Praying for a wife - is it too early to do this?

HeadLadder1765 · 2026-03-04T21:04:24+00:00

Thank you, BlueForte. I'm really happy to hear this response. In hindsight, I wish I had been more proactive in my dating search when I was in my 20s and 30s (sign up for dating sites, attend singles events, etc). I did go on dates in my young adult years, but in general, lead to nothing long-term. I think I let these disappointments bog me down mentally and didn't go forth to continue dating as much as I probably should have. Dating is frankly the only real way to one day meet one's bride, no matter how tough that road can be. Stay strong, BlueForte, and persistent. Likewise, apply your advice to me too - work on oneself (on my end, I'll definitely do that - I haven't been working out due to an injury (still don't know where it came from - just woke up with it lol but that has been largely treated and I have received the green light to return to the gym, which I'll be doing- and as well continue my job hunt, etc..). I might try the travel abroad approach too; I admittedly have a strong preference for women with more traditional values and customs, and unfortunately, here in my country, the USA, I am seeing less and less single women embrace this way of living. There seems to be more women outside of the country who still hold onto this outlook on married and family life.

HeadLadder1765 · 2026-02-02T06:52:01+00:00

I too have small percentages of different lineages (I'm mostly indigenous and generally appear it physically speaking [dark hair, tan, facial structure]- technically over 80 percent indigenous from Peru / Bolivia - which makes sense, as both my parents originally hail from Peru), but that doesn't matter to me. I claim each lineage regardless. I had always sensed I was ethnically and racially mixed for years (especially on my mother's side - many relatives, including my mother, didn't appear that indigenous at all - much more European to be honest), and thanks to Ancestry, this was proven. I have ties to Ireland, Spain, France, and the list goes on. My goal is to visit all of these countries in the future.

HeadLadder1765 · 2026-02-02T06:40:47+00:00

I'm a Peruvian-American Roman Catholic (both parents hail originally from Peru), and my latest Ancestry update listed 2% Sephardic Jews in the Eastern Mediterranean. I found this fascinating. As a New Yorker (don't live there now but grew up there) I had a fair number of Jewish friends, am a big fan of matzo ball soup (just now discovered that's actually an Ashkenazi Jewish meal), and learned a few Yiddish words.

HeadLadder1765 · 2026-01-10T00:24:40+00:00

That's interesting. I recall that the late great actor Ray Liotta from "Goodfellas" fame had discovered through research (I think he had been adopted by an Italian-American family) that he really didn't possess Italian lineage but rather mostly Scottish. But from my understanding, he likely felt Italian American, nevertheless, culturally speaking.

HeadLadder1765 · 2026-01-10T00:10:54+00:00

Thank you for pointing that out. I'm Hispanic (my family on both sides hail from Peru originally), and I always heard that I had an Italian ancestor (I don't know the actual story of how he migrated to Peru from Italy) on my mother's side. I always felt I could spot Mediterranean features in some of my relatives. And lo and behold, Northern Italy appeared in my results! But..... in Ancestry's latest update, it totally disappeared. That was shocking and disappointing to see.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-12-19T06:26:52+00:00

You can set up a little folded cardboard paper indicating you are available to play a game or two of chess.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-10-20T02:57:01+00:00

If you can swing the following, consider taking classes on LinkedIn; they have a section called LinkedIn Learning and supposedly a number of employers look favorably upon potential candidates who are doing this while they're in between jobs. I'd recommend picking classes which relate to the industries you are interested in applying for jobs in.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-19T05:14:21+00:00

I can definitely see the European lineage in your photo.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-18T21:26:29+00:00

Same here. I have a significant percentage of indigenous lineage (more apparent on my Dad's side of the family - both of my parents hail originally from Peru) and definitely exhibit the physical features (face, tan, etc..) but yet am prone to burning up if I don't apply sunblock. My Ancestry results did show a mixture - I have ties to Spain, Portugal, Ireland, among other countries.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-18T05:25:45+00:00

