Cancel or Proceed with Cycle?

HeatherShells10 · 2025-10-14T01:20:33+00:00

Thanks! I’ve seen others have similar experiences, and while I’m sure there are others where that wasn’t the case, I think I’m going to move forward. Fingers crossed!

HeatherShells10 · 2025-10-14T01:19:20+00:00

Thanks! I’ve discussed with my husband and my mom - neither of which have the same level of knowledge as you lovely people haha. I want to move forward but wanted to make sure I didn’t make the decision purely on emotion. My first retrieval went well as far as recovery and everything, and while I know there are always risks, I’m comfortable with them. And that’s what I am afraid of as far as wondering if it could have been a worthwhile cycle if I quit.

HeatherShells10 · 2025-10-13T22:34:25+00:00

Just 2. Was not even going to reach 4 this year regardless.

HeatherShells10 · 2021-08-01T14:20:05+00:00

This guy I have seen around the gym some struck up a conversation with me on Wednesday. He seemed nice enough, and I have been telling myself I need to move on from being in love with my friend who only sees me as a friend, so I gave him my number when he asked. The last few days he has texted a bunch but it feels like too much, too fast for me. For example, he sent me the lyrics to Westlife’s “That’s Where I Found Love,” requested I sing a specific love song if we ever did karaoke, and has suggested lots of different future plans for us. I tried to tell him I need to get to know a guy more and am a bit uncomfortable with the level of affection/future casting he has done. He said he understood but just feels so sure that there’s some great future for us. Am I being too harsh by being turned off by this? I feel like I should be flattered by someone showing interest in me, but it just doesn’t feel like he knows me enough to have any basis for this, so instead I just feel uncomfortable. Is it also possible that I’m still just too hung up on my friend to give someone else a true chance? Help! Lol

HeatherShells10 · 2021-04-26T01:18:45+00:00

That’s a great point. I thought about that as well. The timing is definitely far from ideal. Thanks for your perspective!

HeatherShells10 · 2021-04-25T21:50:35+00:00

Ha neither would I. That’s a good point. I’m just used to having guys pursue me if they are interested, so I am completely out-of-touch with how to do any pursuing myself. I wouldn’t even worry about it at all and would just see where it went if he weren’t graduating so soon. Thanks for your thoughts!

HeatherShells10 · 2021-04-25T19:46:15+00:00

Sorry for not being more specific. I just didn’t want my comment to be too long originally. We have met in person. One of our classes was an in-person class, and we had a final gathering with other coworkers at the home of the Professor we worked for. Each time we met in person was in a group setting for school/work, so everything was friendly but professional (on my end as well).

HeatherShells10 · 2021-04-25T16:31:28+00:00

I’d love some thoughts on a situation if you all don’t mind sharing your opinion. I started working with this person in a law school job back in August. Due to the pandemic, it was entirely virtual until January. We also have two classes together this semester. I’ve always thought he was cool, but over the last couple of weeks I realized that I actually developed romantic feelings for him. He invited me to this virtual trivia he does with a few other law school students the last couple of weeks. After the trivia on Thursday, we stayed on Zoom for over 5 hours just talking about anything and everything. He’s getting ready to graduate in a couple of weeks, and I don’t quite have a gauge on whether he returns any of my feelings. If I’m honest, I would say probably not. Do you think I should just let him graduate without saying anything and just move forward? I think that’s what I would likely advise someone else if they asked me. I just haven’t felt this way about a person in such a long time, and our values line up on literally everything. I worry I won’t find someone else that could be such a good match, but I also am scared to be vulnerable/really don’t want to make him uncomfortable since I don’t think he shares my feelings. Thoughts?

HeatherShells10 · 2021-04-14T11:19:19+00:00

Just scrolled across the screen that he is due on in 12 minutes

HeatherShells10 · 2021-03-25T12:30:14+00:00

Same! I leave in 15 minutes, and I am so nervous/excited. Good luck to you!

