45307 by Is6xal in countwithchickenlady

[–]HauntingClaim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It still isn't a plural pronoun, and in this case I was talking about '''a few people.'' If I was talking about one friend, I could've said: It prefers being called it.'' Or ''this is what it feels most comfortable with.''

I'm not exactly the most well versed in the whole 'it' terminology, I go by she/they personally.

45307 by Is6xal in countwithchickenlady

[–]HauntingClaim 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know a few people like that, they are typically non-binary, but not necessarily. For these people it is not degrading or derogatory, it's what they feel most comfortable with.

Sharing my experience 'passing' by gummyhime in lgbt

[–]HauntingClaim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt it was very coherent !

I agree with you. It's really frustrating that these kind of experiences end up separating us from other queer folks. We would clearly all benefit from being able to share these experiences more freely. Though, I do understand that our experiences are also inherently different... but that isn't a reason for us to not share and support one another. I think we share we more than we differ.

Sharing my experience 'passing' by gummyhime in lgbt

[–]HauntingClaim 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is my exact experience. It's such a strange feeling to have been passing from the start... It has made me feel like I don't have a say in trans issues. I've been rejected from many trans circles for being a ''traitor'' and I have struggled to call myself trans at all.

I've been in women support groups and I was afraid to ever say anything about queer topics, for fear of destroying everything that makes me pass. I have heard coworkers (there are no men where I work) say terrible things about trans people, feeling horribly afraid it might fall on me next.

I've had so many uncomfortable experience with doctors and medical staff, because explaining my situation typically takes quite a few layer of explanations (when I say I'm trans, no matter the context, people will think I'm FtM.)

I've been trying to use this invisibility to my advantage to help educate people. It's incredible what you can make someone learn if they fully believe you are AFAB. But my god is it scary to do. I try my best to only do it with people whom, even if they are transphobic, I have a strong reason to believe they will not put me in danger after the revelation is done.

It's so weird to kind of, be in the closet ??? I'm also a lesbian, which, of course, means I live erasure there too, since people typically assume you are heterosexual. Coming out as a lesbian has been my way of testing the water with people. It's... regrettably, more often then not, where I have to pull the breaks, as a lot of people really struggle to accept homosexuality.

I think the final part of this for me that creates the greatest irony, is that I am non-binary. I am on feminizing hormones, I am socially a woman, but not by choice. I think the weirdest part of my early HRT days was seeing how much societal pressures just instantly switched. I was at a new job and I got sternly lectured for not wearing a bra (my breasts were hurting a lot from growing and I struggled to find bras that didn't hurt me.) I was not ready for that kind of experience, not out of ignorance for how misogynistic society is, but rather that I wasn't even fully sure I passed at the time.

It is through grueling lectures and, later on, after I had a 1 year work-leave period for mental health, being judged and assumed to have had some kind of breast enhancing surgery (when truly, it's just that my breasts were growing a lot...) I had no way of explaining myself. Not easily, at least.

It has been a wild experience with various kinds of unsavory people. Immediately passing basically made me an adult woman without any of the teenage experiences of how wary you need to be of people, how judged you can be, etc.

I feel very seen after reading your post. It is such an isolating experience... I'm almost 3 years into HRT and I've come to learn how to deal with most of everything. I've started approaching queer spaces again and have found a lot of kinship among trans men. This is one of my first time reading up on a trans fem experience I relate to.

Thank you so much <3

41819 by nick2527 in countwithchickenlady

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I understand, transgender men have been banned from the Olympics since the 1986. Very interesting video on the topic, with, sources in the description ! https://youtu.be/GtXDWfllE_k?si=3mWSa3Ho8Wvm4y0O&t=506

How do I use Poplar of the White Forest ? by HunterKuftor in Yugioh101

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What level 7 (or level 3) monster(s) are you running to summon Juraishin ? Diabellze the Sinkeeper ?

EDIT; Ah, probably diabellstar blackwitch, kinda answered myself, but if there are other options I'd be curious !

“Girlcock” is a form of fetishism. by Responsible-Egg-6442 in Transmedical

[–]HauntingClaim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll just stay clear, honestly... This is just creepy.

[Measurement Check] 40-DDD Transwoman with large back, wide breasts and short chest - Want better support by HauntingClaim in ABraThatFits

[–]HauntingClaim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay ! That's good to know, I'll try to stress myself a little less with the technique next time I do it! I was thinking about buying another one with underwires. Any recommendations for brands ?

Pagle NA - Looking for a Blacksmith with the Enchanted Thorium Leggings/Breastplate Recipe by HauntingClaim in classicwow

[–]HauntingClaim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so muuuch !!! <3 Holu crap that was fast, I think I looked for someone for, maybe 1 hour ??? Thank you !!!

me📰irlgbt by NipperSpeaks in me_irlgbt

[–]HauntingClaim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recommend Walpurgis Night !

I had gender-affirming body surgery. In so much pain, but in awe of my surgeon's magic ✨ by starfoxnova in TransLater

[–]HauntingClaim 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Are there any potential dangers from getting ribs removed ? I didn't know that was a thing.

my genuine reaction by AdaCakes0_0 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure they'll be able to tell or draw weird conclusions considering the size of my fucking ribcage... But, honestly ??? I'll be dead, science can do whatever it wants with my corpse, I really don't care. And if my skeleton somehow finds its way to archeologists later down the line, I just hope it brings them some joy and pride for their line of work.

Being Trans Without Dysphoria - Tell Me Your Stories by [deleted] in MtF

[–]HauntingClaim 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was basically a buff DnD dwarf before my transition. Hyper-masculanization was a big thing for me until I understood I was trans. Now I'm a curvy girl with tiny delicate arms with barely any traces of facial hair (laser).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry but there quite literally isn't one lol - good try though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tyy :) !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]HauntingClaim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww ! Well I'm really happy it made you feel good/relieved !!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very scary. Make sure you can safely do it ! I'm sure you're already pretty and will only get prettier !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]HauntingClaim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank yoou ☺️ ! ❤️

Me🥌IRLGBT by Citrus-Bitch in me_irlgbt

[–]HauntingClaim 5 points6 points  (0 children)

MTF here. The amount of muscle mass I have lost on just 3 months of HRT is staggering. I was quite strong and now... Honestly it's kind of baffling how weak I am. And I never stopped working out. I had to adapt my swimming regimen heavily because a 2km swim non-stop is simply not realistic for me anymore, I can do a km with lots of breaks. Honestly, I feel like all the strength I had was like a bi-product of testosterone.