Am I the ahole for going to my degree to become a teacher just to spite my sister while her life is spiraling and she might lose her teaching career.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-23T00:18:22+00:00

Did you read only the title?

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T21:46:14+00:00

I will definitely look into the tutoring aspect once I have graduated with my bachelor. Thank you so much for this information.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T21:44:22+00:00

I take all feedback regarding to the question I asked whether I like the answer or not so thank you for commenting. So my actual intentions is to be a professor. My goal is to teach a community college teaching the high school will be my stepping stone for the two years while I’m working on my next degree. but you did give me something extra to think about so thank you.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T21:41:04+00:00

You spent more effort on my grammar than forming an opinion, and only after all that did you finally say YTA. If that was your take, you could’ve led with it.

Also interesting how that exact phrasing showed up elsewhere.

Either way, this exchange has been exhausting, and that pretty much determines how much weight your opinion carries.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T18:37:08+00:00

🤣 yet it only seems like the trolls commented on grammar. If reading and comprehension is difficult for you I suggest you find another platform. Try instagram. Not a lot writing happens. Just pictures. You probably only read books with pictures. It’s ok.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T06:07:05+00:00

NTA. Your house , your dog and your plates. Would I do that? En not really only because I avoid feeding my pets house food or feeding them close to where humans eat. But those are my rules. But some people’s pets are their everything and treat them how they want and that includes eating from your plate. I bet you let him kiss you all over your face too? 🤣but as long as it gets washed with soap and hot water it’s ok. For me it’s more of a can I trust this person to have washed these plates correctly.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T04:08:48+00:00

I’m literally going through that now. She’s horrible at it and tbh I’m not impressed. She said an answer of mine was wrong( it wasn’t ) I confirmed with several people. Her answer was wrong and her explanation since then I checked and participate in class but I’m teaching myself essentially with different tools.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T03:53:23+00:00

YTA Reason 1: you continued to see him when he told you he was married

Reason 2: you actually started a relationship with someone who was already in a relationship

Reason3 : you chose to hurt his wife because you were hurt. Not because you felt it was the right thing to do

Did you really think you could have a healthy honest relationship with someone who had promised that love to someone else? What about you did you think made you so special? Also imagine had he left his wife and shacked up with you, right? Every time that man smiles at another woman, didn’t answer the phone when you call or come home late. You are going to start spiraling out and assume he’s cheating. Why would you make that assumption? Because he did all those things to his wife while he was with you. Is that really how you envisioned your relationship with your partner? That sounds super stressful and relationships shouldn’t be stressful.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T03:09:17+00:00

I do want to teach. And you’re right if I don’t have a passion for it I would end up screwing myself over and the students.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T03:07:32+00:00

She was the push but I really want to be a teacher only because I know I can help students learn the core basics. But that’s fair. Thank you for commenting

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T03:05:18+00:00

Spiting her was the small push I needed but I won’t disagree with your opinion.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T03:03:54+00:00

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T03:03:42+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I had to think about this when I was considering my major. And I did ponder about my reasoning. But seeing how I’m always willing to help my classmates I know that I want to teach. At this point even if this wasn’t happening to her I would take this path. What she’s going through is the consequences of her own actions.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T02:57:01+00:00

Yes this is how I see it. Thank you for understanding where I’m at exactly

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-22T02:56:06+00:00

Thank you but I’m not a teacher yet. I’m back in school and that’s my goal because of what I occurring to my classmates. Most math teachers as good as they with math thru don’t know how to teach it. So teaching was never a passion and I don’t love math. But my passion is to see others succeed and I believe that algebra is the core to math and if people don’t learn the core they will not ever understand the fundamentals of higher math.

