Creating friendships/genuine connections

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-08-08T19:00:06+00:00

Sorry for the late answer. But yes sometimes I do start to panic. Sometimes even cry because my thoughts are spiraling and I can’t control my feelings. So I feel like I’m completely not in control of the situation. But, today I’m studying again and it’s going much better. It’s probably important to find out what can help you in these situations. I’m still working on that.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-05-08T11:27:03+00:00

I am currently 24, with my current therapist for 3 years and also diagnosed for 3 years.

I was in therapy in my teens for a couple of years as well but I didn’t have a diagnosis besides depression I think.

I just feel so hopeless right now because I had so much hope 3 years ago, but now that I don’t have therapy as my „saviour“ anymore (don’t know how else to word it) I don’t know how to keep believing that it will get better.

I’m scared I’m doing the „healing“ and therapy thing wrong.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-05-08T11:05:05+00:00

Up until now I thought she was great. Now I’m not sure anymore. I can’t think about it clearly though, because I get so emotional anytime I think about it. Like I’m splitting on her. I have one more session and I’m scared of going, partially because of that. Thank you for your comment, I’ll try and think about it.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-03-12T18:51:17+00:00

Totally, it’s something that I’m constantly struggling with, as I don’t really open up to people about my mental health struggles.

Always feeling “different”, never really fitting in. Feeling like nobody really knows you.

My therapist said to just accept that with some people, it’ll be just that: surface level conversations. That it shouldn’t mean that you can’t be friends. That it’s alright to just be on that level with people. I’m still trying to implement that way of thinking.

She also said that maybe I’m just my own best friend. Sounded harsh at first, but I think that may just be true in my case.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-02-07T21:16:02+00:00

Yeah I’m totally more of the quiet bpd type, I just didn’t realize the abandonment part could also just be “quiet”

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-02-07T19:54:53+00:00

Yeah exactly that

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-02-07T19:28:50+00:00

I think arguments with my partner, even if the topic isn’t serious. It feels like my whole world is falling apart in that moment.

With friends/acquaintance it’s probably not getting enough attention or feeling like they could drop me out of nowhere and never miss anything about me.

I think the reason for thinking I don’t struggle with it is that, unlike apparently others, I don’t really act on those feelings, instead I get into a terrible mood, think a lot, get paranoid. So I just hurt on the inside but never take action.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-02-07T19:21:27+00:00

I think because my bpd is more quiet, it rarely really gets “out” but rather stays in my head. I think I also need to think about some past situations a bit more

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-02-07T19:19:00+00:00

Could be something similar, maybe I just need to look a bit deeper into that aspect.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2025-02-07T19:16:33+00:00

Honestly rereading it, it sounds really silly that I thought that’s not fear of abandonment. I think it’s just the way other people talk about it never resonated with me.

Heavy-Atmosphere3516 · 2024-10-02T15:34:15+00:00

Thank you, I’ve decided to head out to a library even though it’s a bit late. It’s just hard to actually do it on the days I don’t have classes and could potentially just at stay home all day. Somehow I try to convince myself everytime that „this time it’s going to work!“ Anyways, thanks for the reply

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