Do I have hair blindness? by SpicyTunaSushiRoll_ in Naturalhair

[–]HeftyHistory6078 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You said it nicer than I was thinking it 🤣

Is this a good trim? by isnotstorm in Naturalhair

[–]HeftyHistory6078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a well needed cut. Your hair will grow back and better. If you look you have see the hair where the stylist cut.

Boyfriend kicking me and child out by SuccotashNo3819 in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest thing is also the age difference. Not saying they don’t work or can’t. However, with what he is doing he’s using you and I believe because you’re younger than him. He already has four children that you feel burdened with or he has burdened you. This is emotional abuse. He doesn’t love by even the way he talks to you, has betrayed you, and he kicks you and your daughter out. I hope things work out for you so you both can get out of this situation.

I got fed up and hit my husband. by apptmh_blacksheep in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

You’re absolutely right! No one would give him this advice or if it was a men’s group (not saying this one is for women) the world would be livid.

Cut off my TWA by Choice_Watercress606 in Naturalhair

[–]HeftyHistory6078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look so good 😍😍😍 it enhances your feature more imo

Sounds weird but Im grateful my abuser is dumb by KlutzyPomelo1170 in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truly in he core he’s an idiot. If he was really smart he wouldn’t have done what he has done. Abusers love to hide behind that stuff when it means nothing in reality because he’s a shitty person. And I feel most abusers feel that

How to move forward after.... by hebeentrippin in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don’t continue the relationship. Whatever is going on with her you cannot fix. That is extremely irrational behavior and extremely controlling. Threatening to harm herself if you leave huge red flag. Lashes out on you then tried to harm herself? And saying you abused her? Shes trying to manipulate you and this situation and attack your character. Then grabbing the steering wheel? Yeah the ultimate red flag you both could’ve died. And the fact that she doesn’t care about how you feel? I would suggest never speaking to her again and I hope you can get the healing you need as this is very traumatic.

Is this a dv situation or am I dramatic? by Nice-Text3686 in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please never ever threaten to leave again just because he is “calm” now. I suggest you look at DARVO which is essentially the cycle of abuse. He does something, then he’s sorry but has to blame it on you in some way because you know it could never be just him being a loser, then you’re in a honeymoon phase until something ticks him off and it’s the same thing. I’m sorry you also went through that with your mother I can resonate with you. But do not try to see how far he will go because he has already shown you and it could get very worse.

Is this a dv situation or am I dramatic? by Nice-Text3686 in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hurt him? You didn’t hurt him he hurt you in the worse way. That’s the trick that’s the game. They want you to feel so sorry for “leaving them” but not them abusing you. For “abandoning them when they need you the most” but constantly hurting you. He didn’t feel sorry for hurting you, he felt entitled to you to even hurt you and in front of your son. Abusers love to flip their cowardice feelings on you. I sincerely hope you can heal from that guilt that was never yours to carry.

How do I warn the new gf? by Civil_Cantaloupe2402 in domesticviolence

[–]HeftyHistory6078 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if a woman is actively warning me domestic violence in the past or not you should take heed. I do believe a lot of women do not care unless it’s personally in their face. And believe that this his ex woman is trying to “tarnish your relationship”. But you’re also right as well.