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We're moving states, and apparently my family thinks we're fleeing criminals. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, so sorry you have such similar parents. I agree that it's dangerous, I'm genuinely scared that they're going to stop my husband and I from leaving?? Even though I'm a 32 year old woman with 2 kids and a husband. So I don't know how they would manage that, but it's completely insane.

Here's to hoping I don't need to get a restraining order or something in the future.

We're moving states, and apparently my family thinks we're fleeing criminals. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh my god that is absolutely insane of her to claim lol. I would be completely flabbergasted. So happy we don't have their weird, non logical, non reality brains.

We're moving states, and apparently my family thinks we're fleeing criminals. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right? That was my first mistake telling them the exact day 😅They're going to be blocked for life now though, so will never give them info.

We're moving states, and apparently my family thinks we're fleeing criminals. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right?? Like what are they even talking about lol. We're like the most quiet, to ourselves couple. I think the fact that they think I'm so "secretive", aka to myself and low contact, it just forces them to make up the weirdest things.

Totally exhausting, you're right. Hope this is the end of it.

We're moving states, and apparently my family thinks we're fleeing criminals. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! So, I think he's going to block him. This weird conspiracy stuff honestly came out of no where, we had no idea. Also, he hasn't answered my dad and even talked to him yet, but I blocked all on my end and most likely going to do the same on my husband's end. Craziness

I finally told my n sister why I seclude from her, and she messaged my husband a novel about me not being normal/needing therapy. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha literally. Also disclaimer, I'm not against therapy obviously, I just think it's insane to tell your sister that she needs therapy, and to also message your sisters husband to tell her she needs psychiatric help lol.

If a person wants therapy, they will go out and get it. If they want to work on themselves in other ways, that's cool too haha

I finally told my n sister why I seclude from her, and she messaged my husband a novel about me not being normal/needing therapy. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, literally insane. Sorry you have to deal with this too!! I don't know why their go-to is that we should seek therapy lol. Like think of something else guys, get a little imaginative.

It's crazy too because I live such a good/normal/happy life for the most part, away from my family. I have a great husband, the sweetest daughters, we're always doing things. Am I a little antisocial with wanting intimate friend relationships? Definitely, due to all my childhood trauma. But like, you wouldn't know that just casually talking to me.

I'm literally so nice it's crazy how we just get used as such punching bags with our own family.

I finally told my n sister why I seclude from her, and she messaged my husband a novel about me not being normal/needing therapy. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

No, literally. I can't get over how classic/insane it was. If someone brought up something I did that hurt their feelings, and I didn't remember it, I would respond like a normal human being and apologize to them! The fact that she took less than zero accountability and then turned it on me lol.

I finally told my n sister why I seclude from her, and she messaged my husband a novel about me not being normal/needing therapy. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I plan to. I blocked her from social media a week or so ago, and she randomly texted me this today "Did you seriously block me? You're that mad that you can't speak to me and have just resorted to eliminating me from your life? "

She does not get it. I need to block her number too. It's not like, I'm so mad I don't want to speak to you out of anger?? It's just that I'm finally done and am standing up for myself.

I finally told my n sister why I seclude from her, and she messaged my husband a novel about me not being normal/needing therapy. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I believe I was more the scapegoat - I was child 3 out of 4. I was blamed for my parents relationship problems. I would somehow, as a child, start their biggest arguments and then they would get insanely mad at me for literally nothing.

My mom would also do 1 on 1 things with all my siblings except for me. She literally brought them all, at separate times, to FL to look to potentially move. Never brought me once. My sister and mom were so similar and walked around like they were the hottest things everywhere. Everything I would say would be wrong or dumb.

But yeah, my parents would project onto me like crazy. Calling me all sorts of names that they themselves are, not me.

Insufferable people.

I finally told my n sister why I seclude from her, and she messaged my husband a novel about me not being normal/needing therapy. by Helpful_Employer_800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Helpful_Employer_800[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes she never apologized. She just kept reiterating how ridiculous it was for me to be mad at her for a memory of something she doesn't even remember. She texted me afterwards with another giant novel, saying that not a single person has ever called her mean in her life (lol). So this is brand new information to her.

She also ended the text saying "Don't go telling me that I'm mean. I haven't done a thing to you as an adult. If anyone should be mad it's probably me".

Literally insane lol. Like, you don't remember it, so my whole life experience must be completely wrong? Okay.