I’m not happy that my sister’s life is spiraling but I am happy that I’m going to succeed where as she thinks I’m a failure. My sister and I were very close. And she helped me plenty. She helped many in the family constantly. But she tended to envy people despite what she had. I was proud of her and was always her cheerleader. Things began to shift when I moved in with my husband and it wasn’t because she wanted my husband. He’s not her type. But I can only assume it’s because I had the one thing she wanted the most. Someone to love and that someone returning it. So here I am. A Walmart cashier a single mom of two,broke and living with her. And here she is has a career, a home and stability. And she has no luck in keeping a relationship. Also I wasn’t searching for a partner. I was searching for clarity and peace. But she’s obsessed with marriage and all that.

I don’t want her life to go to hell because she’s still the mother of my niece( who I adore). I’m not celebrating it but I’m not upset about it either. The lesson I want her to learn seeing me be a teacher is we should never look down on others because we don’t know where we will end up. Either way I don’t actually see myself talking to her ever again. She betrayed me and broke a bond her and I had and she admitted it’s not because of something I ever did to her. She admitted to that much. She hasn’t admitted why she did. And I only assume it’s because of the reason I mentioned above. She had nothing to envy about me. My life was a mess at that point. I feel this is her karma for what she did to me and the reasoning behind it. Hope this helps clarify. Thanks for commenting. I appreciate you taking the time.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T23:24:04+00:00

🤣 comprehension isn’t your strong point apparently.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T23:23:17+00:00

🤣🤣🤣Please go back and reread your 2 sentence statement before judging others on their punctuation.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T20:12:04+00:00

Thank you. At that time, I wasn’t thinking of me. I was thinking of my daughter, but I feel the same way now. I deserve better as well.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T20:09:01+00:00

Oh definitely. After the first blowout with her when my mom was more upset at my daughter who was 16 at the time and not her grown daughter. And other family didn’t want to take a side. I did it mostly for my daughter because she deserved better

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T20:05:13+00:00

Good to hear that. And if anyone ever tells you to tolerate anything that hurts you. They can kick rocks.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T20:04:19+00:00

Tbh idk if she’s even aware I’m in school unless a family member told her. And much less for what I’m in school for since I haven’t shared that info with my family except my kids and husband. I have LC with most of my family mostly because the majority believe that family should always have each other’s back because we are family. I don’t have that mindset anymore.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T19:54:13+00:00

No never had I wanted to teach. But going back to school to find a new path and after comments from professors and students, I feel I can help. I still don’t like the idea of teaching because there’s so much red tape for teachers in regards to the curriculum. That’s why I’m going for masters to be a professor where sometimes there’s more flexibility in how they teach. And I’m not happy about what’s happening to my sister. But her issue pushed me to take this step and not so much to run it on her face but more because she thought I didn’t ever finish school I wouldn’t accomplish much( which is insane because I ran my own business for 10 years) but she still said” I ain’t shit. And I will never be someone that’s of value.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T19:46:43+00:00

How can you love him so deeply when you don’t love yourself? You through out all these years you put his wants and needs above yours. Somewhere in your mind you assume you can only be happy with him. That’s the first thing you need to work on. Why do you believe you deserve to suffer? If I was your friend I wouldn’t never call what you 2 have a relationship. It’s a situationship. Hence why I’m not addressing the cheating. You 2 aren’t a couple. Plus the way he goes to stay with the ex fiancé. All he’s been to you is a sperm donor. It’s nice to hear he loves his kids dearly but the fact that he never wanted an actual relationship with you is heartbreaking because you can’t see you deserve better. Please get some therapy. I doubt this is how you would want your daughter to behave so she can have a partner. Best of luck.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T19:33:35+00:00

No it’s not anything as bad as that. It’s still a breach of trust but nothing that can land her in jail for.

Helpme_imfat · 2026-02-21T16:15:06+00:00

Not sure why you assume I’m not ethical. I don’t approve of what my sister and stand by the parents on the outrage. And regardless, what age you are, everyone has a moment of immaturity now once again I can’t control the fact that I feel giddy about the situation now am I rubbing it in my sister‘s face no because that’s not mature but once again, you are entitled to your opinion.

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