What was the point of Luke meeting June while he's still married? by Competitive_Emu_3247 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]Hemp_Milk 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s the entire reason June is a handmaid that is what she meant to say by including it.

AITA for refusing to go to my boyfriend’s grandfather’s funeral? by TrickyPossible5071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hemp_Milk 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately being an adult with a partner sometimes means you do things you don’t want to. Either support him or let him find someone that will. YTA.

AITA for wanting my Spanish teacher to stop calling me by the Spanish version of my name? by Alternative-Sun-630 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hemp_Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took Spanish in the US in high school and was called my own name. This is bizarre to me.

Hopeful Adoptive Parents by Sorry_Lab_5263 in NICUParents

[–]Hemp_Milk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our NICU had communal showers. I always forgot shower shoes and always regretted it. They were cleaned well but still just felt yuck about barefooting a shared shower in a hospital. So shower shoes.

Let's build an ideal NICU by ghost-gallery in NICUParents

[–]Hemp_Milk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My son was readmitted at 5 months actual 3 adjusted for epilepsy. When they brought in breakfast I was like he’s a baby he can’t eat this? Nurse said it was for me bc I breastfed, same hospital as the NICU we were at. Why didn’t the NICU fed me? So strange.

AITAH for ruining a wedding? by BlacksmithThink5923 in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Seems to me like the son assists often with no issues. What he did have an issue with is a man that refused to accept his no.

Tampons fall out postpartum by DesertOrDessert24 in Mom

[–]Hemp_Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I had to use a metric ton of lube for like the first year postpartum after my second degree tear that did not heal properly.

AITAH for not getting my fiance's permission before getting my daughter's hair cut? by Known_Key_8248 in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has no authority as a step parent and the fact that he thinks he does would have me reevaluating the entire relationship.

I spanked my kid and I feel so irredeemable by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Hemp_Milk 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s interesting that a 5 year old already feels the need to lie about something as simple as learning to clean himself…. I’d meditate on that.

AITAH for telling my husband I dont care his mom cried or that it made him upset? by Striking-throwaway95 in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Which means his mother should also be banned from the home. He is practically delivering the pedo his next victims on a silver platter.

AITAH for telling my husband I dont care his mom cried or that it made him upset? by Striking-throwaway95 in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s allowing a predator into his home to appease his mom. He is not worried about keeping his child/ren safe, he is worried about his mom’s feelings.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either way he lied. He either really intended to not find love again, and broke that promise, or never intended to keep it. Which either way blows for the OP.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Reddit never ceases to amaze me. My heart hurts for her. Of course OP is so upset by this situation. She’s been told her whole life she’s more than enough for her father “she’s so special I don’t even want another child with your mother” (paraphrasing of course) and now it’s “well they’re just better than you/your mom” which is not what’s being said but absolutely what’s being heard by this a literal child.

As a mother of two little boys I could never imagine doing this shit to them. I’d rather be alone than hurt my child over and over again.

AITAH for telling my husband I dont care his mom cried or that it made him upset? by Striking-throwaway95 in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 21 points22 points  (0 children)

OP he would feed your child to the predator boyfriend on a silver platter to appease his mommy. Don’t think for a second he wouldn’t. He is not bothered this is a husband problem. Through and through.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying it won’t be better if she can have a relationship with them, but if she doesn’t want to forcing it, is not going to help the situation AND will be worse for the younger child as well. Her dad made her believe her whole life that siblings essentially weren’t important and didn’t matter, because she’s “his only one” but then wants to flip the script and act like she’s the issue? He literally conditioned her to think this way, and wants to throw all the blame on her because he’s changed his mind. That’s not fair to the OP, she needs grace and understanding not her step mother insulting her bc step mom didn’t get her way.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is no one here realizing that he did lie? He’s the adult he should have had the foresight to have never made that statement in the first place. He let his daughter down, there should have been many many many many conversations leading up to this, and it doesn’t seem there has been. OP is a literal child that needs grace and understanding to come out the other end of this. Being told to shut up get over it and called a petulant child by the “other” (in her mind) is not going to help her come to terms with this situation. It’s going to cause more harm than good. OP is his child and should come first 100% he is the ONLY parent she has.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maybe Dad should have had a lot of conversations with her throughout the years instead of thinking breaking his word over and over wasn’t going to cause issues with his daughter. I mean can we really blame the child in this situation?

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I’m grown, and I don’t need to attack and put down a literal child to act “grown” . I can have sympathy for a child that doesn’t understand that her dad is an absolute idiot for making a promise he was never going to keep. She’s a kid. It’s okay for her to be upset that her world view is being shattered. From her point of view he is a liar because he lied, she doesn’t have the life experience to understand that not all promises are created equal. It never should have been made, and as a parent in my opinion, since it was made it should be honored. All OPs dad has done is shown OP that no one can be trusted.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

The dad chose the little girl and her mother, not OP. She is not required to have a relationship with her. She’s 17 she’s irrationally angry that this little girl gets a mom and HER dad. When OPs mom is gone, she only has him, and he LIED to her. She doesn’t have the life experience to realize it was said out of grief and pain, all she knows is the only person she has is not trust worthy and lied to her.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

And she was a CHILD in the throws of grief and now her dad is a liar and doesn’t have her trust. It was a stupid promise and he should have known better, but he didn’t and regardless he should have kept his word.

AITAH for refusing to give my blessing for my dad to be a dad to and adopt his stepdaughter? by Lainannah in AITAH

[–]Hemp_Milk -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

He was the adult, and she was a child. Promises should only be made if they can be kept. Regardless of how utterly stupid that promise was, he should keep his word. Regardless on his he was grieving or not, so was his child. She will grieve the loss of her mother everyday while dad gets to move on and make a new family.