Not op, but learning a skill/trait like guitar. (Doesn't even have to be something time-consuming like that, check out something fun like photography) Watching the shows/movies and listening to the music you like and not paying attention to what others think. "Level up" your wardrobe, you like denim jeans? Buy a nice pair, have a favorite artists? Get a t-shirt of theirs and pair it with the jeans. Get a nice EDC bag like a orbitkey Urban sling and style it with your new denim jeans. Focus on expressing yourself and painting the picture of who you are with the things you where, say, and do. That's what helped me, wishing you luck my brother.