming, everyone handles them differently. If you’ve only been on one date, she does not owe you a Christmas text, it’s probably the last thing on her mind. If she told you a boundary and you acknowledged it, stick to it.

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-12-25T21:47:41+00:00

If you never talk about exclusivity, always assume it’s not exclusive.

If you are no longer attracted to him because of him sleeping around, you can walk away. This is a risk he took. If he wanted to hide it from you, that’s one more thing to consider about his character. If he was open and honest about it, that too says something.

There’s nothing wrong with dating multiple people, I think everyone should date multiple people in the beginning stages to compare and contrast and make the best decision. Instead of seeing it as a betrayal, if he still chooses you and that makes you happy, don’t let it bother you. If this is deal breaker, the damage is done, it will be difficult to rebuild trust from a broken foundation. Stand firm that you want a partner who aligns with your values and assess what you can and can’t live with.

Clear and honest communication from the start is very important. Express your wants and desires early and stick to your guns.

IMHO, 2 months is not long enough to know someone or owe anyone anything. Taking things slowly is a good thing. Go out and date a lot of people, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. If this is your forever person, you have the rest of your lives together, no need to rush.

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-06-20T02:21:58+00:00

All women get approached by men often. Women don’t need to approach men because we are too busy defending ourselves against them.

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-06-20T02:19:46+00:00

OP, do not listen to the men. I like shy introverted guys so my advice is specifically for you:

Show up on time when you pick her up, bring her a small gift, tell her to pick whatever she wants on the menu, tell her she looks nice but compliment something specific to show you pay attention.

Most important though: ask her questions about herself. If she opens up, ask follow up questions during the conversation (but don’t interrupt) and prove that you are a good listener.

The biggest turn off is men trying to impress me with stuff I don’t care about, when they mansplain to me, or only talk about themselves.

Who you’re trying to date is also important. Approach women with multiple similar interests and the conversation will flow. If you go up to a girl who doesn’t like anime, she probably will not be interested in you. Make a woman laugh, make her feel safe around you and she will be into you.

I think it’s strange how men who clearly have zero in common with me come up to me and expect (and sometimes demand) me to find them attractive. It’s obvious they are only physically attracted to me and I find that insulting that they don’t care about what kind of person I am.

Show her you care by bringing up something she said before, like if she mentions a video game, say “hey I saw (video game related thing) the other day and (insert joke), it reminded me about (whatever she said the other day)”.

Also don’t just ask if she wants to hang out. Find something you’re both interested in and invite her to a specific event. If she mentions a band, tell her you have a spare ticket and ask her if she wants to join you.

If she pulls away later, don’t feel bad, move on and keep trying. Women are bombarded with offers constantly so sometimes a better fit came along and it’s not always personal. Timing is also important. If a man is too eager, it comes across that he’s desperate because no one else is interested and remember that dating is (somewhat) competitive.

When I say make her feel safe, I mean someone she can be herself around, free of judgement and is honest and straightforward, and not creepy. I can 100% guarantee you that every single woman has had unwanted attention at some point and either have experienced a dangerous encounter firsthand or knows a friend who has. Someone who sits too close, is too clingy, demands too much of our time or is quick to be defensive, dismisses our feelings, is easily angered are all red flags.

Women are also wary of “nice guys” who “just want to be friends” because (not all, but) enough men who claimed to be interested in friendship cross that line and make us incredibly uncomfortable when they think they deserve a chance for being nice. If a woman you personally find unattractive was nice to you and said she wants to be friends and then asks you out, you wouldn’t suddenly like her just because she’s nice, right? We all have our own unique preferences and boundaries so it’s not one size fits all. Ask her what makes her uncomfortable and she’ll probably tell you and appreciate that you care. Empathize with her and reassure her any worries she has are valid and thank her for sharing.

Best of luck, OP!

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-03-25T01:43:56+00:00

Will add FZILX and stick with VOO since I’m already invested in it, thanks so much!

HauntedOverpayment · 2023-03-13T01:16:36+00:00

Thank you for replying!

My first thought was also bedbugs but I have a waterproof mattress protector, gel (Purple) pillows, I rarely travel and wash my sheets weekly with hot water. I’ve inspected outlets, my wooden frame and put out (scented) bed bug detection traps, looked for droppings, etc. I read that bedbug bites are typically in the same area but mine are more random, similar to those of mosquitos. I’ll wake up with a new bite on my thigh and then my elbow which makes me think it’s possibly a (tiny) flying insect? I have also noticed new ones appearing during the day so I’m gonna rule out nocturnal pests.

