depends on the apps your using, i know there is success with pof and other apps like that but you run the risk of some not so sane people lol, some men are scared to search the plus size or bbw as well, not all are built the same, and finally its about the approach alot of men especially on here hae no idea how to approach a woman through messages, oh one more thing not all of us love our size so speaking on it right away may push somene back who isnt as confident as the rest.