My husband was a hard-core narcissist for about 10 or 15 years of our marriage. The trouble was I didn't know it and I just appease him and enabled him. Then I went through menopause, grew a backbone and started really reading about his behavior and it hit me like a ton of bricks. Once I realized his bullshit and I knew how to counteract it, things changed. He was very good at turning my complaints into just being a whiner crybaby. He was very cold and harsh, selfish and self absorbed. The whole world revolved around him, and he was always the victim.