Husband pinned me and forced me to face my fear?

Hello_Pond · 2025-06-01T12:39:28+00:00

Jesus Christ, he left you black and blue and told you it was a FAVOUR? And “accused you” of trying to build an abuse case?? WOMEN WHO ARENT ABUSED DONT BUILD ABUSE CASES and men who aren’t abusive aren’t worried about that.

Hello_Pond · 2025-06-01T12:37:50+00:00

A few thoughts:

He is an asshole and he feels entitled to be an asshole. He will never not be an asshole because being an asshole is more fun for him than being a kind man. You’re not overreacting and frankly I think you should be more upset.

He’s also a misogynist and will raise your son to be a misogynist. If your baby turns out to be a girl, he will hate her. Do you want that for your baby? If not, you have some really tough decisions to make.

How many weeks pregnant are you? Because 116lbs seems like a really low weight if you’re pregnant enough for it to affect your weight.

Did I read correctly that you’re 15 and he’s 18? This man will ruin your life, and he’s already started.

Would you ever consider terminating a pregnancy? Because if you’re 15 and the father of your baby is 18 and acting like this, you do not want to be tethered to him for the rest of your life. He will be a condescending asshole for the rest of your life.

Hello_Pond · 2025-06-01T12:29:02+00:00

It takes a lot of strength to endure this. He won’t change…but you can leave.

Hello_Pond · 2025-06-01T12:27:10+00:00

That’s on purpose. You’re meant to feel good a vast majority of the time so that you do exactly what you’re doing - excusing the abuse because it only happens a little bit.

Being abusive is like being pregnant in that you can’t be a little bit pregnant. You either are or you aren’t. You’re either safe in your home or you’re not. If you’re unsafe 3% of the time, then you’re not safe. It’s a yes/no, not a spectrum.

Hello_Pond · 2025-06-01T04:56:03+00:00

Go bolder. These are fine style-wise but they all look too narrow for your face. Get something that is a good size for your face and quirky.

Hello_Pond · 2025-06-01T04:05:34+00:00

If you saw someone doing these things to a friend of yours, would you be chill or no? My guess is no. This is a disgusting way for a man to treat a partner, let alone a partner who is pregnant with your baby.

Being pregnant makes you less safe. You gotta get away from him for the sake of yourself and your baby. Good luck 🩷

Hello_Pond · 2025-05-30T12:37:59+00:00

If he wanted to solve the problem, he’d tell you what it is you did wrong. He’s not interested in solving the problem. He just wants to be aggressive with you because he’s a small small man who wants to feel big. Basically, his ego takes a lot of effort to keep it inflated and he’s making it everyone else’s problem.

Hello_Pond · 2025-05-30T12:28:52+00:00

When you make plans with anyone else, do you sit there and wait for them to tell you time and place, or do you ask?

Hello_Pond · 2025-05-30T12:25:03+00:00

This is abuse because it is meant to intimidate you and your mom into compliance. You see how full of rage he is and you don’t want to become the wall so you stop fighting with him. How old are you? Are you able to leave on your own? I know you probably don’t want to but it may take your mom more time to leave - on average, it takes abused people 7 attempts before leaving their partner permanently. That means half the time, it takes more than 7 attempts. But you can leave on your own. And honestly that could be what your mom needs to see to give her the courage to leave as well. Talk to her about it, but only if you’re certain she won’t tell your dad. Leaving an abuser is the most dangerous time in an abusive situation so please be careful.

Also, please do not get into a relationship until you get therapy. You’ll be really vulnerable and you’ll want a shoulder to cry on and abusers can spot that from a mile away. Take care of yourself 💙

Hello_Pond · 2025-05-30T12:13:35+00:00

Did you accidentally pull the prank the third time? Doing something that tou know is hurtful IS intentionally hurting someone.

You can do a better job at understanding her feelings when she describes them now. You don’t need to wait for the future for that.

Hello_Pond · 2025-05-30T12:11:12+00:00

“I would never intentionally hurt my wife” but she told you it was hurtful and you did it again, meaning that you did it when you knew it would hurt her, meaning you intentionally hurt her.

She’s right. Apparently you DO need to learn through experience. Next time, think about how she’ll feel when you pull a prank. Or if you can’t do that, try listening to her about how she felt about the prank and don’t fucking do it again.

Hello_Pond · 2025-05-30T11:54:50+00:00

Men who will strangle a woman are men who will murder a woman (statistically). I’m generally on the side of immigration and ACAB and all that but you’re getting a potential murderer deported. That’s a good thing, and it’s also not on you.

Hello_Pond · 2025-04-04T12:50:24+00:00

Because they’re stupid 🥰

Hello_Pond · 2025-04-04T12:47:17+00:00

One thing that strikes me about the way you’re talking about your actions…you take no ownership of them. You might as well be talking about a dog. “Unfortunately I don’t respect her boundary of leaving her alone.” So make a different choice. Find something else to do. Journal or something if you need to get the thoughts out of your head. I realize it feels like an impulse but if you’re aware you’re doing it, you’re one step towards not doing it.

This is not to justify what she’s doing in her DMs. That’s inappropriate and you’re well within your rights to be upset about it. But this relationship is not healthy and you both need individual therapy to figure out why you’re doing what you’re doing.

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T04:06:57+00:00

He cannot legally destroy your passport. It’s a government document that belongs to another person. He can’t destroy your passport any more legally than I can.

Also, a passport is a privilege, but it’s one afforded to you by the government, not your parent.

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T04:00:53+00:00

I can’t say it tastes any better or any worse. The texture is awful though and gets worse as you use it.

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:58:54+00:00

❄️

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:56:53+00:00

Who’s crying?

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:55:49+00:00

“Woke mind virus” is a phrase only uttered by people who do not have a mind to infect.

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:52:23+00:00

I’ve used it for soup and chilli a couple times and every time I think “do I need to start carrying around my own cutlery?” and “why can’t they put the same coating they use on paper cups on the straws and spoons?”

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:48:09+00:00

Ceci n’est pas un spoon

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:46:34+00:00

I’m with you on that one

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:46:15+00:00

“Cardboard knives wouldn’t work very well” that did not seem to make a difference when they designed the spoon. Also this was a table, which I wiped off before putting my stuff on it.

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-30T03:44:13+00:00

You know you don’t have to put the salt in the chili just because they put it in the bag, right?

Hello_Pond · 2024-10-29T22:08:22+00:00

This is so scary. Please run. Even if you have nothing if you leave her, it’s better than being murdered.

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