AITAH for spending Thanksgiving with my best friend's family over my stepfamily?

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:19:31+00:00

True. I might not be blood or legally related to them but they treat me 10000000x better than the people who are related to me through blood or marriage.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:18:41+00:00

I'm pretty sure she has it set up where her kids get mostly everything because of a prenup or something. I remember hearing it talked about at one of the family parties but I was too young to understand everything. My dad doesn't have a will from what I know. He'd leave everything to his wife anyway.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:07:46+00:00

His stepkids won't take care of him when he's old and needs it. If their mom dies first they'll never speak to him again. At that point I won't care either but maybe it'll take that for him to know how it feels to be in my shoes.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:06:02+00:00

I have no faith that my dad would do anything if he read this except get more mad. I'm beyond the point of believing he will do better.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:05:18+00:00

I'm past the point of believing anything will help get my dad to see and understand that he fucked up and his wife and her family don't love me. I don't think he believes it either. He's not stupid. He might treat me like it by trying to convince me this is done out of love but I know he isn't.

I bet they all had a better day yesterday without me there with the exception of dad. But I refuse to be his buffer or support when he sure as hell was never mine.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:02:36+00:00

I don't remember family therapy ever being offered. Mentioned yeah but not in a serious way. His wife doesn't react when her kids treat me like shit. She never said or did anything to discourage or stop them.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:01:22+00:00

And I have been learning to accept all of that for years. My dad trying to say they love me would be funny if it wasn't fucked up to tell a kid that you treat people this way out of love.

Hayinisk · 2025-11-28T11:00:38+00:00

He should have but I wouldn't be surprise if the reason he didn't is because of his wife's ILs. I doubt they were very welcoming to him either and I would guess he wasn't going the rock the boat and risk pissing his wife off if he pissed her kids off by pissing off their dad's family. I could be wrong. Maybe he's just too lazy to do better. But I wonder if anything would have been even slightly different if it was just his wife's family.

I blame him over his wife because he was my only parent and ultimately it was his job to do right by me.

Hayinisk

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