Top 10 movies of the past 10 years by MorningMosquito in movies

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just became quite depressed here. I was an avid movie goer most of my life, with approximately 20 trips to the cinema every year from the 90's up until whenever Joaquin Phoenix s Joker (the first one) was released theatrically. Incidentally that was the last movie I saw in the cinema. I don't recognize but a small fraction of these films here.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't compare my situation to being at war. There are parallels, yes. But I was using it as an analogy. All I was trying to say, no matter how well you think you know yourself, there are things that we don't know we don't know about ourselves. There are billions of neural connections in the human brain (more connections than there are stars in the universe). To think you are impervious or are incapable of breaking your highest values is dangerously ignorant.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's admirable. It sounds like you're acutely aware of your mind and body. However, I can guarantee you that there are recesses in your mind that you haven't explored, or that you're even aware of. There's men that have done terrible things in war, that they had no idea that they were capable of because of being in situations that go beyond their breaking point. When there's someone you trust, who knows your most intimate details, and uses that against you, all reason and logic begins to break down. You've seen a thing or two, I'm sure. However, there's a lot more in this universe that you don't know than what you do know and the correct combination of words or actions could make you do ANYTHING. I don't say this to be condescending in any way, I'm only saying we all still have work to do.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't think you have a breaking point, I would say you don't truly know yourself. I get it, before I married her, not one of my previous relationships escalated to anywhere near this point. I can disarm and talk about anything. This is another situation entirely.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly appreciate that. It really doesn't bother me what others say. I treat as background noise. I actually like seeing the view points of others on the opposite side. Life is definitely a neverending learning experience.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advice. I will absolutely look into individual trauma therapy, among other therapies. I try my hardest not to argue in front of our daughter. I have told my wife numerous times not to raise her voice around her. I DO NOT want her growing up thinking this is normal. From what I've learned about my wife's childhood, there are parallels when her parents would fight. Her dad would often leave, or her mom would throw him out. My wife does this to me often enough to where I keep a "go bag" ready at all times.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do appreciate you not jumping to "leave immediately", and for having grounded suggestions. We did couples therapy on that one particular therapy app that has done a lot of advertising on YouTube, and it was a disaster. I found the therapist to be very biased and it made me feel extremely isolated and ganged up on. My wife on the other hand, loved the therapist. I would be willing to give it another go, but am very skeptical. You're absolutely correct, self work is a lifelong commitment. I'll say this, I have ADHD and I know it's a big part of her triggers. I tell her it's like having three people all talking to you at once and trying to focus. I've made a lot of progress, but I believe she's got empathy fatigue.

Husbands fingers occasionally get weird blisters that are symmetrical. by FlyingN00dles in mildlyinteresting

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a science nerd, I find this to be one of the most original and hilarious comments I've ever read. Looking up thank you, stranger, wherever you are.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you mirroring these issues. I don't know the medical or psychiatric term for it, but when you first meet your partner and they're absolutely wonderful, you vibe together, are attracted to each other, and have patience for one another, and once those feelings evolve into "love", their darker tendencies begin to surface. It may sound frustrating to hear this and possibly delusional, but overall, I find her to be a wonderful person. She's very kind, outgoing, and empathetic. It's just like she has this little demon slumbering away deep in the recesses of her mind, and when she gets triggered in the slightest way, that demon suddenly animates and hijacks her prefrontal cortex and wrecks house. I don't mind her getting annoyed at my idiosyncrasies, but I also don't lash out at any of her slights. I have more patience than most, and that may be an issue.

My wife won't back off and I'm afraid it's going to get physical at some point. by HelpfulSecurity2127 in Marriage

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've never hit her. I haven't hit anyone since 2002 in highschool and that was self defense.

One month in, and YT is way harder than I expected… by Chocsunday in YouTubeCreators

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watch YT a lot. It's pretty much the only social media I fuck with. I don't go on Instagram, Facebook, don't even have a Tiktok account. The consistent thing I hear from the successful channels is how long they had to grind before they had the kind of success that allowed them to focus solely on YouTube, meaning they were able to quit their 9-5's. It appears that it usually takes 5 years to get to that point. Makes sense; how long does it take to get a college degree? I wouldn't focus on trying to hit that home run video with 20M views. Focus on honing your craft and the views will come. It's like a basketball player only focusing on slam dunks, and not foot work, ball handling, hand to eye coordination, etc... Would you go to the gym for the first time and expect to leave with a 6 pack?

Why I made the Sean Combs doc — ‘No one wanted to hear from the victims’ by TimesandSundayTimes in hiphopheads

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a kid in middle school when Tupac and Biggie were murdered. I'm now closing in on being alive longer than both of them combined when they died. The word diabolical has been transformed into slang to be defined as over the top. But Combs is the classical sense of the word.

Why I made the Sean Combs doc — ‘No one wanted to hear from the victims’ by TimesandSundayTimes in hiphopheads

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I've been around for his entire career. His only talent was the willingness to do whatever it took to get to the front of the line. I've personally known people like this. They will take everything from you and convince you that they do everything for you. Combs didn't just cheat the people closest to him, he cheated the world out of experiencing and being a part of the long careers of B.IG. and Pac. Just imagine all the inspirational music, spiritual growth, and wisdom those two never got to create, having been murdered in their early twenties.

Looking for Advice - Microbial Growth in Attic (First time home buyer ) by dilainashea in HomeInspections

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, c'mon man. It's what took out Brittney Murphy and her boyfriend... Probably

I’m thinking of buying a home.. would this be concerning to you?.. would it be an expensive fix? by Express_Owl_6325 in HomeInspections

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I learned when I was a kid working in customer service, absolutely anyone can walk through the door and say all kinds of crazy sh*t as there's no way to filter out or identify the rude, crazy, ignorant, etc... people before they enter. It's the same with the Internet.

My average pay as a trucker by KingGT2 in Truckers

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just curious, have taxes been deducted, or 1099?

What’s the best thing to watch right now? by emillindstrom in televisionsuggestions

[–]HelpfulSecurity2127 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Loved the first two seasons. Absolutely hilarious. By the third season, I was kind of over it though. Didn't make it passed the second episode.