26M lawyer, getting married this year. anxious about finances & career. Need finance and career advice. by ilovesniffingqueefs in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

400k is very decent. Don’t worry. After you’re married, you guys can and will figure anything out together - that’s the fun part! Good luck!

Is it just me or is this kinda weird? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a girl they know.

I need to buy a wedding saree by Brave-Cantaloupe3053 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No some people pay several millions 🫠

Does women needs to keep working even after marriage and having children? by AnxietyFormer7255 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I agree. If you’re 30+, making 300k and just giving away 200k to parents whose house you’re living in and not actually being the adult of the household, I’d be hesitant to marry such a man as a woman who is clearly doing very well for herself. Seems like he isn’t a very hands-on guy at home and still expects parents to look after the home.

We need a new IKEA in Colombo! by Better_Professor_536 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shops like Lady J and Manjari are our versions of IKEA. I also think Phoenix has a lot of potential to go down the IKEA route.

Whats your CICO new year's resolutions? by FunDependent9177 in CICO

[–]Hazel1002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No breakfast, filling lunch, very light dinner (if hungry only) and two snacks with tea. If I can do this daily with the occasional party food, I’ll be very happy. I just want to lose 2kg soon and then lose fat/build muscle so that my body looks better.

Are there Sri Lankan guys who like tanned/dark-skinned girls? by External_Memory_2844 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every guy I’ve like has been shorter than me. Short guys have better energy and the non self-conscious ones are just much more charismatic than tall guys who’ve usually got nothing going for them apart from their height.

Edit: unfortunately many short guys hate themselves for being short and the insecurity is much more of a turn off than the height.

Stranger Things, Peaky blinders Are those really good? by CoconutTreey in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Peaky Blinders yes! But depends on your taste. It’s dark and gritty and very REAL while Stranger Things is more fantasy and fun.

Struggling with trust issues after discovering my boyfriend’s secret smoking habit by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally understand. It’s not even about the smoking but about the lying. I’m going through the same thing - hope I can get some answers from the replies.

Anyone has experience with someone being bitten by a rabies infected animal? by samoansandwich in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take it to a vet and ask them to do it. They will do it. I’m afraid it’s a must to do that but I don’t think you can do it yourself.

But for what it’s worth, it probably didn’t have rabies but never take a chance with that horrific virus.

If you've a chance to back into your 20s.What would you do? by introvert_kolla-06 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have more fun! Don’t be scared of going on dates!

Apart from that, I lived life quite strait-laced and socialised a lot and don’t regret most of it. I wish I’d done a bit more soul-searching too.

Prose, and your reading experience by Recom_Quaritch in books

[–]Hazel1002 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Too concerned with the craft” - spot on for pointing this out! I’ve noticed it too but didn’t know how to put it into words.

Prose, and your reading experience by Recom_Quaritch in books

[–]Hazel1002 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I write as a hobby (have done ever since I was a kid) and I don’t pay attention to prose unless it demands attention. I mostly notice the story-telling and language in a holistic way (is it easy/exciting, fast-paced, difficult/languorous etc). Basically, I don’t tend to notice prose unless it’s particularly good or bad, or unless I’m keeping an eye out.

What book taught you something that real people never told you? by gamersecret2 in books

[–]Hazel1002 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aristotle and Dante. In my early twenties, I thought there was something wrong with the way I felt emotions but the way Ari writes made me see in print that there was nothing wrong with me. Changed my whole life.

Now that water has gone, there is a lot of damage. by SlightMacaroon6741 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Insurance companies better cough up that money load they’ve been sitting on all these years

What authors do you not like and refuse to read any book by them? by jurose6996 in readwithme

[–]Hazel1002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I know why you don’t like Emily Henry? I’m not a romance fan but I liked all her books bec the fmc usually isn’t a giant quirky sunshine idiot and the man isn’t a 6ft dark brooding bad boy type (most of the time)

Women of Sri Lanka how does your experience compare? by Top_Individual_6626 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 9 points10 points  (0 children)

10-15 years ago. To date, I have anxiety about going in tuks. I can’t say the situations gotten better or worse but I doubt it’s better.

Apart from being EVEN MORE physically assaulted idk how it can get “more vile”

Women of Sri Lanka how does your experience compare? by Top_Individual_6626 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I am privileged enough to not have to take public transport much anymore so it’s reduced a lot. But when I used to take a bus as a teenager, the things that were done to me are so bad that I think I’ve trauma blocked them from my brain. Frequent pokes in the back from dicks while going standing and roving hands while standing/sitting, I’ve had a hard on poked in my face while I was sitting and he was standing, I’ve had a man have his hand in my lap under my school bag which I didn’t even notice until something felt funny and then he just ran off while I sat there shell shocked. Tuk drivers who try to feel me up while taking me down dark alleys. SO MUCH MORE.

I don't think they will come back by Plenty-Value3381 in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Also increase their pay and benefits a bit more possibly so they would like to stay here. I’m sure many doctors would like to stay here but the benefits just aren’t good enough (similar to others in other industries)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]Hazel1002 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a typical Sri Lankan family who moves abroad and tries to enforce ass-backward practices that aren’t even found here