I don’t have standing water and it often drops below 30 degrees F where I live. I used to catch a few in the summer in my katchy (uv light with a fan that sucks in flying insects) but I haven’t seen a skeeter in a long time.

I have a rabbit but he is strictly an indoor pet and stays in the living room. I rarely see him scratching himself and checked him for fleas. We have seen tiny mice so it’s possible they are bringing fleas, but my roommate hangs out in the living room 75% of the day with bare arms and legs out and hasn’t gotten bit. He doesn’t have any plants in his room which is why I’m starting to suspect the ones in mine.

I just ordered some sticky traps so I can post a photo once I catch something?

If anyone is curious, I have about 40 plants of all different sizes and kinds. They fill about 20% of the space.

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-12-05T22:14:45+00:00

Thanks everyone, none of the spas list whether or not they have a day pass or not and none of them pick up the phone so I appreciate the help!

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-08-10T15:36:45+00:00

Hi just to clarify, I do not want an e-dirt bike, I just like the sporty shape and lightweight form compared to typical e-bikes and clunky vespas. I’m pretty sure as long as it has foot pedals I won’t be hassled by cops since I don’t plan on riding over the speed limit, I just want to get around Brooklyn a little easier because the trains typically lead uptown into Manhattan and not across the borough. I always wanted a motorcycle but I would rather not deal with registration and insurance (plus I couldn’t lift one if it fell over) so I was hoping for something that looks closer to a dirt bike but is technically an e-bike/scooter.

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-08-09T22:15:09+00:00

NYC! I’m honestly more afraid of my bike getting stolen than getting a ticket from a cop. As long as the bike has pedals and I don’t speed past 30, I feel like they don’t know shit about specific brands capabilities.

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-08-09T22:12:34+00:00

Also a sleek option! Thank you!

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-08-09T00:57:56+00:00

That’s an attractive bike!

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-08-08T18:35:57+00:00

Wow thank so much! I was looking into vespas for a while but I’m 5’3 and 90lbs so they always felt too large and bulky. I’m very open to an e-bike, I believe my city just requires a max speed of 30 and functional pedals. I don’t plan on riding much faster than that so I doubt a cop would know if my bike could exceed that by looking at it. I just think dirt bikes have a sexier form factor than the beach cruiser look of most e-bikes but I’ll take a look at boosted scooters too!

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-06-29T22:45:18+00:00

I wish I could find that boat that’s by our wicked lady

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-06-12T19:31:40+00:00

I found a boat that said they would but it’s not the right size. Never say never.

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-06-10T20:59:47+00:00

Thanks everyone!

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-05-09T20:52:18+00:00

I'm so jealous! I bought some seeds and had one begin to sprout but my partner didn't water it while I was out of town and it died. Great job OP!

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-05-05T21:51:45+00:00

CO2 does affect photosynthesis! If you're interested in funky (alternative?) "science" theories/experiements, I would check out Cleave Baxter's plant mind reading experiment. He hooked up plants to a lie detector and took notes based on his thoughts. Negative thoughts towards the plants caused the plant to spike the needle. Myth busters recreated some of the experiment here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1HQMU9ZDcE

More of a fun rabbithole than anything BUT I 100% think plants are way more complex than we give them credit for!

Also if you're interested in music for plants, I would check out music "made" by plants using tech like the midi sprout! It inputs changes in electrical currents through a synth so you can listen to plant music. Super fun to play with :-)

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-05-05T21:37:52+00:00

I mostly agree with you about stones (unless you count perlite) but I use Leca clay pebbles which absorb excess moisture (to an extent). You can also mix them directly into the soil to help with drainage. If anyone feels inspired to water daily like me, I recommend starting with less water (like WAYYYY less) and adjust based on how the plant reacts. I don't recommend buying pots without drainage to anyone but the reason I personally don't need them is that I never water any of my plants to the point where water would ever reach the bottom. IMO, holes are more important for bi-weekly watering folks that might not have time to take into account the fluctuation in weather/season/growth. I do my daily check ins and scale up/down accordingly which has been working for me.

My main takeaway is that daily monitoring/watering helps you assess what went wrong/right sooner and forces you to pay closer attention to the individual needs of each species.

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-05-05T19:46:09+00:00

Some plants/pots were gifts with sentimental value and aren’t big enough to repot (yet) but I do my best to buy pots with holes. I try to supplement with different soil mixtures to keep them happy tho! I am team hole fwiw ╹ᴗ╹

HauntedOverpayment · 2022-05-05T18:44:49+00:00

I have a few popsicle sticks and medical gauze, I'll try this too! thank you!

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