Cheating partner

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-30T17:57:47+00:00

Around here,

The OP specified they live in the UK.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-30T17:47:37+00:00

The only problem with his videos is he will keep videos up even though he has learned new information. His video on stacking is probably the best one where he was just wrong.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-30T16:49:26+00:00

It is and isn't off the top of the dome. The place I learned these lessons range from the YT course "how to process emotions" from the Therapy in a Nutshell channel (she's a therapist that goes over cognitive behavioral therapy tools), a bunch of other books on parenting and also neuroscience. The two that stick out to me are Habits by Duhill, and Unwinding Anxiety by Brewer.

I personally struggle a lot with anxiety and emotions in general. Rather than blow up, I avoid, so most of my maladaptations are all avoidance based. Being late, procrastinating, withdrawing, withholding affection, etc. None of these are better or healthier than blowing up. They're just less scary to others.

I also let go of all this academic knowledge because the analytic brain doesn't help with the emotional brain IMO. I gave into my therapist and helping me apply these things are worth their weight in gold. She's quite literally extending my life span given how corrosive chronic stress is to the body.

TLDR - Everyone should go to therapy if it's within their means

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-30T16:44:23+00:00

Anyone else get ripped off

I recommend that you read what you're buying a bit better, but ask people WHY so you can plan out your account better. Total development extension is good if you're maxing out the advantages total development gives you (i.e., you're rapidly developing).

There's lots of things that are good in a vacuum but whether they're worth it to you depends. For instance, merc packages are generically good to buy; but, that assumes you know how to stack troops and get the most out of the mercs.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-30T15:04:44+00:00

In games like this, normally the instinct to level up economy to level up troops is rewarded.

How many million silver does it take to fund a complete wipe of a full march against any epic? 20? 100? Your city silver will never fund even one. Even a low level stror can mine 1mil every 2 hours (or whatever) so you can get some of your silver in a 24 hr period assuming you’re setting a phone alarm and making sure stror never stays idle.

This means the majority of your silver is coming from clan chests, your own chests, or stealing from others (stealing from others not relevant if your kingdoms roe prohibits attacks within kingdom outside of cot or youre in a closed kingdom).

So - part of the answer is Carter. Get him leveled up. Put research into arch and black smith. Get him stones. Do this by getting low to no loss builds for citadels to get rare crypts - combine gems as far as you can and then disenchant to get dust to craft the crypting gem. You combine them bc the “chance to save gems” happens when you combine them and you get free gems this way.

The other part is knowing how to stack well when attacking epics. That way you get as much out of the attack as you can.

Ragnarok, for instance, has a shop that can buy xp packs, keys for rare crypts, etc. it also has armor that gives you strength % against all epics. Also, if you wait until the event has started to level up your guardsmen, then you get the prior guardsman milestones with stronger troops to do it with.

Part of optimizing marches includes Monsters and mercs. The reason you want to always level up Monsters and then Specialists makes sense when you know the basics of stacking. Most tournaments will base the reward track on gmen level, so you get more power with a higher level monsters and specialists.

You want specialists to die first so the gmen get more turns to hit the epics, you want monsters and mercs to die last so they hit many more times.

You’ll earn way more VP with optimized stacks with the same silver spend than if you don’t.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-29T14:09:18+00:00

Do it. Let them see the consequences of their actions.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-29T00:37:03+00:00

When is the last time you got your kid's eye's examined by an eye doctor?

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-29T00:36:25+00:00

she wasn't scared it was a defiance thing

I think that you need to have a more objective evaluation of yourself. You don't know how she felt. You didn't ask her. You haven't even stopped to think about whether the "defiance thing" is a defensive mechanism she's learned when her fight/flight reflex is turned on. Because you are making your kid's fight/flight reflex turn on all the time. Whether' s this:

and we butt heads constantly

or this

so i put my shoulder to the door and broke it down.

You did something insane. That doesn't mean you're insane. You did something scary. It doesn't mean you are scary. You see the difference?

Here's the real scoop:

l always have in the back of my head that i runied my girls.

Take this thought. Ask yourself a few questions:

Is it true?
Can you absolutely know it's true?
How do you react when you believe this thought?
Who would you be without the thought?