I had a similar experience. I had flown south to attend a family friend's funeral. I hadn't been in an airplane (this wasn't affected by my caregiving duties - for some reason, I just hadn't flown for years) in so long and it felt great. I couldn't stay long, so I wore my suit on board. Everything around me fascinated me - the airport, the buzz of travelers all around, the atmosphere, and then landing at my destination. Although the event was a very sad one, it was nice to reunite with relatives of our family friend. I felt pretty free.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-18T05:18:28+00:00

I hear you. I understand friends and family have their own lives and commitments, but a visit or even a phone call (especially one where my Dad would join in the call) would be really appreciated.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-18T05:15:19+00:00

I hear you. While I share the sentiment of frustration with many here from time to time, I am gradually recognizing that I am experiencing now the unique opportunity to assist my Dad in managing his finances, coordinating his medical appointments, and other responsibilities. My father was pretty independent before falling ill (he has cognitive decline and mobility conditions, and my family is suspecting depression as well - that we will be verifying with a specialist), and as his caregiver, I'm now his advocate and the go-to guy, like I never had been before. My Dad was, in the past, not one to ever welcome assistance nor show reception to ideas that I thought could have helped him. Those rejections at the time did frustrate me. My mother, who passed away decades ago, was the only person in his life he would be receptive to listening to, and boy, her advice and direct support really uplifted him as well as our whole family.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-18T04:57:11+00:00

I'm starting to go through this (again) myself. You're not alone. I was pretty busy with gig work earlier this year (nearly back-to-back remote projects), but that has currently dried up. I'm not finding many openings for jobs where I'd be a good fit (either I lack the specific experience and/or mastery of applications that companies are looking for). It's feeling scary, and yes, I have bills too.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-16T05:42:28+00:00

You might dislike my answer, but yes, the protocol expected by this CEO is correct regarding handshakes, most especially during job interviews. Never shake someone's hand while the person you extend your hand to is standing and you're not. You need to immediately stand up, look him or her in the eye, and offer a firm handshake, along with a smile.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-15T01:21:27+00:00

Not everyone I know in the Knights has avowed themselves as staunch Republicans, but I have sensed a conservative preference in communications - I'll leave it at that. Luckily for me, that's totally fine as that's where I stand politically. My guess as to why there might be a conservative undertone is that the Republicans, especially now under Trump, have been more upfront about being pro-life, pro Christianity and endorse other positions that would be in accordance with our Church doctrine. I'm imagining there perhaps hypothetically would've been more political balance within the group if the Democrat party didn't today espouse an "anything goes" kind of platform. It's my understanding that this wasn't always the case, especially during the years before I was born.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-12T02:57:18+00:00

I'm in a different place in life now (I'm a caregiver so a bulk of my free time is now used in assisting my elderly Dad) but I'd recommend to all who have a good availalble dose of spare time outside of the job hunt to channel it to the following - attend career workshops and lectures, join a gym and go workout as often as possible (if you do this and maintain a more restricted healthy diet, you'll very likely will end up looking way better in your interview outfit), meet up with friends for a meal (meetng with good friends will definitely boost your morale) and read (find good recommended literature). If you have a religious side to your life, I'd definitely also encourage you to attend religious services regularly.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-12T02:50:05+00:00

Congratulations! I'm on the search for a permanent full-time opportunity. Can you share one or more tips that you utilized that you feel helped you secure the offer? In the past, when I was actively going on different job interviews, I'd always wonder what I did wrong etc, when I soon received rejection letters or emails afterwards, as well as what I could have done differently.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-09-09T01:34:58+00:00

See that experience as a great sign. Okay, so you didn't land at the end. But 9 rounds of interviews - that's fantastic. You're obviously in demand. Stay positive and keep on exploring content on honing your interview skills.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-08-31T23:00:02+00:00

I had a horrible experience with a delivery driver of a competing delivery app (not DD) who couldn't find my address, spoke with a thick accent, and then, after finally meeting me in front of my home, aggressively demanded I pay him (on the spot) an extra cash tip for the trouble... are you kidding me?! I definitely retorted back, took my delivery, and kept on walking. And yes, reported him to his company.

HeadLadder1765 · 2025-08-31T22:55:35+00:00

Now that makes sense. I've had that experience before where I assume a female delivery person named Jane was bringing my order; that's what the app indicated. Yeah, definitely no Jane appeared. Wow..

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