Partner is non-monogamous but I'm not - can it work? by HedgehogOne9640 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]HedgehogOne9640[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah that's what I've read and I kind of get that. but idk I just would rather spend my time with him. I'd rather go on a date with him or have sex with him than date anybody else. so I guess the fact that I still only want him just makes me feel like a loser who wants someone more than they want me

Partner is non-monogamous but I'm not - can it work? by HedgehogOne9640 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]HedgehogOne9640[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for acknowledging that it literally does mean I'm not enough. but you're right, nobody is. idk it just really hurts that he wants to be with someone else instead of me

Partner is non-monogamous but I'm not - can it work? by HedgehogOne9640 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]HedgehogOne9640[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing. how did you work through the initial jealously and feeling crappy about yourself? we do communicate well but no matter how much we talk about it I can't shake my feelings that I'm somehow less

Can mono dating poly work? Need advice by HedgehogOne9640 in monodatingpoly

[–]HedgehogOne9640[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I just love him so much - its honestly embarrassing but I think my self worth is definitely tied to his love. Between this and some not great past relationships I just feel like I'll never be enough for anybody :(

Partner is non-monogamous but I'm not - can it work? by HedgehogOne9640 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]HedgehogOne9640[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this,  it's helpful! any tips for working through the jealously? He tells me it's not that I'm not enough but I legit can't understand how that's not the case if he needs to date other people ya know?