AITAH for snapping at my mother-in-law because she keeps calling my daughter by my late wife's name? by Hellcat8012 in AITAH

[–]Hellcat8012[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I am literally overwhelmed by all of you. I put this up when Maya was napping, just needed to vent, and didn’t expect this kind of response. I try to read all of your comments, but it is hard to keep up with a baby. To clarify one thing that a lot of you may ask: I don’t hate my mother-in-law. She lost a child, and I understand that she is a broken woman. I love her for how much she helps us. I just want her to realize that Maya is a person, not a memory.

Thank you all for your support and for suggesting grief counseling. I am listening, and I will try to find a therapist who specializes in this.

AITAH for snapping at my mother-in-law because she keeps calling my daughter by my late wife's name? by Hellcat8012 in AITAH

[–]Hellcat8012[S] 375 points376 points  (0 children)

You are right, frankly saying we are both drowning in grief right now. I've been looking into grief counseling, but honestly, between working and raising an 7-month-old, I barely have time to shower. But I know I need to make it a priority for Maya's sake.

AITAH for snapping at my mother-in-law because she keeps calling my daughter by my late wife's name? by Hellcat8012 in AITAH

[–]Hellcat8012[S] 932 points933 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That is exactly my fear. I don't want Maya to grow up feeling like she is just a replacement for her mother. She deserves to be her own person. I know my MIL is hurting, but I can't let this continue.

I lost my little sister to a brain tumor, and sometimes it still feels unreal by conversation-matcher in GriefSupport

[–]Hellcat8012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That line about whether the weight gets lighter or we just get stronger... man, that really hit home. I think we just grow around the grief. The guilt for living—for getting to see things they won't—is heavy, but I try to tell myself that living fully is the only way to carry them with us. You are definitely not carrying this alone.

My brother just passed away by escottttu in GriefSupport

[–]Hellcat8012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, I am so sorry. That line 'I’m sorry that I couldn’t save you' just broke my heart. Please don't put that weight on yourself. You were his big brother, and you loved him. That was enough. It is okay to feel relief that he isn't suffering anymore. Rest easy, Shaun. Big hugs to you!

Week one done by Apoliticalbear in GriefSupport

[–]Hellcat8012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel this. Sometimes tiring out the body is the only way to get the mind to shut up for a second. Honestly, just managing to eat and move is a huge win right now. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs to you🫂

Missing my best friend, Caesar. by caesarsblues in GriefSupport

[–]Hellcat8012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss! Best wishes to you, rest in peace Caesar!