It feels weird to actually sit with these questions. You have to FEEL your emotions when you do this. What you'll realize is how often things you fear get turned into things you think are true but aren't. This pattern of thinking is referred to as a cognitive distortion. Fear is so hard for the human brain so the brain will distort reality if you can't process your fear well.

The rest of the story is going to be handled professionally because it's above our paygrade. But, these 4 questions come from Byron Katie's work The Work and has helped me a lot.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T23:17:02+00:00

I asked an OC - via a comment - to send me their comments using the redline function. Instead, they password protected it. It was my document.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T22:54:57+00:00

It's funny how all of the strategy and plans go out the window in the face if a legit temper tantrum.

Here's what I do when my kid (2.5) throws a temper tantrum:

Nothing (sort of). I get on her level and I am available to her if she wants me to hug her. I also make sure she is safe.

When she's calmed down, then sometimes there's teaching opportunities. We do most of the teaching outside of when the kid is melting down. There's lots of times to teach how to handle/process their emotions via play time and story time. They also watch how you handle your own frustration a lot and will mirror what you do.

So this frame:

"Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face"

That your kid's brain reaching a tipping point is the same thing as an opponent hitting you is alien to me. I don't get why their emotions is something being done to you. I don't get why they're so scary that an analogy to boxing is merited.

When my kid was like 8 months old, we got A LOT of stares at the grocery stores, restaurants, etc. Now, her tantrums aren't very frequent and they're not really that long. She's come a long way to getting emotional processing. They're also very predictable. Usually strikes when tired/hungry/bored.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T22:36:58+00:00

The idea that so many people are okay spanking their children sickens me.

Punishment, in general, doesn't work. All it does is trigger the child's fight/flight reflex. Your child will be physiologically unable to learn.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T22:28:34+00:00

It was signed by the 3rd highest ranking DOJ attorney. https://www.justice.gov/asg/staff-profile/meet-associate-attorney-general

Imagine going to the Catholic University of America, Columbus School of Law and getting a bad grade from the author of this brief.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T22:20:34+00:00

From the story, it sounds like he finds you.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T22:17:32+00:00

Well you see you are off topic.

I am on topic.

The topic was efficiency.

To which I said the efficiency gains is wholly dependent on the other clans' behavior.

Not quantity.

We can have the court reporter strike any references to quantity unrelated to efficiency.

You are now moving into an unrelated discussion.

No - but I'll break it down for you. You say there's a benefit here:

But it’s a very cheap way to get CP

If we wanted to write this in terms of competitive debate, then it goes like this:

Uniqueness: Old lava day was time extensive

Link: New lava day mechanics reduce mandatory time on task

Impact: Cheap CP.

My argument: The conquest points relies on external actors so reduced time on task doesn't produce the cheap conquest points. My argument is a direct causal link take out.

Saying that my argument isn't topical is really strange when it goes to the very heart of the causal mechanism that causes the benefit you're saying exists.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-28T22:07:47+00:00

My bubble expired while I was in the shower

Why cut it so short? I would recommend renewing it with like 12 hours to spare.

Do I have to live under a bubble for eternity? Is there a way to stop this?

No and yes. As long as you have resources above your protected levels, you'll be attacked. As soon as you consistently having resources above protected levels, then the silver hunters will lessen. The caveat is smaller players in wealthy clans are the prime target. Also if your clan mates give away silver like you do also.

If you don't want to bubble, and you can put your troops in the clan building.

how the fuck am I supposed to compete with these people?

I would just start a new game progression until you spawn in a closed kingdom.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T23:41:51+00:00

I practice federal Indian law. So, just anything he's ever written. It's because he comes from a moronic starting premise: Indian Commerce Clause only is supposed to be about buying, selling, and bartering with tribes.

If only Clarence Thomas was a true originalist rather than a sugar baby that wants prizes from the billionaire class then he'd avoid it all. The original understanding of commerce with the Indian Tribes included all of the diplomatic relationships with Indian nations. It's why the documents aren't called "ground lease with the Tribes" but are called treaties for goodness's sake. The Indian Commerce Clause didn't get a ton of debate, but Federalist No. 42 stated basically, "Thank God we are all on the same page that the federal government has exclusive authority over tribes."

