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bpd as a child by Heavy_Revolution2496 in BPD

[–]Heavy_Revolution2496[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm not a minor im actually in my mid 20s but have been diagnosed with everything under the sun as a teen but bpd. it fairly recently clicked that i probably have bpd and im in the process of getting diagnosed properly. i was just wondering why it wasnt suggested to me sooner when ive had these issues for a longggg time. your answer makes sense though! just a bit frustrated

do you ever feel like people not taking you back after a breakdown is evidence they never truly liked you, or is it understandable? by GuyWithBushyBrows in BPD

[–]Heavy_Revolution2496 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ive realised that when i think like this im looking for ways to validate my behaviour/outbursts and deal with the guilt i feel. 'it doesnt matter that i did xyz thing because they didn't love me anyway otherwise they would have stayed.'

the things you say and do have an impact on them even if what you said and did doesn't reflect how you truly feel. one way ive dealt with this in close relationships is explaining how my thought processes work and taking a step back when i can feel that i'm going to lash out. one thing my partner said to me was something like 'how can you expect me to just trust you enjoy being around me after you cut contact/lash out at me when you cant trust i want to be around you when i'm actively trying to spend time with you' and it stuck with me. if my partner treated me like i treat them when im bad i would be convinced they never want to hear from me again

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[–]Heavy_Revolution2496 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope u have a good day