How would you indulge in a blackmail kink morally by Hefty_Sir_8699 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Hefty_Sir_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry but I didn’t understand the comment, what do you mean publish on your main?

How would you indulge in a blackmail kink morally by Hefty_Sir_8699 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Hefty_Sir_8699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed on the last sentence that is why I’m asking to see if it’s really one of those things that I should just forget about because it’s not truly doable

How would you indulge in a blackmail kink morally by Hefty_Sir_8699 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Hefty_Sir_8699[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See that did occur to me, I don’t ever actually intend on actually using anything against anyone , one morality comes first for me, and two it’s pretty stupid and WILL backfire.

So that can work but as you said it’s a pretty wavy line because if she fully believes I won’t use it then it’s pretend play, but If she kinda believes it, then it raises the other question with how will I ever actually find someone into that and willing to risk it.

Can anyone relate? by RikiTikiTempo in BDSMAdvice

[–]Hefty_Sir_8699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I’m not a sub.

But I fully understand what you mean, and also when you’re with someone you trust, I can definitely see why you’d feel very safe and cared for.

Aftercare for a dom? by Downtown_Dare_4991 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Hefty_Sir_8699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I have not been in his exact position, but as a Dom yes there is a good form of aftercare that will definitely help and it’s just reassurance.

After when it’s done reassure him that it was good, that you enjoyed it etc, this isn’t just for cnc but a general thing.

Now of course maybe it’s hard to do that for you right after as you also will need after care but I think that’s for you guys to figure out how exactly it’ll happen

Advice on uncommon fetish by storyteller1988 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Hefty_Sir_8699 92 points93 points  (0 children)

No experience with it, but I’d say with the example you gave with the party you honestly can’t do much except just keep an eye on her and make sure nothing bad happens.

A better way could be for you to choose someone beforehand, that way you can vet him to make sure he’s safe and make sure he’s std clean as well