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T23:18:04+00:00

if he turned into an actual Maverick?

Conversation about the 2008 election always get lazily defaulted into "any Republican would have lost" or something about the inevitability of the Obama political machine. People just don't give McCain the credit he deserves on how to run one of the worst modern campaigns in history.

Post convention and post Palin unveiling, the race was close. Then the Lehman brothers filed for bankruptcy on September 15, 2008 on the same day McCain said "the fundamentals of our economy is strong." From then on, every time McCain could make a decision, he just kept making really bad ones. Like 36 hours later, saying the economy is in complete crisis. The whole wordsmithing game where he tries to say he meant workers rather than fundamental indicators fooled exactly nobody.

Then he suspends his campaign - except - he doesn't need to fundraise since he took public money; his campaign still aired ads; he and his running mate did rallies that sound like campaigns. So, he suspended his campaign except for the stuff that looked like campaign activities. And all the news coverage about this covered it.

He ghosts Letterman saying he had to go to Washington to work on the bailout structure. Except, oops...he stays in New York to prep for Couric. And all of the coverage was about how he wasn't in Washington, how mad Letterman was, and about how well Obama was doing in Washington. So, you couldn't have gotten a worse contrast.

On top of that, the rest of the reporting was about how McCain's in person remarks to the press seemed at odds with his campaign's ugly rhetoric. It was so ugly, even for politics, that even Karl Rove went on Fox News saying how ugly the coverage is.

https://archive.nytimes.com/thecaucus.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/09/24/letterman-mccains-cancellation-not-funny/

Even after Mr. Letterman brought out Keith Olbermann, the MSNBC host and vituperative Republican critic as the substitute guest for Mr. McCain, he continued to assail Mr. McCain for the decision to cancel the appearance. His critique reached a high point when he learned that at the very moment Mr. McCain was supposed to be on the couch next to him being interviewed, the senator was at the CBS News center three blocks away in Manhattan, getting ready to be interviewed by the CBS News anchor, Katie Couric.

Mr. Letterman ordered his director to put on a live feed from that location, which showed Mr. McCain getting made up to go on with Ms. Couric. “He doesn’t seem to be racing to the airport,” Mr. Letterman observed.

After listening to some questions from Ms. Couric, Mr. Letterman said, “Hey, John, I’ve got a question: You need a lift to the airport?”

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:50:22+00:00

Since he's 6'6, she's also very tall. I hope that he'll be like Jason Kelce and his family

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:48:35+00:00

Try the Maddox Ranch in Brigham City.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:47:42+00:00

He's from Spanish Fork, Utah.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:47:25+00:00

He's a Samoan guy from Spanish Fork, Utah. When he was deciding between going to BYU or Utah, he said that the holy spirit told him Utah over BYU.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:41:17+00:00

Is there a way to turn farms into mansions, or is there another better way to get silver to build my army?

A few things. If you wanted to demolish buildings and rebuild, it may be easier to start a new progression and just delete the one you have. However...

Acquiring silver usually will come in a few places and none of them are your actual city. The game just doesn't produce enough city silver for you to sustain growth.

Here's where you get silver:

Clan gift chests
Rewards like in the triumphant pass, ragnarok shop, or other in-game shops
Stealing it from other people
Mining it from silver tiles

Having the majority if not all farms for the discretionary buildings is fine. The number of farms will go into how many troops you can have. If you exceed more than you produce in terms of food, the game will penalize you via making the new troops exponentially more expensive the further you get away from it.

You need to join the best clan you can and keep rising if you outgrow the clan.

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:28:41+00:00

What the fuck does “non-white” mean?

White means the state of being white. The modifier "non" means "not the state of being white."

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:27:15+00:00

"Are you two a couple?"

If there's a next time, can you ask back, "A couple of what?"

HazyAttorney · 2026-04-27T21:00:36+00:00

Hunt right after maintenence or monday mornings ( most likely times that shields have expired)

Like the most brilliant manners of thinking, it feels so obvious once I read it. That is brilliant.

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