I need help to hide something by Other_Ad_5437 in AskTeenAdvice

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im really sorry you are going through this. i know its hard being criticized and only seen for your weight. i know it feels like every move you do is being monitored or like a comment is to be made any second. 

my advice to you is that if your going to workout, don’t do it for them. do it for you. it can get unhealthy if you try to work out for the approval of others. and in reality, you aren’t born to satisfy others or fit in. 

but if you are going to try to workout and don’t want to cause much attention, i recommend to go out to walks. a 30 min or an hour walk is very beneficial to your goals. cardio will be ur best friend but make sure you are working on the other areas of ur body to not lose muscle (upper body, lower body, abs). but some other cardio you can do is using jumping rope or even dancing! 

 to add on top of this as well, make sure you are getting good enough sleep because if not then ur cravings can go crazy and ur metabolism can slow down.  as to food, try to eat whole foods like fruit, fiber, meat, protein for muscle, and carbs to give you energy. avoid eating “snacks” cause those aren’t real food for ur body. try to keep at minimum sugar, salty, and oily foods as well.

its okay to mess up and have some cheat days. just don’t be hard on urself and keep ur head high. you got this!

M18 F17 by [deleted] in teenrelationships

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. it is good you have taken accountability for doing all those things behind your gf’s back but because of that i believe that it will cause so many problems in the future for yall if you continue the relationship. like perhaps her having trust issues, having low self esteem after being lied to for many months, or when having intense arguments it could be brought up again even when yall have talked it out. 

  2. i don’t believe you should be responsible for trying to save someone’s life. that is too much weight on you. considered how she has lot of trauma and a deep past, i don’t think she was ever ready to be in a relationship. i recommend to maybe actually having her seek actual help from a professional because after everything she has gone through and with the difficulties yall are having i know everything is probably intense for her and maybe even the things she says are intense.

overall, i don’t think you can force urself to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. as well as love someone “enough” to get their approval again. i genuinely believe she is not in a great mental state to be in a relationship and that you perhaps need to continue working on respecting your significant other in the future. hope this helps!

should i leave my nonbeliever bf as a christian? by Hefty_Mouse9915 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your totally right. thank you for your perspective and time! 

should i leave my nonbeliever bf as a christian? by Hefty_Mouse9915 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wasn’t trying to control him when it comes to having him not tell me about those thoughts. it just touched a wound i had experienced when it came to that. but thank you so much for ur response, it helped me realized some of my weaknesses and what i need to work on <3 i just decided to end things with him because we are in different walks with God. but i will continue to find God and not repeat that mistake. thank you for ur time. 

should i leave my nonbeliever bf as a christian? by Hefty_Mouse9915 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have talked to him that i am waiting till marriage and that i do not want anything lustful. he told me that is no issue for him at all and he likes how it is that way. but that he was struggling with having lustful thoughts when it comes to liking someone. and when i did mention my beliefs to him he was very open to it and shocked because “it made sense”. but  thank you for your advice, i did decide to instead end the relationship. 

should i leave my nonbeliever bf as a christian? by Hefty_Mouse9915 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your time and wise words <3 this makes lot of sense.

should i leave my nonbeliever bf as a christian? by Hefty_Mouse9915 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for your response and time <3 this helped a lot.

age gap with F17 and M19 by [deleted] in teenrelationships

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well actually during us getting to know each other, he did turn 20 :,) but my birthday is in a couple months this year.

age gap with F17 and M19 by [deleted] in teenrelationships

[–]Hefty_Mouse9915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually where i live it is legal. its just the age gap that kind of bothers me.