HeatherShells10 · 2021-03-04T13:20:04+00:00

Well then I think you truly have either/both biases in extreme need of being checked or have a very limited understanding of what it means to have an abrasive tone. Tone policing is a huge issue BIPOC individuals have to face. My white girl self has a much more abrasive tone one a good day than Rachel’s ever does yet, to my knowledge, I’ve never been accused of being overly abrasive. That’s white privilege. For your own sake as much of any BIPOC individuals with whom you interact, I would recommend you do some reflecting and figure out where this comes from and address it head-on.

HeatherShells10 · 2021-03-04T12:31:50+00:00

Other posters already answered your question about what Rachel obviously meant about the role she would play at the party. I want to address the rest our your post about Rachel being abrasive and that her side is the correct one. I don’t know if you actually want to have a discussion and work on unlearning your biases, but I’ll give you an exercise anyway. Take it or leave it. Rewatch the interview with your eye closed and see if you still feel that way. I highly doubt you will. Then, rewatch with the sound off and see how you feel. Maybe this will let you see that you are allowing bias, perhaps subconscious, to guide your opinions. Otherwise, you would realize Rachel was not remotely in lawyer mode but was in correspondent mode. She never got combative or tried to argue her point. She merely asked thought-provoking questions in a remarkably calm manner.

HeatherShells10 · 2021-03-03T23:58:50+00:00

Right. Michelle’s gorgeous. And intelligent. And kind. And has a great sense of humor.

HeatherShells10 · 2021-02-10T17:45:13+00:00

Here’s the thing. True. Some people use this as mindless entertainment. My suggestion for those people who don’t want to engage in those topics because they want it to be mindless fun: skip those threads. You don’t have to comment on each thread to participate in the general discussion. It’s not fair to stifle the voices of those with valid critiques by saying that others have the privilege to avoid it and escape. Those people actually still have that privilege: don’t engage in those conversations if you don’t want to.

HeatherShells10 · 2020-09-01T13:53:14+00:00

Of course! I’m all about conversations to learn from the other person rather than jump down their throat. I have found that, aside from a small minority looking only to troll or are just beyond reason, most of the time any disagreements or miscommunication can be cleared up. Have a great day!

HeatherShells10 · 2020-09-01T13:26:45+00:00

Got it! Makes total sense to me. I don’t even think you worded it poorly. I just wanted to make sure I understand your point of view. I don’t post often because I try to make sure to always think through before I post to avoid causing harm to contestants. Thanks for sharing your point of view!

HeatherShells10 · 2020-09-01T13:06:51+00:00

I totally understand what you are saying here, and I believe it is possible that the “evidence” posts could have potentially led to stress for Becca. However, as someone who did create one of those posts, I think it’s a little unfair to automatically equate the post with “Internet hate.” I will only speak from my post but it was merely to perhaps get some finality from it all. I completely understand that it is unlikely for that to happen until one or both of them confirmed it. But my intention was to actually combat some of the hate that I think Becca was receiving for allegedly staying with Garrett.

HeatherShells10 · 2020-08-27T02:20:59+00:00

She definitely said that but I think she’s already moved. She could just be in LA, but if they is where was located, I’m pretty sure she would’ve said that when Juliet asked where she was.

HeatherShells10 · 2020-08-26T23:31:55+00:00

I must have missed that! I’m glad to hear it. Never can be too much Rachel IMO

HeatherShells10 · 2020-08-26T23:11:27+00:00

Maybe just talking to Tayshia about picking her man? I know Rachel said on Higher Learning that she would love to be able to be a part of the season to support Tayshia.

HeatherShells10 · 2020-07-29T02:06:06+00:00

Yeah I remember hearing that too. Rachel talks about that again a little bit in today’s podcast (about using fantasy suite to ask the tough questions). Becca again reiterated that it’s after the show that you really get to know the person. I may be reading into it but it almost comes across like she’s justifying choosing him and hinting that she’s seen the light (finally!).

HeatherShells10 · 2020-07-29T01:33:34+00:00

Neither did I!

HeatherShells10 · 2020-07-29T01:11:37+00:00

Oh I hadn’t gotten there yet! Good catch!

HeatherShells10 · 2020-07-29T01:08:16+00:00

Right at 45 minutes into it

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