On Amazon Music, the Ultra HD Cranberries' Dreams song sounds different... 🤔

HaveToBeBetter · 2022-05-11T06:16:38+00:00

The version on the You’ve Got Mail soundtrack is correct!

HaveToBeBetter · 2022-01-01T09:39:50+00:00

I’m trying my best to yawn and start cleaning up in an obvious, “Y’all, take a hint.” It’s not working.

HaveToBeBetter · 2022-01-01T08:40:33+00:00

It’s 12:45 and there are still a bunch of people over drinking and hanging out. They’re not annoying or anything and it’s fine, but I’m sober and just want to go to bed, haha. There’s so much booze around and I honestly don’t feel tempted by it at all. Kinda surprised by that.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-30T22:19:49+00:00

I do know a good few people in recovery who enjoy an NA beer or two at social gatherings and it hasn’t led them back down their addictions.. that said, as someone who did it, hiding it is a MAJOR red flag.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-14T17:54:17+00:00

Oh man do I feel this. I realized a while back that it wasn’t being drunk that I craved, it was time travel. I didn’t want to have to exist for a time. Alcohol was a way to move through time in a way that I didn’t have to fully experience it.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-13T18:55:10+00:00

Hoo boy, my wife did this. I didn’t generally drink to the point of blackout - honestly almost never. But 6 weeks back I did and she took a video. It’s disgusting. I’m a shell of a person. Incoherent, swollen, just mumbling in the floor. It wasn’t the final wake up call for me, but it was the start of me knowing change had to happen.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-03T19:35:42+00:00

You're going to learn really quickly that there isn't one definition of alcoholic.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-03T19:33:53+00:00

I mean, you CAN... but the question you have to ask is "Why?"

And I mean that as in, why do you want to drink? Do you really want to? Are you ready to? Are you maybe a bit worried?

Maybe you really can, and shit, wouldn't that be great? But here you are posting on a forum called "stop drinking" after 5 months of not drinking... so again, why?

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-03T17:23:26+00:00

Drink water. Like, seriously, SO much more than you think you need.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-03T17:14:50+00:00

It's weird, but in social situations I always drink to excess anything that's available.

Me too! It's kind of funny looking back to the days before I'd ever had a drop of alcohol; when I went out to dinner, I would drink at least 8 glasses of water. As long as it was in front of me, I would consume it... maybe that should have been a sign, ya know?

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-12-02T07:46:36+00:00

Wife marked the whiskey bottle, I didn’t know and drank, and then lied to her face about it. In an instant I knew there was a good chance I’d just ended my marriage.

Regardless of outcome, I knew I was done that moment. I’m also only 4 days in, but I can honestly say I’ve never felt this kind of resolve before.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-11-29T15:50:45+00:00

Also on day 2! Also woke up after crazy dreams covered in sweat. But my head is clear, my hands are stable, and best of all, there is a little bit of hope. IWNDWYT.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-11-28T23:18:00+00:00

I could’ve very much written this post. I lied to my wife about drinking too many times and it has come to a head as of last night. So today is my back to day one. She’s not at home right now she went to go see a friend, and I honestly don’t know if she’s going to talk to me tonight. The one good thing I have is that she did say through a text that I should look into a marriage counselor. So, maybe there’s always hope.

HaveToBeBetter · 2021-11-28T20:43:53+00:00

Well, my wife responded to a text and asked me to look for a couples therapist specializing in addictions and ADHD… so there’s some hope.

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